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My Advice
by lowestform at 3/21/2009 1:39:00 PM
There was a thread where an 18 year old wanted to know what women are looking for. The thread will be soon lost, but I figured I'd put it here in case someone comes seeking my skewed advice.
I've given this advice to many of my younger friends. You can take it or drop it in the shitter. This is entirely my perceptions based off of life experience. It is wholly possible that this is the worst advice you could ever read.
Don't notice, be noticed.
Personal style has a lot to do with it. Do not wear your your sexual desires or desperation on your sleeve, wear your persona. Women pick up on that and, contrary to what some may believe, they don't care how much of boner they give you or how much you want to be with someone... anyone. Nobody wants to be the one who just happened to be the first one to give you the time of day.
It's one thing to dress in a manner that fits in, but that's all you're doing is just fitting in. Oh great, another horizontal striped polo shirt, khaki shorts with fat pockets, and douchebaggy sunglasses atop the cranium. Boring, but I guess some like it. I don't intend to imply that you need to be outrageous or ridiculous looking, but show the small things show what kind of person you are. Just be comfortable in it and make sure it's you. It could be as small as more stylish set of glasses or whatever a band tee of that obscure band that you like (for a casual environment). Unless you're magically good looking, the plain just keeps you appearing boring.
Network with people in your life. Meet as many new people as you can, it will broaden your horizons. At 18, you should be doing less from your keyboard and more in a physical social environment. Just don't treat every semi-attractive woman like she could be the one. And for f**ks sake, don't stare. They don't like being visually molested... again, unless you're excessively good looking. Those guys get away with anything.
Doing this gets your foot in a lot of doors.
Once your foot is in the door, then you can worry about what they want. If they want something that you're not, then don't change just to accommodate it. Don't be afraid to move on. This won't be the last boob you have a chance to touch.
They want to feel like they are with a man, not a boy. At your age, that's a defining trait since so many are in between that stage. They want a guy who has his eyes set on the future, not someone who is staring into the past or cannot stop looking at the present. They'll want someone fun. If a girl likes to be perpetually out doing stuff, they aren't going to want to sit home and watch you play video games or watch TV. Maybe some of the time, but not constantly. Finally, they want to be attracted to you. Do your best to bring out your best features and minimize your worst. Don't ever stop trying to impress her.
They want consistency. They want a guy who's an emotional rock, not an insecure babbler. They want regular attention because you want to do it. If it's a pain in the a** to give her that attention, just get out now. They want to not lose that tingly feeling that often get's stuffed in the comfort of the couch cushions like so much lost change. They don't like stale, unless they are exceedingly boring.
In short, just be interesting, outwardly and inwardly.
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