| 7/15/2008 1:09:17 PM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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Most of my friends live in other cities. How can females make female friends in a new city without appearing like a lesbian or a weirdo? (Not that there is anything wrong with lesbians) Not like I can walk up to a female in the grocery store and say "Lets go out for coffee"
Don't mention at work, I work for a small company and am already friends with the 2 females there...LOL
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| 7/15/2008 1:26:51 PM |
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v2_3
McHenry, IL
age: 48
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When you find out the answer to this one, please let me know! I'm in the same situation, plus most my friends are married and spend their time with their families or other couples.
Wouldn't it be great if it was like kindergarten? "Hi, wanna play?" "Okay!" Try that now and people will think you are a lesbian AND a weirdo! 
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| 7/15/2008 1:27:01 PM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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I hear ya...Thats why alot of my friends are guys...My "true" females friends I have had for years...
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| 7/15/2008 1:27:41 PM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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When you find out the answer to this one, please let me know! I'm in the same situation, plus most my friends are married and spend their time with their families or other couples.
Wouldn't it be great if it was like kindergarten? "Hi, wanna play?" "Okay!" Try that now and people will think you are a lesbian AND a weirdo!
LOL...Yeah that would be nice...
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| 7/15/2008 1:30:02 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 42
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I think you have to do the things you enjoy and you can make friends with the sam intrests. If you like walking, walk in a park instead of your neighborhood.
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| 7/15/2008 1:32:22 PM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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I think you have to do the things you enjoy and you can make friends with the sam intrests. If you like walking, walk in a park instead of your neighborhood.
I guess I just would feel funny going up to someone and talking...I mean the small talk is ok but you can't just say "Lets hang out" to another female without getting odd looks I would imagine...If someone said that to me I would prolly think they have ulterior motives...
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| 7/15/2008 1:34:22 PM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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Join a local 'hobby group' or goto a recreational class (like cooking or decorating etc), or something that will likely have a large % of women...That way you are in the company of other women that you can interact with and build a relationship in a natural and none lesbo way.
...if things do go lesbo though PM me the details.
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| 7/15/2008 1:36:06 PM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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Join a local 'hobby group' or goto a recreational class (like cooking or decorating etc), or something that will likely have a large % of women...That way you are in the company of other women that you can interact with and build a relationship in a natural and none lesbo way.
...if things do go lesbo though PM me the details.
I thought about a cooking class...Might be a good way to meet single men too!
LOL I could never become a lesbo but I'll keep you in mind!
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| 7/15/2008 1:36:38 PM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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Join a local 'hobby group' or goto a recreational class (like cooking or decorating etc), or something that will likely have a large % of women...That way you are in the company of other women that you can interact with and build a relationship in a natural and none lesbo way.
...if things do go lesbo though PM me the details.
I thought about a cooking class...Might be a good way to meet single men too!
LOL I could never become a lesbo but I'll keep you in mind!
Thanks....erm I think.
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| 7/15/2008 4:03:14 PM |
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here4now08
Jacksonville, FL
age: 53
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Most of my friends live in other cities. How can females make female friends in a new city without appearing like a lesbian or a weirdo? (Not that there is anything wrong with lesbians) Not like I can walk up to a female in the grocery store and say "Lets go out for coffee"
Don't mention at work, I work for a small company and am already friends with the 2 females there...LOL
you're not alone in that issue. too bad we're in different boats lol
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| 7/15/2008 6:50:49 PM |
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waterluvr75
Spring Lake, NJ
age: 35
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I would have to go with signing up for classes you are interested in that you know other females are going to be at as well.
I myself have made conversation with other females at the gym or when out walking. I think it depends on the female really. I made a few friends here that way.
I pretty much had too moving from the midwest to the east coast and knowing not a soul out here.
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| 7/15/2008 7:09:48 PM |
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luckyno7
Georgetown, FL
age: 55
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I agree it is much easier to make friends with guys. They are easier to talk to, but may get the wrong idea and think you are intersted in more than friends. Women are harder to get along with and seem to be jeolous creatures. I would like to have females friends to hang out with...but doesnt seem to happen.
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| 7/16/2008 5:08:21 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
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| 7/16/2008 6:08:19 AM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
Wow I need to tell my guy friends they are gay...They gonna be surprised
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| 7/16/2008 6:11:27 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
Wow I need to tell my guy friends they are gay...They gonna be surprised
Interesting that thats the one you pick out of the 3 choices!
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| 7/16/2008 6:13:03 AM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 45
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Join a local 'hobby group' or goto a recreational class (like cooking or decorating etc), or something that will likely have a large % of women...That way you are in the company of other women that you can interact with and build a relationship in a natural and none lesbo way.
