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Having alcoholic children
by lorenec79 at 3/11/2013 10:51:58 AM


I have a 31 year old daughter. She's an alcoholic. She is currently out of detox and awaiting a bed in in-patient rehab. This will be her 3rd attempt to rehab. It just breaks my heart, she had sooo much going for her. To look at pictures of her before, and remember the beautiful, vibrant woman she was, only to see what she's become, is one of the hardest things for a parent. I just hope and pray, that she hasn't done mental or physical damage, and if she has, that she'll recover. I also hope and pray, that the old saying: Third time is a charm", will hold truth in her case. Thank you, just had to get that out.

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misty_4you2



 3/11/2013 11:06:40 AM

Do you go to Al-Anon? I did 'cause I was married to an alcoholic.

In that group you will find you are not aloneIt is their for families of "alcoholics"
elvissongs



 3/11/2013 11:11:38 AM

Been sober 31 years so we do get sober and stay that way. Unfortunately my son didn't and expired from a drunk driving accident at age 24 so count your blessings as you can still hug your daughter

2hearts714 		3/11/2013 11:24:17 AM

My prayers and well wishes for you and your daughter!::angel::

lorenec79 		3/11/2013 11:34:57 AM

Thank you, to all 3 comments above. Course, as a typical parent, I ask myself: why didn't I see any signs? Or: where did I go wrong? I just hope she's not too late. She had it all, wonderful husband, the home, career. I hope she'll get a 2nd chance, our children aren't suspose to go before us. Right?

2hearts714 		3/11/2013 11:39:22 AM

You are so right!..Most of the time, it is nothing you did wrong!..It's got to be her decision to live her life in a positive fashion!..I am praying that she will get better and God is by your sides in this time of need!::angel::..

sorpstar 		3/11/2013 12:30:59 PM

i've said this on a lot on this site maybe she needs tough love from an outsider like Steve Wilcos and his show/ stevewilcos.com...why not write to him with this problem that is breaking you apart esp since this i hope is her 3rd attempt and final one...maybe he can help you maintenance with supporters from his show...just sayin...don't know if prayers are always the best way...they help but she needs a support system and you your life back...good luck
missynena1



 3/11/2013 12:33:26 PM

Never ever blame yourself. Your daughter is an adult, and she made some wrong choices in her life. It doesn't mean that she can not turn her life around, and be the vibrant young woman she once was. Just keep praying, and God will do the rest.

itaiianteddy 		3/11/2013 12:43:48 PM

Yeah I know the heart ache there.My youngest daughter of 4 kids, drinks and smoke weed. I know its a escape mechanism. She doesn't want to improve herself. She getting overweight and bossy to those around her. I know its low self esteem and over compensation. She won't listen to any advice.She a heart attack away from eternally. She doesn't care anymore. Its a sad situation. I'm afraid I'll be burying her before me. I hope your daughter knows what her triggers are to start drinking and have coping responses to deal with it.I wish her well.

lorenec79 		3/11/2013 12:44:28 PM

Thank you for the latest comments. I knew that there would be good people out there with good advise and words of support. Thank you so very much to everyone. Lore Campbell.

mugster40 		3/11/2013 4:09:54 PM

I been sober 2 years now but it took 3 DWI's and a 20' fall to get me to address the issue,It is a personal problem and if you dont want to do it yourself it will not work.Be there to show your love and support the rest is in there hands i pray for you both
catsmam76



 3/11/2013 4:23:21 PM

Sending positive energy your way.

dawgpaws 		3/11/2013 6:12:16 PM

I do recommend Al-Anon for a place to start. You didn't cause it and you can't cure it, but you can learn to cope - and fix yourself so that you're not an enabler and a part of the sick dance. I no longer participate in that sort of dance. Thankfully, there is a lot of help out there - for you - so you can learn to let go and let God (or the Higher Power of your choice).