| 5/26/2008 8:17:11 AM |
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impressivetoys
Wells, MN
age: 27
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Some of us do have respect. If ya want ass right away go to a prostitute!! Serieously!! Whats the point of a relationship if ya bump uglys right away? Then it becomes based around sex. So Im not one for sex on the first date. Been down that road and got me now where in a hurry.
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| 5/26/2008 8:46:42 AM |
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tammymarie33
Shreveport, LA
age: 33
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Some of us do have respect. If ya want ass right away go to a prostitute!! Serieously!! Whats the point of a relationship if ya bump uglys right away? Then it becomes based around sex. So Im not one for sex on the first date. Been down that road and got me now where in a hurry.
I agree.. I been down that road too, if you have sex right off the bat then that is all your relationship's is about. I mean I can find people to have sex with, but personally not what I am looking for.
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| 5/26/2008 8:49:27 AM |
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bry11ca
Buellton, CA
age: 43 online now!
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Cece,
To your original post:
It may be because instead of a zipper, your jeans have a revolving door on them or it could be the the change meter.
I'm just guessing. JK 
Bry 
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| 5/26/2008 8:52:15 AM |
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easytouch3
Mount Clemens, MI
age: 46
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Right on drummerman & bry . couldnt have said it better 
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| 5/26/2008 9:00:50 AM |
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easytouch3
Mount Clemens, MI
age: 46
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win some
loose some
get over it & move on
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| 5/26/2008 9:07:20 AM |
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me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
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Aw the wonder drug.... that little blue pill. Where does one get these magical pills.
From Jack... as his bean stalk grew...
Well..... I was told that the guy didn't want to {drink from the same cup.....} I assured him that I had cancer and I am clear now.... I don't have AIDS... HIV.... Herpies or anything like that...., yet I still insist a man wear protection... and I get "I don't like rubbers during sex.... I can't feel anything.
I just met this guy... yet I do have a freind.... I don't see whey I have to give up on my friend who helps me out for a man who thinks I'am a walking contagion.... A man who doesn't believe that I've only been with 5 men in 25 years...., thanks for keeping my numbers low....
But gee... I was chatting with you for two months now, while you were dating the last girl from this sight... You are the guy who kissed and told everyone in forum what this little miss did for you. Being intigued by your love affair, I started emialing you... asking when it was gonna be my turn. But when my turn .... came around you turned me down.... Hey buddy your no saint..... why not me?
Maybe he's still inlove with someone else..... and if thats the case just say so....
go back to her....
Your my obsession.... what do you want to be to make you sleep with me....
Yes I will have you.......... I will find a way and I will have you.............
Hey whats an hour.... how bout 45 minutes.... damn I'll go for 20 I'am that damn good... 
Are you flipping crazy? All men should fear you the way you talk.........
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| 5/26/2008 10:43:16 AM |
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sssweetbytch
Saint Louis, MI
age: 47 online now!
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Being willing on a first date is one thing being to willing is another? If I met a dude for the first time and felt forced into sex or that we had to share a cup I would run too. I don't care how long i chatted with him or talked on the phone sometimes when you meet its just not there. The last thing I would do was post I would still have him one way or another anyways??? Something is just not right here!!!!
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| 5/26/2008 10:48:18 AM |
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ellisdee
Lafayette, LA
age: 50
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Hard to say but can only speak from my own experiences. I have only had sex on a first date twice and the first time really doesn't count. We had met out once before and got to know each other without any physical stuff. The true first date time, we went out for dinner then to a movie. After the movie, we return to her apartment where SHE proceeded to attack me. We dated for several years but never could work out a couple of differences in personalities. With that said, most of the time I do want to have sex even on a first and all other dates but I was raised to treat women with respect so I don't act on my feelings or desires. This makes it frustrating but what's a guy to do? One last thing, a friend and I went out partying one night, not as a date but just partying together. We were having a good time when we were hit on by a married couple she had graduated with. Anyway, after turning them down, we finally made it home. As we were heading to our respective homes (we lived next door to each other), she invited me in for a last drink and afterwards, I gave her a (G rated)massage. I could tell she wanted to have sex and I wanted to very much but I she was drunk and I did not want to take advantage of her situation nor did I want her to think I did so. Besides if we ever did do it, I want her to have all her faculties so she can remember everything. SO to answer the original question, I do not have sex, as a rule, on the first date out of respect for the woman. I don't buy the "not attracted to you" answer because he would not be with you/asked you out if he was not attracted to you. Another reason for him not pursuing sex is he is shy. Finally,if none of these, he may have other things on his mind that overrule his physical desires at the time.
