| 7/16/2008 3:14:47 PM |
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malarchik
Cary, NC
age: 39
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Ok who has ever heard You are a GOOD looking guy, Sexy and blah blah blah but.... Iam not ready to date. SO I JUST want to ask WHAT are you doing on a DATE site and meeting people for it your not ready to date? If you want a friend... Oh you know what I think I just answered my own Question. And now I feel like a heal. ohh boy. Maybe I just need to be her friend.
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| 7/16/2008 3:31:13 PM |
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easternncguy
Rocky Mount, NC
age: 51
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Hmm. My two cents worth. When she says that maybe you should date other people, or that she is not looking to date but she is on a date site, it means that you are not the one she is looking for. That might seem harsh, but a lot of people do not know what they are looking for. And when you don't know, you won't find it. Some people are looking for a certain feeling right away, and when it doesn't happen, right away, then you're not it either.
I am not one for trying to make a lifestyle fit, or personality fit, with someone who has a totally different approach to life. But, some of us will grow old alone and wonder what happened.
Okay, that was three cents worth...
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| 7/16/2008 3:38:07 PM |
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malarchik
Cary, NC
age: 39
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Ahhh but you dont see we are still doing things together, Going out to Dinners and Swimming and Watching movies at her house. I dont think its not having something in commen or she doesnt like Me I think, she is just not ready for any relationship. But just needs a friend. or Iam a complete Idiot and she will end up breaking my heart ! but either way its a journey I must travel.
[Edited 7/16/2008 3:39:30 PM]
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| 7/16/2008 3:41:33 PM |
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snowbay
Lillington, NC
age: 36
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Then continue giving what she wants. I hope you are benefiting too.
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| 7/16/2008 3:44:59 PM |
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dizlanpal
Efland, NC
age: 43
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Well I think you need to pack up your marbles and go find someone that woudl appreciate you. If she is seeing other people then you are right she thinks of you as a friend and probably wont see it going any further than that until its to late and you have found your "Ms. Right".
I wish you luck. That is my two cents worth.
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| 7/16/2008 3:46:44 PM |
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bblee
Salisbury, NC
age: 48
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I am pretty new into this site and feel yes, the women who are giving you these comments are likely trying to let you down easy or you may seem a bit anxious rushing things. I have to say I have been out of the dating scene a while and although it would be nice to meet someone who will click with me, it isn't all that easy. I think since I am older I am at a point of wanting to find the right guy. The hardest part for me is that when, if I decide to take the online dating thing to the next level (meeting), I don't want to feel like it is commitment at that point. After all, this is online and it is difficult basing any kind of life-long decision. I have dated where I kind of feel the guy is like "okay, you are good enough for me, (not ideal) but better than being alone". If you really want a chance with someone who truly feels like it could go somewhere then don't appear too anxious. Women are afraid of that.
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| 7/16/2008 3:46:59 PM |
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twentyfour7
Buies Creek, NC
age: 31
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You have more "benefits" in that relationship than hurts, it seems you want to make those benefits "personal to holder" but it is not working. If it was really hurting, you could have gone else where....before you spend all your money on her, move on. You are dinging a well without water.
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| 7/16/2008 4:43:44 PM |
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rumrunner35
Charlotte, NC
age: 35
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I don't know...she might mean what she says. I joined this site after getting separated from my wife, thinking I was ready to jump right back in....needless to say, I wasn't (and still am not). But before I realized that I met some people on here that I would hang out with as friends.
Only she knows her true intentions...whether it was to let you down easy or to tell you the honest truth so you wouldn't get your expectations up, she sounds like a classy lady to me. Just be her friend and let nature be natural 
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