Would You Say Anything?

6/24/2017 12:37:20 PM	Would You Say Anything?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	If a friend or a family member starting dating someone you knew wasn't right for them, or you knew something bad about, would you tell them? Would you get the evidence to convince them? Would you keep silent and just wait it out? If you told them, would you keep telling them until they did what you thought they should? Or one time and quiet from then out? Would you think "they're an adult and can take care of themselves"? Or would you feel honor-bound to give them information? Have you ever done it? Either told them or consciously decided not to? How'd it turn out? [Edited 6/24/2017 12:40:25 PM ] Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
6/24/2017 12:42:32 PM	Would You Say Anything?
mylegsarecold Gainesville, FL 55, joined May. 2011	That's just way too many questions for a Saturday. I would do the one time tell them thing. They, of course, wouldn't listen to me. I would then sit back and wait, then laugh when the time came.
6/24/2017 12:44:31 PM	Would You Say Anything?
gotheon123 Apex, NC 49, joined Jul. 2013	Whether I think they're right for each other or not, unless they ask me for my opinion it's none of my business. Now if I know something truly bad about the person and I'm sure of what I know, then I will offer up what I know and let them decide. I will not continue to warn them.... their life, their choice. I will say this I have one girlfriend who is always going for the wrong man for her(in my opinion and she agrees) I always give her shit about who she is dating, but I usually feel worse for the poor guy she's dating.
6/24/2017 12:44:53 PM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	I would tell them what I thought and leave it at that. Yes I have and I wouldn't like for someone to tell me later...
6/24/2017 12:45:30 PM	Would You Say Anything?
yetskimama Walterboro, SC 67, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from lovethelake17: If a friend or a family member starting dating someone you knew wasn't right for them, or you knew something bad about, would you tell them? Would you get the evidence to convince them? Would you keep silent and just wait it out? If you told them, would you keep telling them until they did what you thought they should? Or one time and quiet from then out? Would you think "they're an adult and can take care of themselves"? Or would you feel honor-bound to give them information? Have you ever done it? Either told them or consciously decided not to? How'd it turn out?[/quote yes I have to a very close friend of mine, she got ticked off and went on dating that man, she married him and it's unhappy as Heck... Now she's blaming me for not stopping her You must be very close to the person trying to help, but don't be upset if it doesn't work::
6/24/2017 12:46:56 PM	Would You Say Anything?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	It is a lot of questions. I'm trying to avoid cleaning my house, until it's too hot to, and then I'll have an excuse for why I'm not. (My AC is really struggling against this heat we're having.)
6/24/2017 12:47:58 PM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	Ahh I can relate Lake. We had a heatwave here and it was horrid. Ask lots of questions
6/24/2017 12:51:26 PM	Would You Say Anything?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	I kind of lean towards the one time and quiet thing, myself. And waiting 'til I'm asked what I think--tempering it with my motivation for telling them. Do I just not like him or do I really think he's wrong for her. I was going to post on FB a pic of my dashboard. It registered 120 degrees the other day. It's been 111 to 120 for the last week and no real end in sight. [Edited 6/24/2017 12:52:51 PM ]
6/24/2017 12:58:42 PM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	I think of it like this they introduce you to them because they want to know what you think. To me it's saying what you think. Ouchies I thought 89.9f was bad enough and we don't generally have air conditioning.
6/24/2017 1:09:52 PM	Would You Say Anything?
cheep_trick Herndon, VA 49, joined Mar. 2017	Remaining neutral, is best policy.
6/24/2017 1:13:41 PM	Would You Say Anything?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	It's all relative. This is the desert, so high heat is usual, though this is higher than normal. But we acclimate to the temps and climate we're in, so 90 degrees is just as hot in one climate as 120 is to mine. *** If your friend's BF/GF hit on you, would you tell your friend?
