| 4/28/2011 10:38:27 AM |
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susieq_tx
Harlingen, TX
age: 59
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So I recently met a man here who wanted me to pick a place,like a restaurant where we could meet. His profile didn't indicate his income and I felt very awkward. If I say Mickey D's, he's gonna think I have low expectations. If I say Red Lobster, he's gonna think I'm trying to pick his pocket. So what do you do when they put you on the spot like that?
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| 4/28/2011 10:40:05 AM |
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bigbazborn
Red Wing, MN
age: 46
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First
Pick something mainstream = Chili's Coco's TGIF
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| 4/28/2011 10:41:06 AM |
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lakersrock
Springville, UT
age: 43
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find something in between the 2 you listed. 
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| 4/28/2011 10:41:23 AM |
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loveyes123
Bakersfield, CA
age: 34
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Uh pick a place. He obviously doesnt care where you go and how much it is. I would just tell him a name of a resturant and what time to meet me there. Simple as that.
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| 4/28/2011 10:41:59 AM |
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snhgirl
Springville, UT
age: 40
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How about Logan's or some other local steak house,They usually have specials,Don't over think it.Or you could tell him to just pick...
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| 4/28/2011 10:42:22 AM |
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custislong
Riddle, OR
age: 53
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He said pick, so pick a place where you would like to eat. He may be asking you to pick a place to make you feel more secure, or because you know the area better than he does.
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| 4/28/2011 10:42:30 AM |
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carbonv
Salem, AR
age: 53
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You pick a simple coffee shop or the like for a simple meet and greet.... then IF you decide you want to see each other for a REAL date or what ever... you can probably both figure the where and what out a bit easier...
(just a thought)
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| 4/28/2011 10:42:41 AM |
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crankygeezer
Coram, NY
age: 52
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You really are over thinking. Pick a place.
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| 4/28/2011 10:44:26 AM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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I had this happen to me recently. I simply asked what kind of food he liked, then i picked my favorite place out of his food choices. It worked out perfectly
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| 4/28/2011 10:46:43 AM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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If he was stupid enough to tell you to pick the place, teach that sap a lesson. Surely there are more expensive places around you than a Red Lobster. I assume he is paying so pick a restaurant you've never been to and could never afford to go to.
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| 4/28/2011 10:47:03 AM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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If Red Lobster is gold diggin' then I'd say that mine was tapped out a while ago.
If he acts like he's gonna have to stiff the wait staff then throw in a few bucks and mark the bun off the list.
It ain't like you're having to take out a second mortgage...
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| 4/28/2011 11:01:35 AM |
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musicdesign
Rocky Hill, CT
age: 51
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I've had this happen many times. I just pick a place I like that isn't too expensive with food we'd enjoy.
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| 4/28/2011 11:06:13 AM |
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santiagogreen29
Ocean City, MD
age: 29
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Take him here!!!!! My all time favorite resturaunt.' />
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| 4/28/2011 11:06:35 AM |
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shaneladd
Bakersfield, CA
age: 58
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He wants you to feel comfortable, and he wants to see what kind of place you're happy with. He may try to gauge if you're more interested in him or the place.
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| 4/28/2011 11:16:40 AM |
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maleagant
Lexington, KY
age: 27
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So I recently met a man here who wanted me to pick a place,like a restaurant where we could meet. His profile didn't indicate his income and I felt very awkward. If I say Mickey D's, he's gonna think I have low expectations. If I say Red Lobster, he's gonna think I'm trying to pick his pocket. So what do you do when they put you on the spot like that?
Offer to come over to his place and have him cook.
A. You get to see if hes actually useful.
B. You can probably tell by his apartment what his income is.
C> You can make sure hes single.
D. If it goes farther, there's a place to cuddle relax and watch a movie, or simply say good night and leave after dinner if it doesn't.
This will put him in a good mood, and you don't need to worry about any of the issue you listed in your OP.
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| 4/28/2011 11:18:24 AM |
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vickyxoxo
Lakeland, FL
age: 21
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ask him what kind of food he likes, and go from there.
just find a restaurant in the middle- not too expensive, not too cheap. like olive garden, ruby tuesdays, etc.
and if you still aren't sure just ask him! plan it together.
