| 7/24/2008 2:53:04 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
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| 7/24/2008 3:03:47 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 53
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Well I wouldnt date a younger guy it just doesnt feel right. I would feel like a dirty ole woman taking advantage of him..By this I mean if he were a lot younger a few yrs difference is ok...I think with older men and younger girls again it depends on the age difference ...It is not nice seeing a big age gap it makes me feel uncomfortable.... 
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| 7/24/2008 3:13:43 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 42
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I really don't see any positive connotations around the term cougar. Nor do I find that practice acceptable. But, it is not really a double standard in our favor. I think because there is not one widely used word for older men who date younger women, the fact that women are labeled makes it a double standard not in our favor. I am not starting a battle just sharing my perspective.~Klassy
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| 7/24/2008 3:21:41 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 38
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
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| 7/24/2008 3:26:53 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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joy617
Henagar, AL
age: 47
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I've only dated a guy 3 years younger than me. Although, my husband was 14 years older. A few times during our marriage we got negative comments from strangers. One older lady in Wal-mart chased him around hitting him with her purse and yelling, "You cradle robber, you should be ashamed of yourself. I guess you think you're a big man with that little girl, huh?" I had to grab her arm and ask her to leave my husband alone. It was so embarrassing. We got the occassional, "So, did you meet her in high school? Did you pick her up on the play ground in your neighborhood?" and at his class reunion SEVERAL guys asked, "Did he PAY you to come to the reunion with him? Is Kenneth rich, cause he ain't that good looking? Why would you marry someone so old?" AND, my favorite one was, "How much do you cost? I'll give you more than Kenneth is paying you!" I said, "You'll have to ask him." I knew my husband would slug him for that comment!!!
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| 7/24/2008 3:31:23 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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v2_3
McHenry, IL
age: 48
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More than 10 years difference in ages is a stretch whether it's a man or a woman who is the older of the two. There has to be a foundation to build a relationship on. A larger difference in age leaves too much of a gap in life experience for there to be any real meeting of the minds. That said, my best friend is 15 years older than her husband and they are two of the happiest people I know. It works for them, I just couldn't see it for myself.
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| 7/24/2008 3:34:51 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 40
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
last i checked it takes2. i dont know how 1 could be considered a 'prey'
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| 7/24/2008 3:39:12 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pattilee3
Norfolk, VA
age: 56
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It's hard to consider someone younger as prey when they are pursuing you. I'm not talking about teens, I have teen boys too. 
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| 7/24/2008 3:44:00 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 38
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
last i checked it takes2. i dont know how 1 could be considered a 'prey'
You're kidding right?
So my son's school teacher who is in her 30's and married and he's say or 13 or 14 yrs old and you think he's fully cognitive adult to be considered "willing"?
Or based on my own personal experience a 38 man or woman who marries a 16yr?
As adults we all know that anyone under the age of 25 don't even really
know WHO they are! How can they offer a real lasting relationship when they hardly
have any life experience?
An older person really has an upper hand to manipulate and brainwash a younger
person just because life itself has given them so many more experiences than
a younger person.
Yes that makes an older person a predator!
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| 7/24/2008 3:47:09 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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sweetnessb
Stinnett, KY
age: 37
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i wouldnt date a younger guy either anything below 30 is just creepy
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| 7/24/2008 3:48:58 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 40
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
last i checked it takes2. i dont know how 1 could be considered a 'prey'
You're kidding right?
So my son's school teacher who is in her 30's and married and he's say or 13 or 14 yrs old and you think he's fully cognitive adult to be considered "willing"?
Or based on my own personal experience a 38 man or woman who marries a 16yr?
As adults we all know that anyone under the age of 25 don't even really
know WHO they are! How can they offer a real lasting relationship when they hardly
have any life experience?
An older person really has an upper hand to manipulate and brainwash a younger
person just because life itself has given them so many more experiences than
a younger person.
Yes that makes an older person a predator!
if you really want to stretch it and bring up not only immoral but also illegal scenarios,then you are correct.i figured your opinion was based on normal scenarios.
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| 7/24/2008 3:56:29 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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llh5
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
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This thread wasn't about an adult dating minors.
If an adult wants to date a much younger person of legal age, what the hell is the issue?
