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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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Yeah i thought it was possible to meet someone on here and fall in love.. i met this amazing guy named alex he had a little boy which kinda scared me at first cause i wasnt really ready to date someone with a child but i decided what the heck give it a try. Well we talked on the phone for awhile kinda got to know each other and figured we had a lot in comman well then we decided to go on a first date which was great and he was very caring and very understanding cause i was going through some family trouble and he was there for me and i only knew him for like a week or so.. well we grew to know each other more and starting hanging out more and more and then he asked me to be his gf and i was so excited i said yes well after that i was so happy we grew to love each other pretty fast and grew closer and closer well i dont know but one day everything went down hill he started actiing different and treating me like crap and i had no idea what was going on we started fighting and we broke up a couple times but we usually worked it out and got back together well we got in one last fight and ended it for good well i found out later i was pregnant and he decided to treat me like crap and liek i didnt even existed in the world i really believed that we did love each other and were meant to be together but i believe i was the only one feeling that was he said he loved me and played the part well like he did love me but i figured out in the end it was truely all a lie and now im left 3 months pregnant going to be a single mommy which i really dont mind but i wish he wouldnt act the way he is and grow up take some responsibity cause it took both of us to get pregnant not just one hes 24 and im 19 and i feel like i act more responsible then he does at times i really does sometimes but i really gave up on trying with him because i know if he cant grow up and act his age then thats no one i want to be with or around my baby i want him to be there as a daddy but he says something different everyday so im gave up on him and im moving on with my life focusing on me and my baby and what i need to do and im kinda hoping the right guy comes along im searching but im not if you get what im saying well if anyone ahs advice feel free to contact me byes
Cynthia
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| 6/25/2008 6:21:04 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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How long did you wait until you started having unprotected sex?
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| 6/25/2008 6:32:40 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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i really dont care to share that thats my business
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| 6/25/2008 6:43:37 PM |
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aka_neo
Marathon, FL
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Cynthia ,why did you post this thread twice ,with different thread titles ?
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| 6/25/2008 6:47:08 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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because i wanted to and i wanted people to read it thank you very much
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| 6/25/2008 6:48:05 PM |
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crow8
Ponca City, OK
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How long did you wait until you started having unprotected sex?
i would say 5 seconds after they first met 
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| 6/25/2008 6:49:37 PM |
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ldt
Houma, LA
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she started 3 threads not 2...
where is this boy...is he gonna be a part of baby's life?
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| 6/25/2008 6:50:03 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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i would say we waited f**king 6 months after we met before we had sex so u can go screw ur 5 seconds buddy
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| 6/25/2008 6:51:22 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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it doesnt matter how many threads i started dam people and he is liek 30 miles away and he says he will pay his child support thats it
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| 6/25/2008 6:54:18 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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You sound really angry... you sure yer ready to be a mom?
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| 6/25/2008 6:55:59 PM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
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Start as many threads as you want....it still does not change the fact the YOU DID NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own actions. Now what are you going to do about it? Cry to a date site?
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| 6/25/2008 6:57:43 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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im not angry i dont like stupid people who think they know everything
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| 6/25/2008 6:58:40 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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im not angry i dont like stupid people who think they know everything
I see.
So you know everything?
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| 6/25/2008 7:00:13 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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Start as many threads as you want....it still does not change the fact the YOU DID NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own actions. Now what are you going to do about it? Cry to a date site?
yeah ur so right i didnt take responsiblity i had unprotected sex ur so right but u know what i have faith and i know i made a mistake but u know what i believe it happened for a reason and i have faith everything will work out and im going to take responsility raise my child as a single mom and im not crying on her im expressing my opinion...
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| 6/25/2008 7:01:22 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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im not angry i dont like stupid people who think they know everything
I see.
So you know everything?
trust me i dont know everything if i did id be god i just dont liek smartass people who think they know it all and solutions for everything
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| 6/25/2008 7:02:52 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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im not angry i dont like stupid people who think they know everything
I see.
So you know everything?
trust me i dont know everything if i did id be god i just dont liek smartass people who think they know it all and solutions for everything
Fair enough.
So did you want advice, or an opinion or just to vent?