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| 4/28/2011 11:22:54 AM |
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sweetgingr
Kansas City, MO
age: 21
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Offer to come over to his place and have him cook.
A. You get to see if hes actually useful.
B. You can probably tell by his apartment what his income is.
C> You can make sure hes single.
D. If it goes farther, there's a place to cuddle relax and watch a movie, or simply say good night and leave after dinner if it doesn't.
This will put him in a good mood, and you don't need to worry about any of the issue you listed in your OP.
I would not do this.. a guy could be anyone and ud be setting urself up in his playground... don't take that risk... just pick ur fav. Spot
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| 4/28/2011 11:25:41 AM |
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38truegent
Denham Springs, LA
age: 39 online now!
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Ok !!!! I e been there so manny times....pick a place that is a fun enviroment witha good energy level... A place that has good appetizers .. The main course is always awkwards! Good luck!!
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| 4/28/2011 11:29:05 AM |
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dramatic_muffin
Woodbridge, VA
age: 39
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Red Lobster is high end?
I usually just choose a chain restaurant that is average in price. "How about Carrabba's...do you like Italian?"
It's just a suggestion. If he doesn't like it, he can make an alternate suggestion till you find some place you both like. I don't think he would be telling you to choose a place if he weren't prepared to take you up on a reasonable suggestion.
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| 4/28/2011 11:30:08 AM |
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2wheelpilot
Blackshear, GA
age: 43
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if this happens, i usually just ask them what they like....damn undercover vegans.
her-"i am a vegetarian, but i can still find something at most places"
me- "outback it is then"
-chip
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| 4/28/2011 11:30:31 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
age: 48
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Best of Both Worlds: Pick the Golden Arches, but show up in this beauty!
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| 4/28/2011 11:33:46 AM |
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petron
Garland, TX
age: 49
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Best of Both Worlds: Pick the Golden Arches, but show up in this beauty!
novel idea, wings
'here's your lobster, baby. come eat me'
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| 4/28/2011 11:34:44 AM |
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detroitborn
Lake City, AR
age: 48 online now!
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Next time say this:
"I don't care, where ever you want to go is fine with me. "
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| 4/28/2011 11:38:02 AM |
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dramatic_muffin
Woodbridge, VA
age: 39
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Next time say this:
"I don't care, where ever you want to go is fine with me. "
Warning: Some men would get irritated with the above comment. 
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| 4/28/2011 11:38:18 AM |
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gjlover
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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Your sitting across from him at the table, obviously interested enough in you to be there. Do you really think he cares what restaraunt it is?
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| 4/28/2011 11:41:30 AM |
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demetrios2
Cincinnati, OH
age: 54
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| 4/28/2011 11:43:22 AM |
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maleagant
Lexington, KY
age: 27
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I would not do this.. a guy could be anyone and ud be setting urself up in his playground... don't take that risk... just pick ur fav. Spot
Your chances of meeting a psycho stalker are slim to none in the world of reality. However if he was, he wouldn't ask you where "You" wanted to meet him at to begin with. He would say, Why don't you come over to my place, or something. Unless he's smart and then he'll take you out to a restaurant for a couple of dates or public places till you feel secure, then once he's got you hooked, it's over.
A little common sense can help you determine the safety of a decision. And paranoia will never help you with any decision. If a serial killer want's to kill you, He or she, will find a way.
Just a head's up on the darker side of reality.
So excuses or no, what you think m\will help you avoid such a conflict wont, and that's the real terror about dating. You are f**ked either way if one finds you.
So don't let the possibility spoil your date. And have fun. Because in truth there is nothing you can do about it if it does.
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| 4/28/2011 11:47:51 AM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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"Best of Both Worlds: Pick the Golden Arches, but show up in this beauty!"
I'd rather show up as the hamburglar and eat at Red Lobster...
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| 4/28/2011 11:49:09 AM |
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snhgirl
Springville, UT
age: 40
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novel idea, wings
'here's your lobster, baby. come eat me'
Done that before eh?
How did it work for ya?
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| 4/28/2011 11:50:02 AM |
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loveyes123
Bakersfield, CA
age: 34
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Warning: Some men would get irritated with the above comment.
Exactly !!! If a guys says you pick, then you pick. They hate indecisivness.
