| 12/17/2013 8:52:46 AM |
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mr_beachedwhale
Holly Ridge, NC
51, joined Nov. 2013
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The pain of loss will diminish with time. But the love will probably never go-away, but will become much more manageable with time. I know that I will always love my ex (5 years gone), but it is in the back ground and doesn't consume my thoughts. Limit your contact with her, and focus on today, not the past. Good Luck!
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| 12/23/2013 12:53:37 AM |
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deejai24
Union City, GA
39, joined Jun. 2013
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I hope so,because I'm the one who wanted the divorce,so it was kind of hard for me,you know it kind of feels like I lost my life,in a way i did because I don't have my wife and kids anymore…with me that is.
Even though i can see them whenever i want,its nothing like waking up too family.
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| 12/26/2013 10:06:33 PM |
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eurogal1973
Macungie, PA
44, joined Dec. 2013
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I recommend Divorcecare at your local church. It's such a great support group. It will help you go through the grieving stages of divorce. Check out the website divorcecare.org to see which local church is offering. I experienced that group & loved it.
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| 1/1/2014 6:56:54 PM |
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luckynite1
Morrison, CO
33, joined Sep. 2013
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move on OP
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| 2/8/2014 8:51:05 PM |
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sweetate2
Albion, IN
68, joined Jul. 2013
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The pain to me is no different then if someone you loved dies.... Each person has to figure out for themselves how long it shall take.... It is a loss.....
I don't think it goes away, I think other things become more important.... I remember my marriage... why not it was a person I loved... Though after all these years when I see him now somewhere, I think whew so glad that is over lol
You will see someone that makes you feel happy and all of a sudden and you'll laugh and realize you have moved on...
My problem is men that who have moved on too soon or men who are looking for her in someone new.....please I know all this does is hurt and never works
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| 2/9/2014 12:12:17 PM |
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zimzane2
High Point, NC
57, joined Jan. 2013
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In time.
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| 2/28/2014 6:24:03 PM |
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gussgrace1
Sunnyvale, CA
57, joined Aug. 2013
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YES AND NO
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| 3/1/2014 6:29:34 PM |
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crewcab6
Elkridge, MD
37, joined Dec. 2013
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This is a hard thing to deal with. Being a guy is the first problem...type in "divorce, help"first thing you get is women's divorce ...like 3 Google pages of that.
There is a saying "you never fall out of love, you either never were or always will" took me a while to get it but I do. I been to all the groups and even there you won't be happy till you let it go yourself! I been doing the divorce thing now for 4+years and got to say it does take time and only with time will things be ok.
Don't let god be the bad guy...or whatever your belief its not his fault your marriage ended ..but with acceptance that it is done and forgiving yourself then you will be able to move on.
Figure out that saying ..then find your self a quiet rock to decide how you want your "second chance" to be
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| 3/4/2014 9:10:40 PM |
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eurogal1973
Macungie, PA
44, joined Dec. 2013
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It will get easier, Sweety. What helped me was a support group at church called DivorceCare. Check the website divorcecare.org for local groups near you. I pray for healing & restoration of your heart. <3
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| 3/8/2014 8:17:41 PM |
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countryboy4279
Brighton, CO
39, joined Oct. 2013
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Like several other people on here, I went through the Divorce Care 13-week program. It's a Bible-based program, so being a non-Christian, there were parts of it that I couldn't take too literally, but if you keep an open mind, there is a lot of good information. I've never been able to find a divorce support group that wasn't church-based.
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| 3/8/2014 11:32:59 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
62, joined Aug. 2011
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It does. Focus on you. That person chose to leave. If they cared about you, they would have stayed. Let the world eat that selfish person up.
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| 3/11/2014 12:56:50 PM |
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doubletrouble77
Crete, IL
40, joined May. 2011
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No
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| 4/6/2014 10:21:19 AM |
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elusiveunicorn
Birmingham, AL
45, joined Jan. 2014
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Depression makes you fixate on someone that DOES NOT CARE that you HURT.
The Fix...well, you need to get your brain to balance itself out and get happy. Reliv (now, fiberstore and innergize) in about three months levels you out, to where you just think normal and makes you think clearly, or you can run for Adderall and be all productive and ocd on something or someone else that appreciates and wants your LOVE and HEART.