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| 6/25/2008 7:07:32 PM |
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rig216
Red Deer, AB
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My ex was pregnant at 19 before we committed to a long term relationship. It was the early 80's when you still heard the expression "You get her pregnant, You marry her" Today, some young men tends to run away. Just want to quote what you've initially said "he had a little boy which kinda scared me at first cause i wasnt really ready to date someone with a child". Give him space and time if he is not ready. Good luck.
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| 6/25/2008 7:08:06 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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im not angry i dont like stupid people who think they know everything
I see.
So you know everything?
trust me i dont know everything if i did id be god i just dont liek smartass people who think they know it all and solutions for everything
Fair enough.
So did you want advice, or an opinion or just to vent?
i want advice really dont care about someones opion because it dont really mean crap to me unless u have something nice to say
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| 6/25/2008 7:08:46 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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My ex was pregnant at 19 before we committed to a long term relationship. It was the early 80's when you still heard the expression "You get her pregnant, You marry her" Today, some young men tends to run away. Just want to quote what you've initially said "he had a little boy which kinda scared me at first cause i wasnt really ready to date someone with a child". Give him space and time if he is not ready. Good luck.
thank you very much very helpful advice
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| 6/25/2008 7:09:58 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
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Advice: be a good mom and learn all you can from this
Opinion: wait till the next one marries you before having another child.. that way you will make out like a BANDIT in the divorce 
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| 6/25/2008 7:11:53 PM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
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How does this young man treat his other child? Is he a part of that childs life? You also mentioned that you were not sure of even dating a man with a child, so are you really sure you are ready to be a mother?
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| 6/25/2008 7:13:26 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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Advice: be a good mom and learn all you can from this
Opinion: wait till the next one marries you before having another child.. that way you will make out like a BANDIT in the divorce
yeah im definalty waiting to get married before even thinking of having another one
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| 6/25/2008 7:15:34 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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How does this young man treat his other child? Is he a part of that childs life? You also mentioned that you were not sure of even dating a man with a child, so are you really sure you are ready to be a mother?
he is living with his father and his father is raising his child while he works all the time he is a part of the childs life when he isnt working i wasnt sure because u have the fear of the childs mom is why i wasnt sure yes im ready to be a mother
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| 6/25/2008 7:39:26 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
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How does this young man treat his other child? Is he a part of that childs life? You also mentioned that you were not sure of even dating a man with a child, so are you really sure you are ready to be a mother?
he is living with his father and his father is raising his child while he works all the time he is a part of the childs life when he isnt working i wasnt sure because u have the fear of the childs mom is why i wasnt sure yes im ready to be a mother
He lives with his dad and his son... and his dad watches the child while this guy works? Was he married to this child's mom? Where is that child's mom?
Go to a doctor and get your prenatal shit together, if having the baby is your plan, and focus on taking care of yourself and this baby- How will you support yourself and this baby? It's not easy being a mom- at any age, even with the best support system in place... And what are your plans now? Are you in school? do you have a job? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Babies are wonderful.... but they require money and time and they are constant.
Nuf said. Good luck to you.
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| 6/25/2008 7:39:37 PM |
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horndoghater
Crescent City, FL
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sorry for your pain. you are young. you have just found out first hand that you have been played. he was nice up until he got sex. then he started treating you like crap, stopped the phone calls, was always busy. players do that. at least you will have a nice child to teach lifes good lessons to and teach him/her how not to treat people like they are disposable. Best of luck to you. And pleeze, learn from this experience!
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| 6/25/2008 7:41:48 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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How does this young man treat his other child? Is he a part of that childs life? You also mentioned that you were not sure of even dating a man with a child, so are you really sure you are ready to be a mother?
he is living with his father and his father is raising his child while he works all the time he is a part of the childs life when he isnt working i wasnt sure because u have the fear of the childs mom is why i wasnt sure yes im ready to be a mother
He lives with his dad and his son... and his dad watches the child while this guy works? Was he married to this child's mom? Where is that child's mom?
Go to a doctor and get your prenatal shit together, if having the baby is your plan, and focus on taking care of yourself and this baby- How will you support yourself and this baby? It's not easy being a mom- at any age, even with the best support system in place... And what are your plans now? Are you in school? do you have a job? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Babies are wonderful.... but they require money and time and they are constant.