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| 4/28/2011 11:52:05 AM |
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jenn0403
Petersburg, IN
age: 28
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i always think, the man should pay for the first date, but i never expect it. i will always have enough to cover, because i want him to be somewhat financially secure, but i as well should be able to offer the same in my opinion. Picking out a restaurant is the least of the worries to being financially secure though.
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| 4/28/2011 11:53:01 AM |
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maleagant
Lexington, KY
age: 27
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Exactly !!! If a guys says you pick, then you pick. They hate indecisivness.
This is true, we do. We would not ask you to pick if we thought we would not be able to handle the decision, and if afterwords we couldn't we'd simply say I can't afford that right now what about some place a little cheaper.
Another thing about this, If we ask you to pick DO NOT pick a place that you think we will like simply to please us. I HATE this. If I ask you to pick a place,pick a place YOU will like, same with movies. If I wanted to pick something I liked Iwould.
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| 4/28/2011 11:56:03 AM |
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lamium
Springfield, MO
age: 57
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I usually just choose a chain restaurant that is average in price. "How about Carrabba's...do you like Italian?"
Never....I always choose an independent, family owned place that has a little character to it..if he doesn't like the food (or me), he can always stare at the walls..
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| 4/28/2011 11:56:12 AM |
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detroitborn
Lake City, AR
age: 48 online now!
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Warning: Some men would get irritated with the above comment.
( I was kidding)
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| 4/28/2011 11:57:37 AM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49
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everyone should have a favorite diner or coffee shop picked out, even before you even think about accepting or making a date.
some place you feel comfortable, to meet and get to know them first.
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| 4/28/2011 12:27:50 PM |
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susieq_tx
Harlingen, TX
age: 59
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To clarify, I do not live in a big city. Red Lobster is about as high end as we have in a chain you would recognize and it is in the town where he lives. He was coming to my town that day anyway, so it was smart that it be around here. We have a Starbuck's but I feel stupid paying that much for coffee and just don't go there. What made it awkward was that it was going to be in the evening about supper time, and he was talking about meeting for coffee, not dinner. We ended up at Luby's with pie and coffee.
And I do think some men don't like it when you throw a simple decision back on them, so I felt compelled to make one cuz it wasn't rocket surgery.
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| 4/28/2011 12:29:39 PM |
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chucksback4
Wonder Lake, IL
age: 53 online now!
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Could have went with Paris and see what he said.
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| 4/28/2011 12:30:50 PM |
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donajaii
East Lansing, MI
age: 43
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Chuck would you take me to Paris??
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| 4/28/2011 12:32:03 PM |
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susieq_tx
Harlingen, TX
age: 59
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Chuck would you take me to Paris??
No, I started the thread. Chuck is taking me and its gonna be Vienna.
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| 4/28/2011 12:33:17 PM |
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chucksback4
Wonder Lake, IL
age: 53 online now!
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I think there is a Paris, Indiana. Be about halfway, work for you.
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| 4/28/2011 12:34:45 PM |
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chucksback4
Wonder Lake, IL
age: 53 online now!
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Vienna Beef is right here in Chicago, sure you want to travel that far.
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| 4/28/2011 12:34:54 PM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
age: 65
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Donna,
I would gladly, lovingly take you to ecstacy.
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| 4/30/2011 7:48:20 AM |
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dramatic_muffin
Woodbridge, VA
age: 39
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I was asked to choose a place for dinner not ten minutes ago. I picked Cheesecake Factory!
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| 4/30/2011 7:59:27 AM |
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misssbren
Garland, TX
age: 45
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Never....I always choose an independent, family owned place that has a little character to it..if he doesn't like the food (or me), he can always stare at the walls..
I do this also.
1. They are the places I prefer to frequent anyhow.
2. I like small cozy family owned non chain locations
3. The prices are usually quite reasonable.
4. The food is often better
5. It's much more authentic most the time.
I simply ask what kind of food they like, then I pick.
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| 4/30/2011 8:08:08 AM |
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yugllihgnirps
Spring Hill, FL
age: 35
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Uh pick a place. He obviously doesnt care where you go and how much it is. I would just tell him a name of a resturant and what time to meet me there. Simple as that.
LOL pick a place.
In Florida.
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| 4/30/2011 8:11:44 AM |
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dramatic_muffin
Woodbridge, VA
age: 39
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LOL pick a place.