[Edited 7/24/2008 4:00:33 PM ]
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| 7/24/2008 4:00:37 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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Yeah, I'm gonna agree with wiley on this. Let me clarify: I wasn't talking about people who go after children. ANYONE who does that needs to have hot, rough sex with a serrated knife coated in a mixture of salt water, lemon juice, iodine, mercurichrome, and Bactine, then be fed to hungry gators.
I'm talking about people who are adults that date adults, but much younger than they are.
Cool the maternal emotions.
[Edited 7/24/2008 4:01:40 PM ]
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| 7/24/2008 4:38:05 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 45
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My exhusband is 43; his last girlfriend was 24. I never met her, but my teenaged sons were both enamored of her- cause she smelled nice and had a tattoo on her lower back, and was closer in age to them than she was to my ex.
Was he a dirty old man? No, just a horny lonely guy.... bottom line.
I was telling this to my dad- who is 76- and he said well, if you're gonna have a girlfriend, it might as well be someone young and vibrant and who can help with the kids... so if I (he) had a girlfriend, she'd have to be about 43, 44... (which is my age) ...
at which point I called my dad a dirty old man. 
It's more about why you're in the relationship than the age of the people, I think. Younger women hitting on older men are sometimes categorized as gold diggers. Age is a number... and if the numbers are far apart but the people in the relationship are close in their thinking... well, more power to them. Call em what you will... but if it works, it works.
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| 7/24/2008 4:53:11 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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llh5
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
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My exhusband is 43; his last girlfriend was 24. I never met her, but my teenaged sons were both enamored of her- cause she smelled nice and had a tattoo on her lower back, and was closer in age to them than she was to my ex.
Was he a dirty old man? No, just a horny lonely guy.... bottom line.
I was telling this to my dad- who is 76- and he said well, if you're gonna have a girlfriend, it might as well be someone young and vibrant and who can help with the kids... so if I (he) had a girlfriend, she'd have to be about 43, 44... (which is my age) ...
at which point I called my dad a dirty old man.
It's more about why you're in the relationship than the age of the people, I think. Younger women hitting on older men are sometimes categorized as gold diggers. Age is a number... and if the numbers are far apart but the people in the relationship are close in their thinking... well, more power to them. Call em what you will... but if it works, it works.
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| 7/24/2008 5:01:12 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
age: 55
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mercy i'm backing out of this one
I like older men 
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| 7/24/2008 5:42:57 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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k9handler
Cincinnati, OH
age: 61
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I don't see anything positive in the term cougar. My late husband was 11 years younger than I and we had much in common except music. He liked the oldies and I like soft rock. Only music we could ever agree on was Segar! LOL
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| 7/24/2008 6:02:02 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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becky38socalif
Joshua Tree, CA
age: 40
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in my experience ...couples that have a gap in ages ..its usually the man is older then the female ...although i do know a handful of men that have much older gf/wife....personally i do like older men vs..younger then me .....
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| 7/25/2008 4:09:58 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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Ok, now I'll throw in MY two cents.
I notice a lot of women saying things like, "I would never date a younger guy; that's just creepy" right on the heels of which is something to the tune of "I'll go five years in either direction". I'm hoping that I don't need to point out the irony there. 
Now as to the actual "cougar vs. creep", I personally don't believe age has anything to do with anything. I get along with, and am found attractive by, women my age, women younger than me, and women older than me. Would I date some of them from either category? Hell, yeah! See, I'm attracted to the person, not the age. Age is a number. It's just another way to label people, and since I don't really fit into any particular label, I don't believe anyone else does, either.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that anyone that says dating outside of your age is creepy may want to reexamine their outlook on life. After all, ageism IS a form of discrimination. Now, I'm not saying you ladies are bad people, just that you're limiting yourselves, and may be missing out on that opportunity for finding that special someone, and, let's face it, isn't that why most of us are here?
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| 7/25/2008 4:17:15 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 53
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Ok I'm gonna find me a real toy boy move over Demmi Moore here i come I want my toy boy but hey i dont want a sugar daddy ...
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| 7/25/2008 4:24:46 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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sags2008
Chicago, IL
age: 51
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I for one don’t see anything wrong with dating someone that is younger or older then me. But I would second (agree) with one poster that draws the line at anyone that would be 10 years younger then me or 10 years my senior. Why 10 years? Well it a good round number and I believe that the success rate for this relationship starts to decline after the 10 year mark. Again this is what I believe. I would never tell anyone else to not or to date anyone younger or older the 10 years. That is their own personal choice...