Just a southern boys opinion.
PS: Women, if you want to and he hasn't tried, initiate it. He probably wants to but is afraid of rejection or if he tries and is rejected, he's afraid it might jeopardize any possible future with you.
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| 5/26/2008 6:20:32 PM |
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cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 47
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Okay.... sometimes the sex act is the beginnig of the end...
And sometimes not acting on it is the beginning of the end...
Alright bry... I do like sex I have no problems with it.... and yes.... a guy better have alot of change in his pocket if he want to park in my lot...
I am over it..... do you think your the only man on the highway? Men can be so vain...
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| 5/27/2008 10:39:33 AM |
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sapphire_eyes
Tulsa, OK
age: 48
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Okay I had the opposite happen this last weekend. I do not make it a practice to jump in the sack the first time meeting someone, whether we've chatted online or not. When a man tells me he is a "gentleman" I have expectations that he will act appropriately - whether the hormones kick in or not! When I am having to fight you off at my car in order to go home is a definite "given" you will not be seeing me again. Men get the same respect from me, especially if there is a huge attraction between us. It's just not smart to go there the first time you meet someone.
If I am attracted to someone, I might "smooch" for a bit, but past that on the first date I feel uncomfortable. When I was younger, heck yeah, if I saw something I wanted I went for it. As I've gotten older...no! Just because my hormones might be racing, and I "might" want to take it further into a sexual encounter, I have enough sense that I want to get to know the person better to see if I even should be going there. There are too many "crazies" and "defective" individuals out there in our age bracket that I really don't want to go there and be stalked or bugged by someone who has decided "he" wants "me".
If it's just a "sexual" encounter you want, or someone that would be willing to meet just for that specific purpose once in a while...there are sites designated just for this type of encounter. Don't think less of a guy because he didn't go there, actually it's nice to know that there are men who can restrain themselves!
I can see where this is okay for some, because they don't want a "committed" relationship anytime soon. Me, however, if a guy is like that with me, I wonder how many other women he's like that with! A guy might be thinking this same thing if a woman is coming onto him hot and heavy the first time they physically set eyes on each other. JMO.
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| 6/3/2008 2:01:01 AM |
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cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 47
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Winners.... losers.... get over it and move on... Your a real prize baby...
Take me on... take me on..... I'll be gone in a week...............................
Just moving on.... and on.... and on... one foot infront of the other thing.
I will get over it... what ever doesn't kill ya makes ya stronger....
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| 6/3/2008 2:05:22 AM |
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raptsin
Los Angeles, CA
age: 26
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I'll take {A}... not attracted to me Bob....
Everything else about us clicked... we went out... had fun.. talked alot.... but when the hit of sex entered the conversation... gone in 60 seconds..... I'd still like to think there is something wrong with him.... maybe he was hurt... don't want too... why in the hell are you on this sight... I mean the guy flirted with me as if.... he would be a very passionate kind of guy... but no... damn that sucked! And not very good.
He is an asshole.........
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| 6/3/2008 4:17:56 AM |
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cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 47
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Thank you raptsin.... I couldn't have said it better myself.
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| 6/3/2008 4:33:27 AM |
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easytouch3
Mount Clemens, MI
age: 46
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Sorry you feel that way cece. Posting this just shows I am a very good judge of characture [yours]
You wouldn't know passion if it smacked you in the face
[Edited 6/3/2008 5:16:00 PM]
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| 6/3/2008 5:19:11 PM |
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easytouch3
Mount Clemens, MI
age: 46
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RAPTSIN. that comment might just get you laid
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