...if things do go lesbo though PM me the details.
I thought about a cooking class...Might be a good way to meet single men too!
LOL I could never become a lesbo but I'll keep you in mind!
I have taken a few cooking classes.... LOADS of fun and a great way to meet people.... men and women.... it's a very safe environment, and you're all doing something, so it's not like you're just looking at each other trying to find something to talk about.... And generally it's a small group- like a dozen or so- so it is intimate.
Reading groups are good too.... or walking/exercise groups if you're into that.... even just suggest to the girls at work that you go out for drinks after work one nite... doesn't have to be any big deal.... but it gives them- and you- a chance to see each other outside the office. And they might suggest things- like going to the mall, etc-
you can find a lot of groups online- google what you're looking for and where, and you'll be surprised what you find.
Good luck!
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| 7/16/2008 6:14:46 AM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
Wow I need to tell my guy friends they are gay...They gonna be surprised
Interesting that thats the one you pick out of the 3 choices!
Well neither of the other two fit
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| 7/16/2008 6:15:38 AM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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Thanks Miss...They have a cooking class at one of the stores in the mall...I'm gonna check it out
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| 7/16/2008 6:15:50 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
Wow I need to tell my guy friends they are gay...They gonna be surprised
Interesting that thats the one you pick out of the 3 choices!
Well neither of the other two fit
I would put money on number 1 as that usually accounts for 90% of them.
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| 7/16/2008 6:23:07 AM |
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kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 46
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
CROCK OF BEANS! Literally full of gas.
So what you're saying is that either you are gay, have no female friends or you try to screw every gal you meet? Sounds rather lonely, especially since you are on a dating site.
I have met people through all sorts of functions and gatherings. I have found the easiest way to meet people in your own surroundings, so a couple times a year I throw a neighborhood bbq party. Everybody is more relaxed because it isn't a fancy social and they can bring kids and have fun.
Another way I have met a lot of people is by donating several hours of my time each week to different charities and fund raisers.
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| 7/16/2008 6:24:45 AM |
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doll121
Middleport, OH
age: 53
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try here as i have alot of women friends on here who are like family to me.
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| 7/16/2008 6:32:07 AM |
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coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 51
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
CROCK OF BEANS! Literally full of gas.
So what you're saying is that either you are gay, have no female friends or you try to screw every gal you meet? Sounds rather lonely, especially since you are on a dating site.
I have met people through all sorts of functions and gatherings. I have found the easiest way to meet people in your own surroundings, so a couple times a year I throw a neighborhood bbq party. Everybody is more relaxed because it isn't a fancy social and they can bring kids and have fun.
Another way I have met a lot of people is by donating several hours of my time each week to different charities and fund raisers.
I agree. Sounds like someone is lacking in respect and being a grown up. I agree somewhat on the female friends but not all. I certainly hope I am above being jealous and backstabbing to my female friends! I'm not saying a lot of what's said doesnt cross one or boths minds at some point, but acting on any of it is what seperates the grown ups and true friends apart from each other.
Male friends...gay, don't have any, don't want any. Want to sleep with me. I let them know up front ain't happening. Males in couples, don't hang with any couples.
Female friends...are most aquaintances. Those that are close friends are just that and I trust them with my life. Took them a long time to get there. Those aquaintences, well, yeah I'll wreak havoc if pushed to it but I don't stab in the back. I'd rather see your eyes while I'm doing the stabbing.  
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| 7/16/2008 6:41:43 AM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 45
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I'm lucky enough to live not far from two great friends from college- and I see them almost weekly- and about every 2 months or so, about 4 or 5 of us from school get together for an outing - and we keep in touch daily with emails, phone, etc. We also try to all go on vacation once a year- when we turned 40 we all went to Puerto Rico for a long weekend... I think 12 in all.... it was great. Just silly, drinking, talking.... it was great. We're all at the stage where the cattiness and jealousy is just about behind us, and we can just appreciate our differences. It's nice.
It's funny cause I'm the only single one of the group, so they try to live vicariously thru me sometimes. I know they are very disappointed... LOL
I'm also very close with my sisters- they are my friends as well.
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| 7/16/2008 6:46:12 AM |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 46
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I have friends that I vacation with every year too...Just that they live sooo far away...I like the volunteering thing too...Lots of good ideas!
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| 7/16/2008 6:49:00 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
CROCK OF BEANS! Literally full of gas.
So what you're saying is that either you are gay, have no female friends or you try to screw every gal you meet? Sounds rather lonely, especially since you are on a dating site.
You know this is easy to test.....all you girls that think you have platonic male friends....come on to them and offer yourselves up..see what happens and report back.