Nuf said. Good luck to you.
yes i have a very good job i have worked at for years now i enjoy my job and trust me i know it takes alot and im in for a lot but trust me with my family and friends and me i can do this thank you
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| 6/25/2008 7:42:36 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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sorry for your pain. you are young. you have just found out first hand that you have been played. he was nice up until he got sex. then he started treating you like crap, stopped the phone calls, was always busy. players do that. at least you will have a nice child to teach lifes good lessons to and teach him/her how not to treat people like they are disposable. Best of luck to you. And pleeze, learn from this experience!
very true and trust me i have learned a lot from this thank u
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| 6/25/2008 7:43:12 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
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I just looked at your profile... I would seriously reconsider looking for a boyfriend at this point... Not that you are not entitled, but that will just make things so much more complicated for you. Seriously. JMO...
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| 6/25/2008 7:45:07 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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I just looked at your profile... I would seriously reconsider looking for a boyfriend at this point... Not that you are not entitled, but that will just make things so much more complicated for you. Seriously. JMO...
yeah so would i im really just looking for friends and whatever happens from there happens this experience has taught me a lot and i have learned from it
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| 6/25/2008 7:47:08 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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How does this young man treat his other child? Is he a part of that childs life? You also mentioned that you were not sure of even dating a man with a child, so are you really sure you are ready to be a mother?
he is living with his father and his father is raising his child while he works all the time he is a part of the childs life when he isnt working i wasnt sure because u have the fear of the childs mom is why i wasnt sure yes im ready to be a mother
He lives with his dad and his son... and his dad watches the child while this guy works? Was he married to this child's mom? Where is that child's mom?
Go to a doctor and get your prenatal shit together, if having the baby is your plan, and focus on taking care of yourself and this baby- How will you support yourself and this baby? It's not easy being a mom- at any age, even with the best support system in place... And what are your plans now? Are you in school? do you have a job? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Babies are wonderful.... but they require money and time and they are constant.
Nuf said. Good luck to you.
Ummm Just a couple of more things. But Dang you hit it all pretty much on the nailhead. Get over it. He and you are not a couple anymore. He should be the least of your worries. You have a child to support and take care of. Also,
{b] before you bash posters for pointing out that you have posted this several times what they so kindly didn't state and I will. It is againest the rules to post mulitple threads about the same topics no matter if they are in the same forum or not.
One more sage piece of advice. Before you decide to bash.. READ THE FORUM RULES..
i read the rules and if theres any problems im sure i will be notified so yeah and he is the least of my problems if u didnt read before im focusing on me and my child thats it
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| 6/25/2008 7:48:22 PM |
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bryneyes174
Loves Park, IL
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I am sorry for your situation. I am a single mother also, and let me tell you, its very difficult, but not impossible. What you need to do now is get as much help as you can with outside agencies and your family. Concentrate on what you can do for yourself and your child. Don't count on this man to be a father to your child. You are correct, you are going to do this yourself. Its difficult, but not impossible. The rewards and strength that you will find within yourself through this experience will defintely toughen you up to a new level. Good luck to you, if you need to talk, you are welcome to email me privately.
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| 6/25/2008 7:50:56 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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I am sorry for your situation. I am a single mother also, and let me tell you, its very difficult, but not impossible. What you need to do now is get as much help as you can with outside agencies and your family. Concentrate on what you can do for yourself and your child. Don't count on this man to be a father to your child. You are correct, you are going to do this yourself. Its difficult, but not impossible. The rewards and strength that you will find within yourself through this experience will defintely toughen you up to a new level. Good luck to you, if you need to talk, you are welcome to email me privately.
thank you very much you have givin me some very good advice and are one of the only real people that understand and arent rude about it
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| 6/25/2008 7:56:23 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
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If you post something, you are going to get opinions, advice; if you chose not to agree, that is ok but I don't think you should get angry for it, by posting, you ask for it. First of all, your situation was not a result of it being online as I originally thought, it is the simple thing if YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. I am sorry and ;you can call me an old prude or whatever but 19 is too young to be giving it up so easily at the first sign of "true love". The simple fact that you were not responsible enough to be careful or use protection just proves to me that you are too young. Are you a bad person? No Are you a typical teen, you bed. But are you responsible enough to have sex and a child. I really don't think so.