Also the years give us personal growth and maturity so again a 10 “gap” I would believe indeed be a factor to consider when starting and beginning a relationship with this person. Again this all go hand in hand with compatibility, maturity comparisons and other factors not so listed.
[Edited 7/25/2008 4:32:34 AM ]
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| 7/25/2008 5:15:40 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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v2_3
McHenry, IL
age: 48
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.......Now as to the actual "cougar vs. creep", I personally don't believe age has anything to do with anything. I get along with, and am found attractive by, women my age, women younger than me, and women older than me. Would I date some of them from either category? Hell, yeah! See, I'm attracted to the person, not the age. Age is a number. It's just another way to label people, and since I don't really fit into any particular label, I don't believe anyone else does, either.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that anyone that says dating outside of your age is creepy may want to reexamine their outlook on life. After all, ageism IS a form of discrimination. Now, I'm not saying you ladies are bad people, just that you're limiting yourselves, and may be missing out on that opportunity for finding that special someone, and, let's face it, isn't that why most of us are here?
Pirate- Sorry for the edit, but I wanted to address a specific point you made. I too can find something of interest in just about anyone, regardless of their age. Could I date someone 20 years my senior and enjoy it? Of course. Same with someone younger. To have a relationship that would last I still feel that staying within 10 years of my age stands the best chance for success. Am I limiting myself? Perhaps. Perhaps I know myself well enough to realize what works for me.
Different strokes for different folks.
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| 7/25/2008 6:01:30 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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eyeonheaven
Azle, TX
age: 58
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.......Now as to the actual "cougar vs. creep", I personally don't believe age has anything to do with anything. I get along with, and am found attractive by, women my age, women younger than me, and women older than me. Would I date some of them from either category? Hell, yeah! See, I'm attracted to the person, not the age. Age is a number. It's just another way to label people, and since I don't really fit into any particular label, I don't believe anyone else does, either.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that anyone that says dating outside of your age is creepy may want to reexamine their outlook on life. After all, ageism IS a form of discrimination. Now, I'm not saying you ladies are bad people, just that you're limiting yourselves, and may be missing out on that opportunity for finding that special someone, and, let's face it, isn't that why most of us are here?
Pirate- Sorry for the edit, but I wanted to address a specific point you made. I too can find something of interest in just about anyone, regardless of their age. Could I date someone 20 years my senior and enjoy it? Of course. Same with someone younger. To have a relationship that would last I still feel that staying within 10 years of my age stands the best chance for success. Am I limiting myself? Perhaps. Perhaps I know myself well enough to realize what works for me.
Different strokes for different folks.
LOL I keep steeling everyone elses quotes but Fine minds do think alike and if someone says it first you just have to second it. However I can't date anyone more than 5 years younger than me because it feels moraly wrong to me. Like she says "Different strokes for different folks"
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| 7/25/2008 6:11:13 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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l4fun
Jonesboro, IN
age: 48
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I'm afraid i'm gonna have to agree with Pirate... given the bounds of legality, two adults should be able to date without random sneering from the general public. If we're not in their relationship, it's simply none of our business. As long as the two ppl are of legal age I don't see anything morally wrong.
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| 7/25/2008 6:24:42 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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osoroho
Mesquite, TX
age: 60
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Why would you let age come between you and haveing a good time??? I am dateing a lady 11years younger than i am now have dated a ladt 6 years older both are lots of fun dont see a problem...I wont date a lady younger than my daughter now that would be wrong to me....
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| 7/25/2008 8:31:55 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 45
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Are there any double standards that are not in women's favor?
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| 7/25/2008 8:51:31 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 42
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The term cougar refers more to an older woman who uses much younger men for boy toys. It is not so much about dating younger men. I have dated much younger men since I have been single, it all depends on their maturity level. The thing is, when you date someone more in your age group, you often are in similar places in life. My husband was 9 years older than me and HE often thought he robbed me of my youth.
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| 7/25/2008 8:54:48 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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alicekathleen
Sacramento, CA
age: 65
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Why would I date a man who does not remember Buddy Holly? I can only speak for myself, of course. I want a man
who grew up in my era and with whom I can relate.
