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Relationships Are Laborious
by daretobeyou at 11/23/2010 11:25:37 AM
 "As we grow up, we learn that even the ONE person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been
hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back." -Dirissy
I live my life every day based on this quote. It is the realization that pain sometimes is unavoidable but misery is a choice.(this writing is geared more to women who HAVE treated their men like Kings, respected and unselfishly loved him, supported his dreams and goals....YET feel mistreated and abandoned in their time of need.) So just last weekend a friend and I were speaking of relationships. We agreed relationships are a lot of work...but if you're able to look back and count more good times then bad...then your journey has been worth it. But if not, you must move on. And this is where my pet peeve comes in with women. Just the other day I heard a song by Jazmine Sullivan titled Holding You Down. As I listened to the lyrics my ears began to shudder at such whining, bemoaning and utter weakness spewing from a woman. For those of you unaware of this song, here are a snippet of lyrics "Why I'm so confused for you, I have no answer boy.When I feel so used by you just like a toy. Its a shame that you don't care enough...to even give me half the love I give to you. I live for you baby. I'm ashamed to say that I'm to blame for how you act cuz I keep coming and keep going in circles." (Yuck...where is the bullet Pulease!)
Seriously women. Get a grip! Yes, love is a wonderful thing and sharing your life with someone else is awesome. But if you've cried more then laughed and they haven't been treating you like the queen you KNOW you are? Let them go and move on. YES, some men have a swooning touch, and an irresistible love....but never, ever put your life on hold for a man. NEVER! Allow a man to be part of your life as you are in his....but your significant other should never be your sole reason for existence. Life is not lived for such vainess. Relish your OWN life, take up a hobby, go out and dance, spend time with your family....but pursue what makes you happy. Real love must start first within yourself otherwise loving another can never happen.
And if you are ending are relationship?? Please avoid saying you hate men or that "all men are the same" for they aren't. Women who display such behavior will never truly be able to move on from a bad relationship and find a healthy love. Why? Because their pain and anger over their ex will hold them back. Men are beautiful. ..afterall, part of you was created by a man so how can you hate that which you originated from?
As for me, well...I daresay it is my positive and optimistic self that believes love can always be found again in someone else. This is what continues to propel me forward. I do not get bitter or regretful in past relationships. I realize each person comes into our lives for a reason but often it is ONLY for a season. Relish that time, breath in, give love and happiness to them...but also receive it yourself. Yet, when the signs point that the relationship can not be salvaged or it will not change, cry if you must but release the pain so that you do not keep "running in circles with a box of tissues." (don't be the cliche post breakup woman: box of tissues, tub of ice cream, fuzzy slippers, and elastic waistband pants.) Ladies....I may sound harsh by saying this but if you weren't married to the man....trust me, the breakup can NOT be that devastating. You will find love again. Enjoy every minute of a relationship, understand some are worth saving...and some are not. Be smart and wise enough to spot the difference and follow your heart. For happiness is a heartfelt journey.
-Daretobeyou 
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