When will kids quit playing house and wait until they are older. It is the children who end up suffering having their parents grow up with them, and in this case, probably without a father from the getgo.
Sorry folks, but I still think teens should be teens and leave the sex until you are old enough to deal with whatever may or may not come after.
Steps slowly off her soapbox and runs away from all the teens.
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| 6/25/2008 8:01:19 PM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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If you post something, you are going to get opinions, advice; if you chose not to agree, that is ok but I don't think you should get angry for it, by posting, you ask for it. First of all, your situation was not a result of it being online as I originally thought, it is the simple thing if YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. I am sorry and ;you can call me an old prude or whatever but 19 is too young to be giving it up so easily at the first sign of "true love". The simple fact that you were not responsible enough to be careful or use protection just proves to me that you are too young. Are you a bad person? No Are you a typical teen, you bed. But are you responsible enough to have sex and a child. I really don't think so.
When will kids quit playing house and wait until they are older. It is the children who end up suffering having their parents grow up with them, and in this case, probably without a father from the getgo.
Sorry folks, but I still think teens should be teens and leave the sex until you are old enough to deal with whatever may or may not come after.
Steps slowly off her soapbox and runs away from all the teens.
yeah u are right but preach to the younger teens who are 14 having sex and babys yeah im 19 a adult i may seem young but i have went through a lot and i know i may not be ready but im facing the music and going to be a mommy
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| 6/25/2008 8:01:39 PM |
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misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
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she was asking for helpful advice...she's only 19 and made a mistake...i'm sure she isnt the only one on DH who did something irresponsible at that age..and i DO NOT MEAN POSTING THE SAME THREAD 3 TIMES...
cynthia, concentrate on you, your baby and making a good life for both of you...dont worry about the guys for now...good luck to you!
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| 6/25/2008 8:01:45 PM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
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right.....and claiming that someone has a sexually transmitted disease on the internet.....Is Not Rude? (yes, I read your blog)
Blaming and downing others is not the way to be a woman. Right now you are a young lady who is about to grow up real fast. Its time for to own up to who and what you want out of life. You can not control what others do only what you do.
Good~Luck
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| 6/25/2008 8:23:16 PM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
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My oh my, aren't we harsh to those who are seeking help. There have been plenty of 20, 30, and 40 something women "accidentally" get pregnant. She is not running off and having an abortion for Christ's sake. She is doing what she needs to do to take care of the baby. I got pregnant with my first child when I was 19--I was on the pill too! We got married, but only after I had gotten pregnant. We weren't sure we were ready, but we were in love and were certainly going to try. We were together for 8 years and 2 kiddos. I raised them by myself for quite some time! I guess that was lack of judgment too? How many adult women (30's & 40's) are on birth control, but not using a condom when having sex? What about AIDS?
Yes, she may have done this thread 3 times, big whoop! Did anyone ever consider that she just might need to be comforted, or accepted, or just need to talk about what is going on in her life. I am sure she is overwhelmed, scared, not to mention heartbroken from the guy leaving her. She loved him. Love isn't any less real at 19 than it is at 40.
Everyone is always so eager to jump on the negative bandwagon on the internet. It is so easy to jump at people and judge them. You know if you had met this same girl in person and she was telling you her story, you would speak in a much kinder tone and try to be understanding--regardless of what you know would have been better choices she could have made. We all use poor judgment from time to time. We all throw caution to the wind some times. Let's give the gal a break.
Congratulations on your baby. It won't be easy, but it will always be worth it! I promise.
Edited because the smiley actually went in the middle of a word. ooops!
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| 6/25/2008 8:59:18 PM |
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meliva
Prosper, TX
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Baby girl, I was involved with a guy once who told me " men will say anything to get into your pants" and no truer words were ever spoken. He was one who should have known , he sure did. Keep those words in mind from now on. It's not going to be easy for you, you've picked a hard path, but remember he is young too and maybe he will grow . Maybe not, some men never do. Time has a way of working out all things and it's so true that when one door closes another one opens, it's just the hallways that are a b*tch. You'll see nothing ever stays the same and one day you will look back and be able to see how this will be true growing experience for you . I pray for you all the best.