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| 7/25/2008 4:40:39 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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Why would I date a man who does not remember Buddy Holly? I can only speak for myself, of course. I want a man
who grew up in my era and with whom I can relate.
Um, Alice. I remember Buddy Holly. LOVE his music. A shame the way he died. So that argument is invalid 
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| 7/25/2008 4:41:33 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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The term cougar refers more to an older woman who uses much younger men for boy toys. It is not so much about dating younger men.
See, I've always heard it in reference to any older woman dating a younger guy.
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| 7/25/2008 4:45:06 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
Hey, you forgot the young girls that hit on older guys. What do yo call them?
Good question, power. Well, since the older ones are "cougars", would the younger ones then be "cubs"?
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| 7/25/2008 4:48:44 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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carolinaguy71
Boca Raton, FL
age: 39
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
Hey, you forgot the young girls that hit on older guys. What do yo call them?
Good question, power. Well, since the older ones are "cougars", would the younger ones then be "cubs"?
No we call them smart Most younger women that date older men are tired of the games that young men play and want a more stable relationship or they are using him for his money.
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| 7/25/2008 11:50:57 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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juniebegood
Huntington, NY
age: 56
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Hey fellas, what can I say?????
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| 7/25/2008 11:53:54 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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sumbeach777
Red Springs, NC
age: 47
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
Well you do know the female cougar does all the killing, while the, male sits on his arse, waits for his meal...... fare is fare right Ladies.....LOL
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| 7/26/2008 12:00:09 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 55
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sorry..i just seem to fall for the younger guys ! Not someone my kids ages, but in their late 30's or 40's...no problem...they seem to be more active and open to having fun in life. I'm certainly not ready to just sit on the couch and watch tv every weekend !
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| 7/26/2008 12:26:09 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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stylistic
Rockville, MD
age: 58
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Cougar,I like it. Younger men can keep up with an active older woman. Seems ironic that that same aged man goes after women half their age and want to start families. Thats when they seem to keep up. Personally I tried to date a much younger man, didn't like it to imature on many levels,however that being said what you want for the future and the age group your in I think plays an important roll.
Just a note to the lady who said 25yr olds don't know who they are,By 25 My parents graduated from college, already had proffessions, owned a house, had me,and were no longer living in the state where their parents lived. My father is 4 yrs older than my mother and they are still married.
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| 7/26/2008 12:36:18 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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texrenee531
Austin, TX
age: 37
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I think everybody should mind their own business and stop judging other people by who they choose to date and what they do. I don't really care what other people think about who I choose to date. It's my relationship not theirs. Usually thats done out of jealousy.
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| 7/26/2008 12:40:48 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 29
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
Why does it have to be preying on? Why can't it be mutual attraction and happiness? Your negativity says a lot.
I was with a 39 year old woman. She wasn't taking advantage of me or preying on me. We just enjoyed each others company and had fun.
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| 7/26/2008 12:52:10 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 42
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The term cougar refers more to an older woman who uses much younger men for boy toys. It is not so much about dating younger men.
See, I've always heard it in reference to any older woman dating a younger guy.
In another thread someone posted a definition which insinuated it was women over 40 using men under 25 as boy toys, so right or wrong that is how I have perceived the term. Of course we all have our own perceptions and realities.
[Edited 7/26/2008 12:54:36 AM ]
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| 7/26/2008 5:46:45 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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leterman
Kansas City, MO
age: 37
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Yep, its the age thing agin, it all is about the person.
Go with this,"Never say never".
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| 7/26/2008 6:16:06 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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lonelykittencal
Los Angeles, CA
age: 22
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As a mother I'd pull every hair in a woman's head out if she was
clearly what's considered a cougar and went after one of my boys. I don't care
man or woman a much older person doesn't have the right to prey on a younger person.
However having never dated a younger or even same age man as myself have decided to
to open myself to dating a man a few years younger meaning 5 or 7 yrs younger
than myself.
I maybe in my prime but I still have the responsibility to be an ethical person.
last i checked it takes2. i dont know how 1 could be considered a 'prey'
You're kidding right?
So my son's school teacher who is in her 30's and married and he's say or 13 or 14 yrs old and you think he's fully cognitive adult to be considered "willing"?