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| 7/16/2008 6:53:30 AM |
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wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 46
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This is a good thread immabluefish.
When ever I make a comment to another female on this site, I always write..."I am not a lesbian" (I just wanted to make a comment to you here etc).
It is difficult to make friends of both genders today - anywhere. Hobby groups is probably a good way to go about it though.
Regards to all.
wisegirl33 - 16th July 2008 at 1154pm Aest
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| 7/16/2008 6:58:48 AM |
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kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 46
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
CROCK OF BEANS! Literally full of gas.
So what you're saying is that either you are gay, have no female friends or you try to screw every gal you meet? Sounds rather lonely, especially since you are on a dating site.
You know this is easy to test.....all you girls that think you have platonic male friends....come on to them and offer yourselves up..see what happens and report back.
So what you are proposing is that all the gals who have male friends break the friendship bonds and alter a friendship. Your test in it self fails simply because it breaks the friendship.
Over the years I have partied with female friends, and still do occasionally, when they have had a couple too many they do sometimes get flirtatious. But self respect and integrity prevent me from allowing things to go too far and destroy the friendships.
See I believe that the friendship is more important and far more valuable than the piece of ass.
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| 7/16/2008 7:11:58 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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So what you are proposing is that all the gals who have male friends break the friendship bonds and alter a friendship. Your test in it self fails simply because it breaks the friendship.
Over the years I have partied with female friends, and still do occasionally, when they have had a couple too many they do sometimes get flirtatious. But self respect and integrity prevent me from allowing things to go too far and destroy the friendships.
See I believe that the friendship is more important and far more valuable than the piece of ass.
Hmm you have parted with friends merely because they came on to you yet you claim those friendships are more important than a piece of ass?!....Might I suggest then that they were not very good friends to begin with if you end a friendship so easily!
You know when generalizing you're supposed to look at the big picture and not your INDIVIDUAL experiences.....what I am saying is overall...men tend not to make friends with women just for the sake of making friends,...there is usually a motive.
The whole thing about friendship is that you find people that think like yourself...most will agree that men and women think WAY differently and have different tastes.....
Now....you might be more than happy to spend the day shopping for shoes with your 'girlfriends' (at least until they come onto you), but I wouldn't.
EDIT: Not to mention the fact my post was tongue in cheek and that slipped totally past you!
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| 7/16/2008 7:29:49 AM |
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coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 51
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The only guys that can be friends with women are either after a shag off you, gay...or friends through their girlfriend (forced friends).
If you have any male friends they all fall into one of these 3 categories. Naturally they will vehemently deny all of these categories.
CROCK OF BEANS! Literally full of gas.
So what you're saying is that either you are gay, have no female friends or you try to screw every gal you meet? Sounds rather lonely, especially since you are on a dating site.
You know this is easy to test.....all you girls that think you have platonic male friends....come on to them and offer yourselves up..see what happens and report back.
I have had those. But, again it's being adult and making a choice. I say no, it's no and we stay friends. So what if they or the woman is dog ugly, not attractive, your saying to the man it doesnt matter? He'd lay anything? Hmmmmm...Your saying the only reason he's your friend is because he wants to have sex? That's not saying much for the male gender is it? Kinda shallow. But, yeah I get where your coming from. I've been there. I have "offered myself up" back in day outta spite to another male and he turned me down because of moral issues. And you know what..I had a great respect for him.
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| 7/16/2008 7:39:33 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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I have had those. But, again it's being adult and making a choice. I say no, it's no and we stay friends. So what if they or the woman is dog ugly, not attractive, your saying to the man it doesnt matter? He'd lay anything? Hmmmmm...Your saying the only reason he's your friend is because he wants to have sex? That's not saying much for the male gender is it? Kinda shallow. But, yeah I get where your coming from. I've been there. I have "offered myself up" back in day outta spite to another male and he turned me down because of moral issues. And you know what..I had a great respect for him.
As I indicated above...it's an unusual man that seeks out friendship with women. I don't know anyone personally that has close female friends for reasons other than those listed
....Now we are talking friends here....friends being people you actually spend time with and do things with...anything else is not a friend but an acquaintance imo. Someone you see occasionally in the company of others or your neighbor you talk to across the fence is not a friend...they are an aquaintance.
Regarding your question about men wanting to have sex....if she is even half decent...he HAS thought about it..yes.
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| 7/16/2008 8:04:38 AM |
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kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 46
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I have had those. But, again it's being adult and making a choice. I say no, it's no and we stay friends. So what if they or the woman is dog ugly, not attractive, your saying to the man it doesnt matter? He'd lay anything? Hmmmmm...Your saying the only reason he's your friend is because he wants to have sex? That's not saying much for the male gender is it? Kinda shallow. But, yeah I get where your coming from. I've been there. I have "offered myself up" back in day outta spite to another male and he turned me down because of moral issues. And you know what..I had a great respect for him.