I just learned to replace all that negative, evil craptastical nonsense that got dished out with something that is wonderful and good and blasts out the dark in your life. It truly works. It's just a mental concept that you jump onto and move forward and stop looking back. She doesn't...stop letting the "What could have been's" and "Why's" steal precious time. Move forward and jump back into life.
Best Wishes...Big Smile... - Mo.
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| 4/6/2014 12:24:28 PM |
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larena40
Phoenix, AZ
45, joined Jan. 2014
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Cause I need it to.
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| 4/6/2014 6:48:01 PM |
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larena40
Phoenix, AZ
45, joined Jan. 2014
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I just need the pain to go away. I don't want a new relationship.
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| 4/6/2014 9:17:37 PM |
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ginnae
Saint Cloud, MN
43, joined Mar. 2014
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You'll get over her, the hard part is finding someone that want a real relationship.
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| 4/9/2014 1:31:14 AM |
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cowboyhippy
San Antonio, TX
54, joined Jul. 2013
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No
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| 4/21/2014 8:11:29 PM |
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tyler74171
Mauldin, SC
43, joined Jul. 2013
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Yes but the wonderment as the days turn into years do come back now and then..
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| 4/22/2014 10:43:40 AM |
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singlelifesweet
Waterford, CT
60, joined May. 2012
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Mine was started by him, we had an eight year old that was crushed and I was crushed too. He came back two weeks later saying it was the worst mistake of his life. We went to counseling and I knew within the first session I now made the biggest mistake of my life. I guess letting you know therapy wouldn't work when your heart isn't in it anyway is what I'm trying to tell all the people that wanted to try and work it out.
I left five years later and in the beginning it was hard because we were together 30 years, married for 25. Old habit is what I felt like it was. It took about three years to drop it completely but I really never think about him. It's like a whole different lifetime for me. Chin up things get better. . .
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| 4/25/2014 9:52:21 PM |
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industdesigner1
Bronx, NY
37, joined Mar. 2014
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If there was love. It will never go away. Like a nail in your brain. The memories she erased so easy will never banish from your brain.
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| 6/20/2014 10:34:50 PM |
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hotpepp1
Saint Paul, MN
49, joined Aug. 2013
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Everything is temporary. Yes you will get over it.. date when their are no more tears.. Good luck you will find some one special..
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| 6/27/2014 10:07:05 AM |
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smileforme001
Belle Glade, FL
52, joined Apr. 2014
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Only time heals all wounds.
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| 7/30/2014 9:35:12 AM |
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raven5401
Houston, TX
51, joined Jan. 2010
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It does, but it depends on your emotional strength, it will ache, but this is true of all wounds.
So don't feel sorry, move on there usually is someone for you! Have faith and believe in yourself.
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| 7/30/2014 7:40:42 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
66, joined Oct. 2010
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If you don't take some kind of control over how you look at things and what you allow yourself to dwell upon, I am sorry to report, your pain can go on for a very long time.
You have more power than you may believe. I'm sure you are tired of hearing that you need to quit thinking about the past, and that you need to think about the future.
But, it is true. For you, thinking about the past is considered stinking thinking. So when you find yourself stinking thinking- you need to stop and turn it around to positive thinking. You have to take control of your thinking. You are in charge.
Anytime you are ready friend! Good luck!
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| 8/3/2014 4:59:40 AM |
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sassy1188
Verbena, AL
35, joined Jul. 2014
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I've been divorced 5 years now it hurts but my life turn out better than ever someone well come along and you will forget about her trust me love comes and goes she want meant for you BC love would never leave
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| 8/3/2014 4:59:44 AM |
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sassy1188
Verbena, AL
35, joined Jul. 2014
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I've been divorced 5 years now it hurts but my life turn out better than ever someone well come along and you will forget about her trust me love comes andes goes she want meant for you BC love would never leave
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| 10/9/2014 10:20:42 AM |
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ohmy303
Colorado Springs, CO
39, joined Sep. 2014
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Yes but you have to learn to be happy being by ur self and get over being alone. And don't make something mean something it's not
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| 10/25/2014 11:22:49 AM |
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naughtybynatur2
Marrero, LA
47, joined Aug. 2014
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Yes in time
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| 2/20/2015 4:36:09 AM |
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a_new_me_71
Arkadelphia, AR
46, joined Dec. 2014
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It takes time but, it does...
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