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You better believe it
by dawgpaws at 4/21/2013 5:36:24 PM
You know how some guy says, "No woman wants to be with me." He is telling you his truth. Really, listen to him. Move along, nothing here to see. 
And some gals say that all men do nothing but hurt them?  Believe that too. You can't rescue a victim from herself (or himself).
So often in life people say things to me that are warning signs. I used to think, "He's not serious. No one would REALLY want to be the leader of a cult."  Boy was I ever wrong! He really DID want to be a cult leader and eventually he made it happen. Taught me a real lesson about listening to what people say.
So when someone tells me that no one could ever like them,  I pretty much say, "Thanks for the information" and move on. Oh, I might be an acquaintance, but never more. Maybe I give them information on how to locate a 12 step group or a therapist, but that's about it - unless or until they get to a head space where they value themselves again.
If someone tells you they're just a loser  , for heaven's sake, don't invest time trying to fix them when they've already established their life script. If you really like a challenge, then go to school and become a therapist so you can get paid for your time fixing people like that. 
This does say something about how we describe ourselves to others. We do it in blogs where we call exes vile names.  Rule those folks out - whether it is in a blog or in real life. These are angry, bitter, blaming people who need to deal with their own issues before they're fit for man or woman.
I've heard people say, "No one could ever want me because I'm...." (insert problem) to which I've come to agree. "You're absolutely right - as long as you feel that way, no one will."
And me? I'm still pretty much here for the blogs and the forums. I think people are generally interesting creatures to watch.  I'm still Hard of Hearing going on Deaf and I'm actually fine with that. I still enjoy keeping busy and I still think most dogs are better company than most humans because dogs never lie, don't judge, and just want to have good times. And every day that goes by I get a little older, which is great because the alternative is to be six feet under.  Personally, I'm all for being above ground, rather than below ground!
Do I wish my life was better? Sure, I'd like to be as fit as a some fitness guru,  be able to do Tai Chi like a Master  , and make as much money writing as David Baldacci.  Gives me something to work towards. 
How about you? What do you believe about yourself? And what are you telling others?
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