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| 6/25/2008 9:00:28 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
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she was asking for helpful advice...she's only 19 and made a mistake...i'm sure she isnt the only one on DH who did something irresponsible at that age..and i DO NOT MEAN POSTING THE SAME THREAD 3 TIMES...
cynthia, concentrate on you, your baby and making a good life for both of you...dont worry about the guys for now...good luck to you!
Damn straight she is not the only one..... I think that was kind of my point, not a personal attack on her. But she is calling the father not responsible and sorry but it takes too. And, my opinion is TOO YOUNG. Not to mention, who ends up paying for the children that that father's do not support, you and me, the tax payers.
As for pulling it together, I hope she can indeed manage to do that and in fact get some child support from the father who had a part in this also.
JMO
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| 6/25/2008 9:00:56 PM |
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pisceslady30
York, PA
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I was seventeen when I had my first son so I know what you're going through. The only thing you have to do is decide what you want to do,that baby deserves that. If you are going to keep the baby then you should start taking care of yourself for the baby's sake.
You need to move on and learn being a mom is a full time job and you have to give up a lot of things you're used to doing. Forget about him he played you and that's that. You can't make anyone love you if they don't and sex does not = love. You may feel like this baby is going to fill a lot of the voids in your life but only you know what you can handle. I hope everything works out for you but you should seriously evaluate your situation.You're not the first pregnant 19yo and you won't be the last. Take care
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| 6/25/2008 10:36:01 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
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I didn't mean to come off as being harsh or judgemental in my response... if I did, I apologize. I was simply trying to be realistic.
I know 19 year old kids- and younger- and some older- who are parents. Who have babies. And who think they can do it. And they can't always- or can't see a life beyond being a teenaged mom. And it can become a cyclical trap... very easily. And that is unfortunate. There is life past being a teen parent...
You're here, now you have to assess your situation and move forward. Again, go to your doctor, take parenting classes- even if you know how to do it, knowledge is your friend- and look out for yourself. No one else will. JMO
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| 6/25/2008 10:42:15 PM |
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pumpkin_star_25
Rock Falls, IL
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Advice: be a good mom and learn all you can from this
Opinion: wait till the next one marries you before having another child.. that way you will make out like a BANDIT in the divorce
First time you wrote something worth reading.....
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| 6/25/2008 10:47:23 PM |
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pumpkin_star_25
Rock Falls, IL
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My oh my, aren't we harsh to those who are seeking help. There have been plenty of 20, 30, and 40 something women "accidentally" get pregnant. She is not running off and having an abortion for Christ's sake. She is doing what she needs to do to take care of the baby. I got pregnant with my first child when I was 19--I was on the pill too! We got married, but only after I had gotten pregnant. We weren't sure we were ready, but we were in love and were certainly going to try. We were together for 8 years and 2 kiddos. I raised them by myself for quite some time! I guess that was lack of judgment too? How many adult women (30's & 40's) are on birth control, but not using a condom when having sex? What about AIDS?
Yes, she may have done this thread 3 times, big whoop! Did anyone ever consider that she just might need to be comforted, or accepted, or just need to talk about what is going on in her life. I am sure she is overwhelmed, scared, not to mention heartbroken from the guy leaving her. She loved him. Love isn't any less real at 19 than it is at 40.
Everyone is always so eager to jump on the negative bandwagon on the internet. It is so easy to jump at people and judge them. You know if you had met this same girl in person and she was telling you her story, you would speak in a much kinder tone and try to be understanding--regardless of what you know would have been better choices she could have made. We all use poor judgment from time to time. We all throw caution to the wind some times. Let's give the gal a break.
Congratulations on your baby. It won't be easy, but it will always be worth it! I promise.
Edited because the smiley actually went in the middle of a word. ooops!
good post
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| 6/25/2008 11:12:50 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
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I am just sad that you are only 19yrs of age and now pregnant ...As the mother of two sons aged 24 and 21 I had continuously shoved sexual responsibilites down their throat and taught them that dropping their pants and going for it is not the way to treat a girl..I am proud that they listened to what I taught them and they are responsible young men..Both have been with the one girl only so far and treat their girls beautifully...I am very proud and hope all the young girls out there find nice boys to date...Nice boys really are best...I hope your pregnancy goes well and that you have proper support ...
