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sandmanaz	4/20/2010 5:06:04 PM Nobody can fill that void but you. It will take as much time as you need it to, and since you are human there will be times when it all comes back. Learning how to deal with that is all part of the process.. I'm sorry for your loss...
emily59	4/21/2010 4:07:29 AM Totally correct! You will find time and friends will help. I lost my husband last year (in body) but he had ben very ill for 2 years previous. He was wheelchair bound when he passed, and died sitting next to me while driving to his 2 doctor appointments. I took care of him at home for the last 2 years of his life and became more his caregiver than his wife, but know in my heart that was the way it was met to be. I find comfort in remembering the good times, knowing how my husband felt about life and what he said about going on with my life when he was gone. I often did not wat to talk about him dying but he made his feeling known, and I find comfort in knowing he wanted me to find someone else and not be alone. Reading passages in the Bible also helped me...I am a Christian but don't always attend church...but that doesn't mean I don't believe in God. These are some of the things that have helped me. Also meet as many people as you can, dont compare them just enjoy their company and what will be will be...you never know what could be just a meeting away. Bonnie
sunnieflower	4/21/2010 6:01:58 AM I was at the cemetery yesteday too. And I'll need to go back again soon to tend to the flowers that I have planted by the headstone. I don't go there really to visit my husband--he isn't there. He's still in my heart and in the hearts of our children. It's just the resting place for the remains of his physical being. The time?? It's an individual thing. You'll always have your memories and the pain passes after a time.And there will be days when it comes back and then fades again. I've been working at it for over 6 yrs. "Give time, time." Sunnie
pandora749	4/24/2010 8:25:47 AM It does take time. Good friends and family help. She will live forever in your heart and memories. I is difficult to go on, but, to really enjoy a new relationship you will have to. I try not to compare my new friends with others. I think we may be disappointed if we do. I lost my first husband in Nam. I still have fond memories. That part will never go away. I don't think it should. Hang in there and never give up hope.