As I indicated above...it's an unusual man that seeks out friendship with women. I don't know anyone personally that has close female friends for reasons other than those listed
....Now we are talking friends here....friends being people you actually spend time with and do things with...anything else is not a friend but an acquaintance imo. Someone you see occasionally in the company of others or your neighbor you talk to across the fence is not a friend...they are an aquaintance.
Regarding your question about men wanting to have sex....if she is even half decent...he HAS thought about it..yes.
I have female friends whom go to the movies with, fish, camp and play cards occasionally. We've been friends since college, one was at my wedding and I went to the wedding of another. We've gone to concerts and even to traveled internationally together. It's actually pretty relaxing to spend time with them because the 'sex' factor is out of the picture. One lady friend stayed at my place last year after her divorce, she lives in town here and uses my washer and dryer every week because her apartment is too small.
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| 7/16/2008 8:11:36 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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I have had those. But, again it's being adult and making a choice. I say no, it's no and we stay friends. So what if they or the woman is dog ugly, not attractive, your saying to the man it doesnt matter? He'd lay anything? Hmmmmm...Your saying the only reason he's your friend is because he wants to have sex? That's not saying much for the male gender is it? Kinda shallow. But, yeah I get where your coming from. I've been there. I have "offered myself up" back in day outta spite to another male and he turned me down because of moral issues. And you know what..I had a great respect for him.
As I indicated above...it's an unusual man that seeks out friendship with women. I don't know anyone personally that has close female friends for reasons other than those listed
....Now we are talking friends here....friends being people you actually spend time with and do things with...anything else is not a friend but an acquaintance imo. Someone you see occasionally in the company of others or your neighbor you talk to across the fence is not a friend...they are an aquaintance.
Regarding your question about men wanting to have sex....if she is even half decent...he HAS thought about it..yes.
I have female friends whom go to the movies with, fish, camp and play cards occasionally. We've been friends since college, one was at my wedding and I went to the wedding of another. We've gone to concerts and even to traveled internationally together. It's actually pretty relaxing to spend time with them because the 'sex' factor is out of the picture. One lady friend stayed at my place last year after her divorce, she lives in town here and uses my washer and dryer every week because her apartment is too small.
You're not wearing a shirt therefore your input is invalid.
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| 7/16/2008 2:41:56 PM |
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chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 22
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try here as i have alot of women friends on here who are like family to me.
me too!
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| 7/29/2008 4:31:01 PM |
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kwietkptkatie
Las Vegas, NV
age: 42
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Believe it or not bar and grills, strip clubs, selling avon, babysitting in your neighborhood, or just run an ad in your local paper stating that you're new to area, you're not gay and then list the things that you're looking for in a friend. I said strip clubs because their are alot of girls that enjoy NOT being hit on and are discriminated against by more straight laced women. 
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| 7/29/2008 4:37:02 PM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 63
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It takes time for anyone to make friends---why not inquire about some local clubs--or sport groups--or a volunteer agency that may need and welcome your involvement. You get out of life, what you put into it. Join up--join in. Have fun--good luck
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| 7/29/2008 4:50:12 PM |
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janisidy
Richfield, UT
age: 50
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Use the Internet to get off the Internet! - meetup.com
Good way to meet people with the same interests.
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| 7/29/2008 8:30:56 PM |
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relaxic
Hinesville, GA
age: 42
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Beanz.....
Well there are exceptions...maybe you are right, maybe most men do or would be after if if "female friend" put it out there.....maybe you are right, maybe those men that don't are often gay......but.....
That is not always the case....I do have female friends....I am not gay......and I am attracted to more than one female friend of mine...but they are friends and friends they shall remain.....
You think I am full of it...ok......I kinda think it is funny....it seems some women and their egos can't handle the fact that a nice looking straight guy doesn't actually want to bang them.....well believe it or not...there are exceptions
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| 7/29/2008 9:20:41 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 54
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I made alot of my female freinds on here becasue we all found out we all were being played by the same guy!
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| 7/30/2008 12:15:57 AM |
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semp
Valencia, CA
age: 56
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Do you like books and enjoy reading? I joined a book club for a few months when I first came back to the states to live and I made a few female friends,one I am still close to,wish she did not have to move away I miss her.
It was fun but the guys were a little to weird for me Also too try taking a after work cooking class they have tons of them in NYC and some are quite fun and meant for singles too.
Wish you luck...I know how nice it is to have a few females to hang out with when one is new to any city
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