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| 6/25/2008 11:47:03 PM |
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rig216
Red Deer, AB
51, joined Apr. 2008
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In teenage pregnancies, I tend to aim my finger on the father. I'm not blaming him, but making sure he sticks around. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but some of my daughters' friends who got pregnant, their boyfriends didn't want the responsibility of raising a child, and cowardly disappeared. The young mother struggles to raise the child, and the state is looking for the father for late child support payments.
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| 6/26/2008 6:30:10 AM |
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jrbogie
Red Bluff, CA
64, joined Mar. 2008
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my ex always used to tell her friends that she finally found mr. right. now she says she didn't know my first name is always. hahahahahahahahahaaaaaa.
seriously. to fairly coment on your tale, i'd have to blow off the suds of a few beers with the guy. hear his side you see. you buy the beer.
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| 6/26/2008 6:56:09 AM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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right.....and claiming that someone has a sexually transmitted disease on the internet.....Is Not Rude? (yes, I read your blog)
Blaming and downing others is not the way to be a woman. Right now you are a young lady who is about to grow up real fast. Its time for to own up to who and what you want out of life. You can not control what others do only what you do.
Good~Luck
about my blog i have everu reason to say what i said
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| 6/26/2008 6:57:53 AM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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My oh my, aren't we harsh to those who are seeking help. There have been plenty of 20, 30, and 40 something women "accidentally" get pregnant. She is not running off and having an abortion for Christ's sake. She is doing what she needs to do to take care of the baby. I got pregnant with my first child when I was 19--I was on the pill too! We got married, but only after I had gotten pregnant. We weren't sure we were ready, but we were in love and were certainly going to try. We were together for 8 years and 2 kiddos. I raised them by myself for quite some time! I guess that was lack of judgment too? How many adult women (30's & 40's) are on birth control, but not using a condom when having sex? What about AIDS?
Yes, she may have done this thread 3 times, big whoop! Did anyone ever consider that she just might need to be comforted, or accepted, or just need to talk about what is going on in her life. I am sure she is overwhelmed, scared, not to mention heartbroken from the guy leaving her. She loved him. Love isn't any less real at 19 than it is at 40.
Everyone is always so eager to jump on the negative bandwagon on the internet. It is so easy to jump at people and judge them. You know if you had met this same girl in person and she was telling you her story, you would speak in a much kinder tone and try to be understanding--regardless of what you know would have been better choices she could have made. We all use poor judgment from time to time. We all throw caution to the wind some times. Let's give the gal a break.
Congratulations on your baby. It won't be easy, but it will always be worth it! I promise.
Edited because the smiley actually went in the middle of a word. ooops!
thank you so much your words really helped me and i hope other people actually read it
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| 6/26/2008 7:09:22 AM |
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aussiegrl
New South Wales
Australia
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Hey Cyn I know your looking for a guy, we all are, but right now all your focus needs to be on you and the baby. It's going to be hard, very bloody hard and even tho it would be nice to have a guy there with you sharing it all and giving a helping hand it likely won't happen for a while. Just make a plan and get ready for your baby. Do you have some family support? I hope so. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you and yours ..
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| 6/26/2008 7:30:49 AM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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Hey Cyn I know your looking for a guy, we all are, but right now all your focus needs to be on you and the baby. It's going to be hard, very bloody hard and even tho it would be nice to have a guy there with you sharing it all and giving a helping hand it likely won't happen for a while. Just make a plan and get ready for your baby. Do you have some family support? I hope so. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you and yours ..
thank you and yes i do have family support
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| 6/26/2008 7:32:51 AM |
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surferchick88
Clearwater, FL
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she was asking for helpful advice...she's only 19 and made a mistake...i'm sure she isnt the only one on DH who did something irresponsible at that age..and i DO NOT MEAN POSTING THE SAME THREAD 3 TIMES...
cynthia, concentrate on you, your baby and making a good life for both of you...dont worry about the guys for now...good luck to you!