In Florida.
Cinderella's Royal Table at Magic Kingdom. You buyin'?
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| 4/30/2011 8:16:19 AM |
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loriedgier
Henderson, NV
age: 49
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Love the "it's not rocket surgery" comment! Bwhahahahahhaha
Notice I am usually making it into these threads these days long after all the answers have already been given. sigh Not enough DH time lately.
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| 4/30/2011 8:18:39 AM |
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dennorske
Hemet, CA
age: 35
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| 4/30/2011 8:29:45 AM |
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loriedgier
Henderson, NV
age: 49
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ROFL Den! Awesome! And there is usually a huge garbage can nearby to barf in when you get food poisoning.
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| 4/30/2011 10:10:44 AM |
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maryja
Los Angeles, CA
age: 32
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yea i dont realy think thats fair..im gana say bennihanas then if he says well i have this other spot i want you to try...that means he was to broke and next time u just say the olive garden then only order salad and bread sticks...lol im just saying..
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| 5/2/2011 12:57:06 PM |
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10kris
Denver, CO
age: 40
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At the age of "59" you are old enough to know where you want to GO! 
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| 5/2/2011 1:02:07 PM |
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akachipmonster
Columbus, OH
age: 49
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He said pick, so pick a place where you would like to eat. He may be asking you to pick a place to make you feel more secure, or because you know the area better than he does.
this one is perfect!
You are def overthinking this one.
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| 5/2/2011 1:03:53 PM |
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blu_angie
Milton, FL
age: 48
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So I recently met a man here who wanted me to pick a place,like a restaurant where we could meet. His profile didn't indicate his income and I felt very awkward. If I say Mickey D's, he's gonna think I have low expectations. If I say Red Lobster, he's gonna think I'm trying to pick his pocket. So what do you do when they put you on the spot like that?
LOL if you think Red Lobster is a classy restaurant.. you need to get out of the trailer park and see the real world.
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| 5/2/2011 1:06:15 PM |
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blu_angie
Milton, FL
age: 48
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I love Bullfeathers on the Boardwalk, Pensacola Beach.
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| 5/2/2011 1:10:13 PM |
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akachipmonster
Columbus, OH
age: 49
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You pick a simple coffee shop or the like for a simple meet and greet.... then IF you decide you want to see each other for a REAL date or what ever... you can probably both figure the where and what out a bit easier...
(just a thought)
thats what I get for using my phone. I agrre with custis but THIS is the one I think is perfect..lol
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| 5/2/2011 1:14:42 PM |
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blu_angie
Milton, FL
age: 48
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O.K.. first date.. is really a meet and greet... a coffee shop! Then lunch or dinner if you feel like getting to know one another more.
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| 5/2/2011 1:21:40 PM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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LOL if you think Red Lobster is a classy restaurant.. you need to get out of the trailer park and see the real world.
Pensacola and Mobile fighting for the claim to fame as the capital of the Redneck Riviera. Panhandle chic...
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| 5/2/2011 1:22:04 PM |
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paganblueeyes
Yorkville, IL
age: 49 online now!
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I think there is a Paris, Indiana. Be about halfway, work for you.
excellent and ditto for the Vienna comeback ....
I like how ya think
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| 5/2/2011 1:25:38 PM |
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vanir
Victoria
Australia
age: 41
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A nice little street cafe in the City of Light! You got your passport up to date, right?
lol, just always pick something you can afford normally. That's a good guideline, since going out together long term would be about shared lifestyles. I find it's always best to go with something interesting to make it special rather than something you might have to budget for. Venues that are special because they're somewhat financially exclusive are better for things like anniversaries, because for regular working folk you have to budget a couple of weeks around them. Early dates should be easier than that, being interesting in atmosphere or environment rather than exclusive.
So pick something interesting, fun seeming. For example a simple cafe is interesting if it's in a gallery foyer, say.
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| 5/2/2011 1:29:08 PM |
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blu_angie
Milton, FL
age: 48
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Pensacola and Mobile fighting for the claim to fame as the capital of the Redneck Riviera. Panhandle chic...
LOL I just moved to the area because I like the weather and didn't realize it was going to be a "redneck riveria". I am not a "Panhandle Chic". I just moved to the Panhandle.
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