| 6/10/2008 6:22:37 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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I have a dear friend who has a habit of trying to make me look like a fool just in front of men.
She will purposely make comments in front of male strangers (Its always guys our age) that will make her look better or more successful than myself. She will also try to make comments that will somehow make me look foolish or stupid. Its not necessary for me to say anything to her while this takes place because the guys always take notice to her comments and think she is being rude. They typically ignore her or stop talking to her once she has offended me. I know that she knows she is aware of what she is doing afterwards because she typically later apologizes somehow. She will say for example, "sorry, I hope that you didn't misunderstand what I said back there."
I understand why she behaves this way. She has been single for nearly four years and feels lonely. I have tried helping her out with this issue but she is extremely picky and wont budge on her idea of a perfect mate. I have exhausted my effort helping her.
What have others done to get past competition with friends?...In all honesty, she is a great girl and a great friend. Her loneliness explains her behavior but does not excuse it. Any suggestions? Thanks for any help that I may receive.
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| 6/10/2008 6:28:33 AM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
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I have had that too............but you just need to be yourself because guys see though all that and if they really want to be with YOU they will make the effort!!
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| 6/10/2008 6:30:33 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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Thanks flower...I typically am just myself...more guys ask me to dance or talk to me after they see her attitude. Sometimes that seems to work against me though because it will piss her off even more at times.
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| 6/10/2008 6:32:14 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
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can i have a Lap dance muffy?
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| 6/10/2008 6:32:54 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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can i have a Lap dance muffy?
lol as long as you don't insult me.
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| 6/10/2008 6:34:18 AM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
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Well I think you are charming and very mature for your age and if guys can't see you for who you are - I say they are pretty damn foolish.............jmo.
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| 6/10/2008 6:35:00 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
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Im sorry did I ever insult you? I hope not youre a cutie
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| 6/10/2008 6:35:11 AM |
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dunitall
Seattle, WA
age: 44
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It sounds as if your pretty good friends, So telling her how you REALLY feel shouldnt be a problem, treat yourself like a queen! be good to yourself!
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| 6/10/2008 6:35:55 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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That was nice flower. Thank you.
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| 6/10/2008 6:39:51 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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It sounds as if your pretty good friends, So telling her how you REALLY feel shouldnt be a problem, treat yourself like a queen! be good to yourself!
We are roommates but I have had to limit my outside activity with her because she has made a habit of insulting me in front of guys and its only guys...nobody else.
Ex. We went to purchase a board game at some shop a month ago. The sales clerk (a guy our age) showed us a modified scrabble game. She said, "there is a game that you might actually beat me at for a change." I don't know why she said it though...the only game she ever beat me at was scrabble because I beat her in EVERYTHING else. The guy gave her a really confused look. Later, she said..."well you do actually always beat me at cribbage." I know that she was trying to redeem herself somehow.
edit for spelling
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| 6/10/2008 6:42:08 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
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oh she is a C*ck blocker.I have friends try that crap .They try to talk over you and say stupid stuff to make you look bad in front of ladies.it usually doesnt work.women tend to not care if they like someone.
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| 6/10/2008 6:45:24 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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oh she is a C*ck blocker.I have friends try that crap .They try to talk over you and say stupid stuff to make you look bad in front of ladies.it usually doesnt work.women tend to not care if they like someone.
That actually makes me feel a lot better that guys don't care and can see past it for the most part...It was irritating at first but then I got used to it. I wondered if I should say something but then decided I should just limit my activities with her.
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| 6/10/2008 6:46:42 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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Buy her a gigolo!
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| 6/10/2008 6:48:24 AM |
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dunitall
Seattle, WA
age: 44
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buy her an "evil eddy"..lol
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| 6/10/2008 6:49:08 AM |
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asl_1965
Frederick, MD
age: 42
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sounds like she may be a bit jealous of you Muffy
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