Damn straight she is not the only one..... I think that was kind of my point, not a personal attack on her. But she is calling the father not responsible and sorry but it takes too. And, my opinion is TOO YOUNG. Not to mention, who ends up paying for the children that that father's do not support, you and me, the tax payers.
As for pulling it together, I hope she can indeed manage to do that and in fact get some child support from the father who had a part in this also.
JMO
yeah trust me i am going afte rhim for child support but as for u paying for the fathers im not like a lot of other girls who purposlly get pregnant just to live of the goverment thank you very much
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| 6/26/2008 7:35:30 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
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Start as many threads as you want....it still does not change the fact the YOU DID NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own actions. Now what are you going to do about it? Cry to a date site?
yeah ur so right i didnt take responsiblity i had unprotected sex ur so right but u know what i have faith and i know i made a mistake but u know what i believe it happened for a reason and i have faith everything will work out and im going to take responsility raise my child as a single mom and im not crying on her im expressing my opinion...
Oh f**k...another welfare mother!
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| 6/26/2008 7:47:44 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
46, joined Jun. 2008
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Get an abortion....$450 and 2hrs of your time.
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| 6/26/2008 7:58:29 AM |
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catetinab
Clinton Township, MI
43, joined Mar. 2008
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Get an abortion....$450 and 2hrs of your time.
I agree!!!!
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| 6/26/2008 7:59:39 AM |
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catetinab
Clinton Township, MI
43, joined Mar. 2008
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Start as many threads as you want....it still does not change the fact the YOU DID NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own actions. Now what are you going to do about it? Cry to a date site?
yeah ur so right i didnt take responsiblity i had unprotected sex ur so right but u know what i have faith and i know i made a mistake but u know what i believe it happened for a reason and i have faith everything will work out and im going to take responsility raise my child as a single mom and im not crying on her im expressing my opinion...
Oh f**k...another welfare mother!
Yeah....we end up paying for these babies.
This is why I am pro-choice!!!
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| 6/26/2008 8:01:12 AM |
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chatterbug32
Albemarle, NC
38, joined Apr. 2008
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Get an abortion....$450 and 2hrs of your time.
What are your reasons for telling her this? She is too far along to abort the child.  She wants the child.
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| 6/26/2008 8:06:16 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
46, joined Jun. 2008
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Doesn't she say she is only 3 months along??
She is asking for help/suggestions. It's a suggestion, she doesn't sound ready either emotionally or financially for a kid. Its a quick and easy fix ..if you have no issues with the idea of abortion, if she does then she need not consider it....its her choice, not mine and not yours.
It will also keep the guy out of her life whereas if she has it he will be in her life pretty much forever on some level.
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| 6/26/2008 8:10:47 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 6/26/2008 8:21:03 AM |
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chatterbug32
Albemarle, NC
38, joined Apr. 2008
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Start as many threads as you want....it still does not change the fact the YOU DID NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own actions. Now what are you going to do about it? Cry to a date site?
yeah ur so right i didnt take responsiblity i had unprotected sex ur so right but u know what i have faith and i know i made a mistake but u know what i believe it happened for a reason and i have faith everything will work out and im going to take responsility raise my child as a single mom and im not crying on her im expressing my opinion...
Oh f**k...another welfare mother!
That is what it's for. The state makes people pay the money. Not her. So, if you want to fuss at anyone for making you pay welfare, than fuss at the state.
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| 6/26/2008 8:24:57 AM |
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chatterbug32
Albemarle, NC
38, joined Apr. 2008
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Doesn't she say she is only 3 months along??
She is asking for help/suggestions. It's a suggestion, she doesn't sound ready either emotionally or financially for a kid. Its a quick and easy fix ..if you have no issues with the idea of abortion, if she does then she need not consider it....its her choice, not mine and not yours.
It will also keep the guy out of her life whereas if she has it he will be in her life pretty much forever on some level.
She said she had a job. She hasn't said anything about not being emotionally being able to take care of a child. Quick and easy fix!!!!!!!What would you say if someone told your mother to abort you to make it easier on her and other people so that they wouldn't have to support or take care of you. Or, if you have children and someone told you the exact words. That's right. Her choice.
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