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charles2121	4/27/2010 8:51:15 PM there are a lot of nice guys that do wait to meet people right away. so many of them get lost in the getting to know you part. they don't know when you should meet. eventually girls lose interest. so it is in our best interest to meet you early and then you can make a full evaluation of what kind of guy they are. if i am interested in a girl i will put myself in any situation that makes her comfortable just so we can meet in person. if that means going over to her parents house on the first meeting to have dinner with her parents so be it. i would do it in a heartbeat if i thought that meant i had a chance. there are alot of crazies out there so you do have to be careful. so as long as you make the terms as to when, where, and how your meeting. and who else will be there of course... let a nice guy shine through the mess.
ryanmnem	4/27/2010 11:23:27 PM Trina, this is my take on the 'sitcheeation' Some guys are not too comfortable with strictly text/email conversations. Some are morons and can't type, nor spell worth a damn. Others are fine with it, but so much can be misread or misunderstood from texts. Another reason is a guy honestly doesn't want to waste two or three f*king months typing away just to find out he or the girl isn't interested after meeting in person. So many guys and girls are not entirely honest. Guys wonder what in the freeeeeeaking hell 'average' body type means. We wanna see you in person and see if there's a spark, chemistry, etc. Now, as far as the freakos, crazies, and psychos, yes, unfortunately they're out there. Simple solution, meet somewhere public, NOT at ur home. Drive separate and do a quick meet n greet, coffee or sum'n. Use ur instincts, and gut feelings. Hope this helps shed some insight. Comments? Thanks, Ryan
brfan	4/28/2010 6:21:45 AM I totally agree with everything the guy above said. Just like some girls don't like talking on the phone. Some guys would prefer getting to to a new person on the phone before they meet up with them in person, just to figure out if they might be a total psycho if nothing else. But on the other hand some girls don't like talking on the phone and would rather have face to face contact or vice versa. So it just depends on the person. Just be safe however you decide to get to know someone new.
ilarco_180	4/28/2010 7:52:00 AM I imagine its the same reason women always put on a face until u meet em...
charles2121	4/28/2010 9:37:38 PM the average body type thing. brilliant. what does that really mean. and i take back the meeting with the parents. at least at your house. your place of residence should not be shared for a while. and i also agree with the spark. some people dont believe it. they havent had it. but i met someone online before. talked for like a week online. about two days on the phone and then we met at the spaghetti factory. had a fantastic time. found out so much more about each other. ended up getting together soon after. relationship didnt last long cuz she demanded to much attention. if you want examples i can give them. but just trying to say so much more connection can be made in person. you get to see a reaction rather then wait for an email. or hear it over the phone. "if you want to get somewhere new, you have to start doing things you haven't done before"
hmg42i	4/29/2010 6:33:35 PM But then how much time is good enough for a guy to ask? Or is it better to let the girl ask the guy first. I know anyone can make them self the best in a email or chatting even phone but in person you can tell a lot more then what someone can put down in a page
charles2121	4/29/2010 7:20:09 PM if a guy asks a girl. its too much. but if a girl asks a guy he isn't "man enough". i think it is always up to the guy to ask.
ryanmnem	5/3/2010 7:42:29 AM Charles2121, in your 1st post you make an interesting point about doing whatever it takes to help a girl feel comfortable. That really is the guy's position to take that lead. Back in the days (before our days), men 'called on' women and it was quite normal and proper to sit with a girl's family for dinner upon first meeting. The trust was there. So much has changed but I still think some ol school ways are timeless, such as standing when a lady enters or leaves a room, opening doors, scooting her chair as she sits, and removing one's hat when entering a home or being introduced to a lady. That's how I was raised. Good ol Idaho. I believe girls really like and deserve that treatment, at least the girls worth pursuing. And Trinabina makes a good point which eludes back to our modern times, there are too many crazy-ass ppl. So when is the 'right' time to meet, when is just txting become too much. I guess it all is a case-by-case basis. When it 'feels' comfortable, whenever the h*ll that is. Lol...