6/24/2017 1:14:55 PM	Would You Say Anything?
iam_resurrected Reno, NV 46, joined Jul. 2014	how bad [is not right for them], get your feelings hurt or the person is psychotic and could bring physical harm outside mental? the feelings part is best to let someone figure it out on their own. the danger part is best if you go to the person they are dating, and tell them what you think along with the, "and if they cross the line you shall be there waiting on them."
6/24/2017 1:44:32 PM	Would You Say Anything?
sarahgoldsmith Chantilly, VA 46, joined Jan. 2014	"Would you say anything?" Oh, definitely I would tell my friend if I think the woman is using him. My friend Mike was having sex with this woman he thought is a petroleum engineer. I've took one look at her & the way she talks, & I knew right away that she wasn't a petroleum engineer. I've looked at that elderly woman & I thought there is no way this woman can handle chemistry, physics & calculus. No way she is an engineer. So I've told Mike, & he was defending her at first. Mike: "LOL She really is an engineer, Sarah. She picked me up from work one time & she was very well put together. She was very well dressed." Look at the way she talks, her mind is very simple. She doesn't know anything about science, but she is claiming to be a petroleum engineer. Look at the time period she is from? Women in her age group tend to say they got rich from being in the oil business. She looks like she can handle calculus, right, Mike? Then it sinks in, he finally believed that he got suckered by an elderly old lady. That's a pretty conniving way to act. Pretending to be a petroleum engineer to get young guys to sleep with you. That's very manipulative. Some women would go to such extreme length to get men to sleep with them. It's because this woman is hard to look at. No man would be willing to touch her. Mike was the only one willing to touch her because he thought he was getting himself a petroleum engineer. "A petroleum engineer." Pftt....!!! Hahaha!!!! That's kind of a very bold & daring claim, considering she doesn't know anything about science. She figured the people she is lying to doesn't know anything, do it will be very easy to trick them, & lie to them. She doesn't know anything either. The woman that is doing the lying is very old though. She is from an earlier time period from the past. She was born in the 1950's. In her days people like to claim they get rich from being in the oil business. It's not a young kid that is doing the lying. This is a very old lady that is doing all the lying, to get laid. To get young guys to sleep with her. It worked, my friend Mike slept with her. He had sex with her WILLINGLY. Hahaha! My friend Mike is very naive, very gullible, he is not very street smart. He got suckered by an old lady born in the 1950's. I told him straight up he is a sucker. He totally got suckered by an elderly old lady. Oh my gosh! LOL So if a man did this to a woman, all the women in here would be all over him, tearing him down, beating him up verbally. But since it's a woman doing this to a man, the women are giving her a free pass to manipulate a man like that. Why is it ok for a woman to do this to a man? But it's not ok for a man to do this to a woman? Where is the fairness in this case?
6/24/2017 1:50:19 PM	Would You Say Anything?
sarahgoldsmith Chantilly, VA 46, joined Jan. 2014	Do it very easy to trick them. Do = so Autocorrect LOL
6/24/2017 2:02:28 PM	Would You Say Anything?
stl1 Saint Louis, MO 63, joined Jun. 2007	Lake, I think the real question you need to ask is "Would you tell someone you're dating that you have swamp ass?"
6/24/2017 2:05:52 PM	Would You Say Anything?
sarahgoldsmith Chantilly, VA 46, joined Jan. 2014	I think driver should be with yetski. But I think he wants a young woman in her 40's. Yetski is mellow, I think she is good for driver. LOL Older women are more mellow & they will baby you more. Yetski will have a hot cooked meal for you every night, for dinner, driver. Isn't that the type of woman you want? And you are both the same religion, you're Catholics. I am catholic too. : ) Cham is too far away. LOL She is all the way from the land down under in Australia.
6/24/2017 2:06:12 PM	Would You Say Anything?
gdaddy47 Columbia, TN 70, joined Sep. 2009	Start the conversation like, "Oh is that the same person who got arrested for robbery?"
