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Why do our LOVED ones LIE to us?
by pslsurfer71 at 2/22/2009 3:07:04 PM
It's not pleasant to think about being betrayed by someone your friends with,or even in love with. No one likes to think that these people may be lying, especially not in their own type of relationship...And for you lovers,its probably safe to assume that everyone wants a close, romantic relationship that is built on openness, intimacy and trust. But despite our best intentions, our close relationships do not always work that way. Often, our romantic,and even friendly relationships involve some secrecy and deception.
So, why do people lie to those they are friends with,or even in love with?
As for friends,this is an easier answer...we just dont want to hurt their feelings.There is no LOVE bond involved in the relationship,to worry about anything furthermore...
But,What about the people we are in LOVE with, or in a relationship with?
Many of us ask ourselves why we have to fall in love just to get hurt? Why do we have to find and keep someone only to lose them in the end? What we would all probably dread the most is waking up the next morning only to discover that the person whom we love so much doesn't feel the same way for us anymore. Love isn't always forever and when it dies... a part of us will also painfully whither with it.
In his great prophecy on "the conclusion of the system of things," Jesus accurately foretold the conditions and trends of our day. He said that the world would be marked by lawlessness and wars—the very opposite of love! He also said that "many . . . will betray one another and will hate one another" and that "the love of the greater number will cool off." (Matthew 24:3-12) Do you not agree that the world has grown colder and that genuine love is lacking, even within families?
In addition to Jesus' words, the apostle Paul gave a detailed social profile, as it were, of "the last days." He wrote that people would be "lovers of themselves, lovers of money, self-assuming, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God." (2 Timothy 3:1-4) In many lands those traits have become very common.
Think: Are you drawn to proud, unthankful people, to those who are disloyal, who will slander or betray you? Do you warm to individuals who are in love with themselves, with substances, with money, or with pleasures? Because self-centered people allow greed and personal desires to define and govern their relationships, any interest they show in others is likely to be selfish. Wisely, the Scriptures counsel: "From these turn away."—2 Timothy 3:5.
Note, too, the statement that people living in the last days would have "no natural affection" or that, as another translation puts it, they would "lack normal affection for their families." Sadly, an increasing number of children are growing up in homes like that. Often, what these young ones learn about love they pick up from the media. But do the media paint an accurate picture of love, one that will really produce better relationships?Personally,I think NOT.
Therefore, My thesis on why people lie to another...whether its a wife,husband,girlfriend,boyfriend or even just a friend...Is because they forget to think how they themselves would like to be treated.That they are caught up in the world and not the word...that if it doesnt look beneficial, they just dont give a damn!
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