Or based on my own personal experience a 38 man or woman who marries a 16yr?
As adults we all know that anyone under the age of 25 don't even really
know WHO they are! How can they offer a real lasting relationship when they hardly
have any life experience?
An older person really has an upper hand to manipulate and brainwash a younger
person just because life itself has given them so many more experiences than
a younger person.
Yes that makes an older person a predator!
YOU are kidding right?
There are some people under the age of 20 who have been through so much bullshit throughout there childhood. You CANNOT say that people under the age of 25 hardly have any life experience. Maybe you're talking about from your own experience but I know quite a few young people, know exactly what they're talking about and who they are before they hit 25? It's like you slumped all of the '<25 years old' together and called us ignorant in terms of a relationship and what we want.
I think you just had a poor choice of wording.
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| 7/26/2008 6:48:27 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 52
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My ex was 15 years older than me. NO one made a big deal over it. Of course I was in my 30's at the time. I think it's a matter of - as we get older the ange differences don't matter as much.
I'd love a younger man at this stage of my life!!!! I would NOT want a man 15 years older than me now.
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| 7/26/2008 7:01:45 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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myr_jas
Quincy, FL
age: 59
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So how young is younger? I prefer men in their 40's only because all the guys my age are OLD!! Of course they want 20-30 somethings Personally, I feel my expectations are more realistic.
BTW, I am NOT a cougar!
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| 7/26/2008 7:17:57 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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chicaboom58
North Bergen, NJ
age: 61
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
I date younger men, but there is a limit, for me 15 yrs younger is my limit and that is stretching it. It depends on the individual, I have met very young men who have their life in order and were very mature, as a matter of fact more mature than some men my age or older. I prefer younger men because I am very young in mind and heart. I do not look, feel or act my age, but this does not mean I am not a lady.
As for men I don't have a problem with them dating younger women again, I think a 50 yr old man dating a 19 or 20 yr old is a bit much. I don't judge, it is their life not mine. I do what I feel is right for myself. And please let's get off the term Cougar, because it is getting played out. It is, in reality a term that Hollywood conjured up to define mature actresses dating or marrying younger men. One woman's opinion
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| 7/26/2008 9:31:57 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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frosty111
Oakland, MS
age: 53
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My grandparents had a 21 year age difference. She was younger. They were reasonably happy. Raised their family grandaddy died at 77 .Mamaw never remarried or dated another man.When I ask her about it in her 80's. she said it wouldn't be fair to another man for she had loved with all of her and the other man would have to walk in his shadow and she didn't think that would be fair to the other man as she had considered it.
I say live and let liveI don't want to be the arbiter of anyones happiness or their pursuit of it. As for me I had some trauma in my life that has kept me young at heart for my age. I find younger women attractive but want pursue it for fear of leaving them alone while their are middle aged .so there LIVE AND LET LIVE
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| 7/26/2008 9:38:27 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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becky518
Muncie, IN
age: 37
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Well, I have dated a guy who was 9 years younger than me and it did not work out and I have dated a MAN that was 17 years older than me and it lasted 12 years. So I prefer the older ones.. However, If 2 people are over 18 and enjoy each others company than that is all that matters... Age is just a number if you are mature about it.
So I say go find HAPPINESS...
Have a good evening
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| 7/26/2008 9:40:53 PM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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sags2008
Chicago, IL
age: 51
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Just saw a show with this topic and the speaker made a good point. That when you might be with someone younger or older then yourself and as you both age together the gap between the ages gets wider. Like when you meet someone that is 20 and you are 40. Well, when you are 60 your chosen other will only be 40. This is when I believe the gap in ages becomes challenging and even problematic.
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| 7/27/2008 6:50:36 AM |
Ladies, here's a double-standard that's in your favor. |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 38
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If an older woman starts dating a younger guy, she's a cougar. But if an older guy starts hitting on younger women, he's a creep (and, from what I've seen, thought of as one step above a pedophile).
Discuss.
Well you do know the female cougar does all the killing, while the, male sits on his arse, waits for his meal...... fare is fare right Ladies.....LOL
Actually, you're thinking of lions. Cougars are solitary hunters. It matters little to me, for I am a wolf.
[Edited 7/27/2008 6:56:00 AM ]
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