6/24/2017 2:07:03 PM	Would You Say Anything?
ms_Champagne AngualastoAustralian Capital Australia 97, joined Aug. 2016	If I felt they weren't 'right' for them I would say nothing, it is not my choice, 'cause obviously they see different things in the person they are dating.. but if it is something 'bad', I would tell them.. but leave up to them to decide... I be there in the end... @ Lake, I was in Nevada in summer but I was much further north from Henderson, (Winnemucca). I remember going to the 'Hot August Nights' in Reno (even quickly made myself a poodle skirt for the occasion).. but it was not unbearably hot and the nights were rather cool/cold. And the sand storms OMG.. could not be outside for those. (Spent Thanksgiving & Christmas in Winnemucca, I was there till Jan the next year, plenty of snow too)..
6/24/2017 2:10:01 PM	Would You Say Anything?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 45, joined Sep. 2014	I would warn one of my kids. I have warned friends. People really don't listen. Best just to be there for them when things fall apart.
6/24/2017 2:15:18 PM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	Would I tell my friend. Yes, because all relationships are built on trust and honesty. Without them it really is pointless.
6/24/2017 2:48:04 PM	Would You Say Anything?
yetskimama Walterboro, SC 67, joined Sep. 2011	@Goldie , you miss me don't you?????? BTW I'm catholic,
6/24/2017 2:52:15 PM	Would You Say Anything?
stl1 Saint Louis, MO 63, joined Jun. 2007	Don't you feel guilty for being on this site of sin and depravity, Yets? Bless you, my child. Btw, I'm a product of 12 years of Catholic education myself.
6/24/2017 2:54:40 PM	Would You Say Anything?
ms_Champagne AngualastoAustralian Capital Australia 97, joined Aug. 2016	Quote from sarahgoldsmith: ......... Cham is too far away. LOL She is all the way from the land down under in Australia. but who would you match me with?? just for fun... [Edited 6/24/2017 2:55:10 PM ]
6/24/2017 2:57:32 PM	Would You Say Anything?
yetskimama Walterboro, SC 67, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from ms_Champagne: but who would you match me with?? just for fun... Whoever it would be,,,,,No NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooo
6/24/2017 2:58:53 PM	Would You Say Anything?
ms_Champagne AngualastoAustralian Capital Australia 97, joined Aug. 2016	hahahah Yets...
6/24/2017 3:24:06 PM	Would You Say Anything?
stl1 Saint Louis, MO 63, joined Jun. 2007	Quote from ms_Champagne: but who would you match me with?? just for fun... Someone centrally located I hope!
6/24/2017 3:29:10 PM	Would You Say Anything?
sarahgoldsmith Chantilly, VA 46, joined Jan. 2014	I would match you up with no one in the forums, Cham. It's because most men are poor, they can't even afford to buy you dinner. I think your best bet is to browse through men's profiles & you approach them & ask them out, if you want to meet an American man. This is how my friends met their husbands. 1. He is a medical doctor. She is a college graduate with a history degree. They met on a blind date, through a dating website. They dated for 6 months then got married, had kids. It worked out for them because they were attracted to each other. And their personalities matched with each other. 2. He is a top executive at work, with 200 people working under him. He works for a tech firm. She has a college degree in marketing. They met a birthday party thrown by a friend that they both know. A friend of theirs has a birthday party, they were both invited. There were 50 people at the party but they found each other. They dated for awhile, got married & had kids. She approached him & asked him out on a date. 3. He has a business degree. She has an accounting degree. They met at college. They were in the same English class together. She approached him & asked him out. They dated for awhile, got married & had kids. Don't be afraid to approach men, Cham. It works out well for my girlfriends. If you see something you like, don't be afraid to go after it. I agree with archer that relationship should not take a lot of work. It works out for them (the 3 couples above) because they want to be in a relationship. They like the person they are in a relationship with. If you feel that relationship takes a lot of work, then that person is not right for you, if you have to work at it. You should want to be in a relationship & want to be with that person. You can be different from each other, but if you tolerate each other differences then you will be ok. --- The statement below has nothing to do with you, Cham. But this is what I think that archer wants from a woman. From archer's statements we can get an idea of what men want from women. I think archer wants a woman that is financially independent, not clingy, not narcistic, but she wants to be in a relationship. That's what I get from his posts on dating & relationship.
6/24/2017 3:44:11 PM	Would You Say Anything?
ms_Champagne AngualastoAustralian Capital Australia 97, joined Aug. 2016	Sarah.... I have met a few American men here in Australia... attended dinner at the US Embassy... and friends who held dinners with Embassy staff in attendance. A GF of mine met her American husband at a red light crossing, right in this city,.. and are married and living in South Carolina... with two kids. She tells me it is hard as his parents are VERY 'snobbish'. I think I will never ever meet anyone... but I am good with that..
6/24/2017 4:57:40 PM	Would You Say Anything?
sinceresammy Dayton, OH 62, joined Mar. 2014	If you truly care about the person and you are a good friend, you should carefully lay out your case once. Many people have ruined their lives with the wrong person some have even been murdered. You have to be close enough to the person, a good friend, for your information to be taken as credible.
6/24/2017 5:48:04 PM	Would You Say Anything?
M4mischief Grand Prairie, TX 100, joined May. 2016	Quote from cheep_trick: Remaining neutral, is best policy. This..... If I knew something bad about them and told them I think I would just be tainting their decision...everybody makes mistakes and it doesn't mean the person hasn't learned from it....its none of my business who dates who unless I am asked my opinion and even then its usually just about a particular situation...I would never be so bold as to think I know who is right for anybody except myself....
6/24/2017 5:49:07 PM	Would You Say Anything?
M4mischief Grand Prairie, TX 100, joined May. 2016	Quote from lovethelake17: It's all relative. This is the desert, so high heat is usual, though this is higher than normal. But we acclimate to the temps and climate we're in, so 90 degrees is just as hot in one climate as 120 is to mine. *** If your friend's BF/GF hit on you, would you tell your friend? Yes...I did...she didn't believe me...she believed him...sooooo ce lavie...at least I did my part and was honest....
6/24/2017 5:51:08 PM	Would You Say Anything?
rubyrose2015 Seagrove, NC 98, joined Sep. 2015	I wouldn't say anything. I tried to tell my sister something really bad once about her then husband. She just got mad at me and defended him.
6/24/2017 6:04:04 PM	Would You Say Anything?
playingindirt Eugene, OR 61, joined Mar. 2014	my sisters my brother and my son? yeah I'd tell them but what they do with it is their business. it's their lives and they know how they want to live it.
6/24/2017 6:07:38 PM	Would You Say Anything?
rightguyforu682 Lisle, IL 40, joined May. 2017	Op you really need to lose some weight.
6/24/2017 6:51:45 PM	Would You Say Anything?
Mercedes_3 New South Wales Australia 90, joined Jun. 2016	Quote from lovethelake17: If a friend or a family member starting dating someone you knew wasn't right for them, or you knew something bad about, would you tell them? Would you get the evidence to convince them? Would you keep silent and just wait it out? If you told them, would you keep telling them until they did what you thought they should? Or one time and quiet from then out? Would you think "they're an adult and can take care of themselves"? Or would you feel honor-bound to give them information? Have you ever done it? Either told them or consciously decided not to? How'd it turn out? I have spoken up plenty of times. In regard to mates I was very blunt and I saved many from shit. In regard to a couple of my son's I wasn't so blunt I was very careful how I worded my thought's as well as treating the woman they were dating very nice even though I didn't want too. I was spot on all the time.
6/24/2017 7:02:04 PM	Would You Say Anything?
Suzhi Knoxville, TN 55, joined Aug. 2016 online now!	I would have to pick a proper mate for myself, before I start having an opinion..
6/24/2017 8:03:06 PM	Would You Say Anything?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	Sorry, the power went out so we left for awhile. Just catching up now.
6/24/2017 8:59:49 PM	Would You Say Anything?
eyesofmedusa San Antonio, TX 53, joined Jun. 2012	Say nothing till asked..then...tell them. My frnds know the rules..if Inwave them off and they do it any way? Dnt cry to me....
6/24/2017 9:52:13 PM	Would You Say Anything?
ltlwing Williamsburg, OH 53, joined Oct. 2013	Don't ask and I'll tell you no lies if asked what I think? I wouldn't just volunteer what I know though. [Edited 6/24/2017 9:52:58 PM ]
6/24/2017 9:53:53 PM	Would You Say Anything?
jason_in_tx Bryan, TX 33, joined Apr. 2013	I'd say don't be nosey and stay out of it.
6/24/2017 9:59:28 PM	Would You Say Anything?
track_empirion Pineville, NC 50, joined Mar. 2014	I would not offer my opinion regarding whether or not the person is the right person. However, if I had substantial information regarding that person's character, I'd feel obligated to reveal it.
6/24/2017 11:09:03 PM	Would You Say Anything?
missamicable Austin, TX 83, joined Jul. 2014	yes, warn them. They can make the decision to stay or leave.
6/24/2017 11:23:31 PM	Would You Say Anything?
dan9787_3 Laval, QC 54, joined Jul. 2014	If I know something bad, yes. If he's a serial cheater or if he exploits his girlfriends, etc I would tell them instead of leaving them in misery...
6/25/2017 12:30:39 AM	Would You Say Anything?
Mercedes_3 New South Wales Australia 90, joined Jun. 2016	Quote from jason_in_tx: I'd say don't be nosey and stay out of it. If I'm asked for an opinion I won't lie.
6/25/2017 12:33:22 AM	Would You Say Anything?
driver406 Saint Paul, MN 65, joined Oct. 2009	I MYOB because they know more about their situation than I do. They should know more about the person in question than I do as well. If it can be PROVEN beyond doubt that the person is a felon or has other kids about town, is a druggie etc. then you should say something though you won't be believed and the person will cut you off forever even after she finds out that you're right. That said I've had friends who I've told I'm interested in some girl and the first thing out of their mouth is "Let me tell you why she isn't your type!" With that kind of encouragement I don't want to be a downer on someone else's happiness unless absolutely necessary. Just because I might find a new love doesn't mean there's less love for you. No, there's an infinite supply, enough for all of us. Why can't folks just be happy you're interested in someone and may be starting a meaningful relationship instead of being a downer all the time? LET ME TELL YOU WHY SHE ISN'T YOUR TYPE..... but all you know is her name and age! And these discouraging words are uttered by a MINISTER who ought to know better. Yes, but he knows all about girls named Sara who are close to 50 and we all know the dangers of a 15 year age difference! And this when he hasn't been close to me in many years!!! He doesn't know what's going on in my life anymore no does he care. He knows it all. Funny how all these know it alls know everything and they all have a different set of facts. I don't want to be like that. Cut the other person a break unless absolutely necessary.
6/25/2017 12:33:54 AM	Would You Say Anything?
driver406 Saint Paul, MN 65, joined Oct. 2009	Quote from Mercedes_3: If I'm asked for an opinion I won't lie. I agree, never lie.
6/25/2017 12:35:53 AM	Would You Say Anything?
driver406 Saint Paul, MN 65, joined Oct. 2009	Quote from rightguyforu682: Op you really need to lose some weight. Her weight is not the issue here nor the subject of the post. She's found happiness and I'm sure she doesn't need your nasty remarks. She's always been very pleasant and kind when writing to me. I'm glad she's found someone.
6/25/2017 12:36:25 AM	Would You Say Anything?
Mercedes_3 New South Wales Australia 90, joined Jun. 2016	Quote from driver406: I agree, never lie. I wouldn't want to be lied too so it's a two way street.
6/25/2017 12:38:30 AM	Would You Say Anything?
ms_Champagne AngualastoAustralian Capital Australia 97, joined Aug. 2016	Quote from driver406: Her weight is not the issue here nor the subject of the post. She's found happiness and I'm sure she doesn't need your nasty remarks. She's always been very pleasant and kind when writing to me. I'm glad she's found someone. YAY!! driver!
6/25/2017 12:52:15 AM	Would You Say Anything?
sarahgoldsmith Chantilly, VA 46, joined Jan. 2014	Driver, you're too shy to ask women out. You should ask them out, driver. What's the worst thing that can happen? They might say no, so what? At least you've tried & you don't have to wonder about "what if". LOL Do you want me to ask them out for you, driver? LOL Hey, lady, do you have a boyfriend? Because I think this man likes you, & he wants to ask you out. But he is too shy to ask you out. I hope that you don't mind if I ask you out on his behalf? He was wondering if you have time to join him for coffee, or for smoothies if you don't like coffee?
6/25/2017 1:37:52 AM	Would You Say Anything?
eyesofmedusa San Antonio, TX 53, joined Jun. 2012	Quote from driver406: Her weight is not the issue here nor the subject of the post. She's found happiness and I'm sure she doesn't need your nasty remarks. She's always been very pleasant and kind when writing to me. I'm glad she's found someone. Awwww....
6/25/2017 2:35:23 AM	Would You Say Anything?
cavie59 Enid, OK 58, joined Feb. 2010	I would keep my mouth shut. I never get involved in other peoples relationships.
6/25/2017 2:44:54 AM	Would You Say Anything?
Mercedes_3 New South Wales Australia 90, joined Jun. 2016	Quote from cavie59: I would keep my mouth shut. I never get involved in other peoples relationships. So if you saw a phone number continuously on your phone bill you wouldn't say anything? My mates ex was using my home phone to pursue his affair with the help of my ex. Of course I bloody told her which helped her to track them down and grab him by the scruff of his neck whilst she went running scared.
6/25/2017 3:46:35 AM	Would You Say Anything?
cavie59 Enid, OK 58, joined Feb. 2010	Quote from Mercedes_3: So if you saw a phone number continuously on your phone bill you wouldn't say anything? My mates ex was using my home phone to pursue his affair with the help of my ex. Of course I bloody told her which helped her to track them down and grab him by the scruff of his neck whilst she went running scared. About thirty years ago I would have and did a couple of times. I lost a couple of good friends because I said something. Today, people have a lot more options when it comes to talking to others. So today I keep my mouth shut.
6/25/2017 3:53:10 AM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	Cavie so friends only say nice things to each other?
6/25/2017 3:58:16 AM	Would You Say Anything?
cavie59 Enid, OK 58, joined Feb. 2010	Well, people that I thought of as friends never said a word to me when either of my ex's cheated, and they knew what was going on. But that was so long ago it does not matter any longer. I do not talk to my friends about relationships, due to the fact that only one of them is married and I only see them once a month. My other friends are all divorced and not seeing anyone that I know of.
6/25/2017 4:01:18 AM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	Then to me they were fair weathered friends. Which are not actually real friends. I would tell my friend out of respect for that friend. But I always try to say it in a more gentle way when I know it could hurt them.
6/25/2017 4:05:03 AM	Would You Say Anything?
cavie59 Enid, OK 58, joined Feb. 2010	Quote from anglicus_femina: Then to me they were fair weathered friends. Which are not actually real friends. I would tell my friend out of respect for that friend. But I always try to say it in a more gentle way when I know it could hurt them. Well, when you are in the military, most of your friends are only friends while you are stationed together. People lost touch with each other a lot back then. Friends were easy come, easy go back then.
6/25/2017 4:42:42 AM	Would You Say Anything?
anglicus_femina Staffordshire United Kingdom 43, joined May. 2016	Then I still wouldn't say there were friends. But temporary people in life.
6/25/2017 4:48:37 AM	Would You Say Anything?
24milkduds San Francisco, CA 58, joined Mar. 2012	If I didn't see it with my own eyes, hear it with my hears...I would leave the gossip to the gossiper...if I had sound evidence I probably would mention it once...although what I've learned is...it won't matter when you're blinded by love!

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