| 7/26/2008 4:21:39 AM |
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lovestolaugh75
Hackensack, NJ
age: 32
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I notice a few people on here who are actually married. Playing two sides of the fence I see.
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| 7/26/2008 8:30:40 AM |
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angiecoleman
Hamburg, NY
age: 26
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If they say they are married and looking, then I see nothing wrong with it because they are being honest. It's the people who look and decieve others that are the bad guys or people who live with someone and out looking for dates.
those are the bad ones.
If someone is married and they are upfront about it and its not for you all you have to say is :NO
I find they are much more respectful of your choice to reject them than many singles are.
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| 7/26/2008 8:58:51 AM |
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lovestolaugh75
Hackensack, NJ
age: 32
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Agreed! I am talking about the men/women on here who are trying to have some fun behind their spouse's back!
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| 7/26/2008 9:02:28 AM |
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lobo_corazon
Kingston, ON
age: 39 online now!
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If they say they are married and looking, then I see nothing wrong with it because they are being honest. It's the people who look and decieve others that are the bad guys or people who live with someone and out looking for dates.
those are the bad ones.
If someone is married and they are upfront about it and its not for you all you have to say is :NO
I find they are much more respectful of your choice to reject them than many singles are.
Eh... I guess you could argue that IF they are being upfront about it with their wife/husband too... But sneaking around on your spouse = bad, right?
Goodness knows I want nothing to do with a cheat. I suppose I might use one for sex, if I was that kind of guy.
Edit to add the quote, because you are too fast for me! 
[Edited 7/26/2008 9:03:57 AM]
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| 7/26/2008 9:06:35 AM |
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lovestolaugh75
Hackensack, NJ
age: 32
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They are not only cheating their spouse but they are cheating the person they are trying to date. It is just sad that there are actually people like that. It makes one not want to date at all.
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| 7/26/2008 10:21:19 AM |
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sammysammy1
Derby, NY
age: 38
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They are not only cheating their spouse but they are cheating the person they are trying to date. It is just sad that there are actually people like that. It makes one not want to date at all.
someone being married is no different than all the other things someone can be, is it?
people will lie about being in debt, being a felon, being a child molester, being unemployed, being about ready to have their house forclosed on, being 50 pounds over the weight they said they were, having severe mental illness they hope to hide from you, being a thief, being a user.
It's no different than a cheating spouse as I see it, all being equally undesirable.
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| 7/26/2008 10:46:38 AM |
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heelandtoe2008
Cromwell, CT
age: 44
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I admit that I am only separated (choice misspelled in menu). I was actually divorced (well, annulled) for half a day last week until the judge changed his mind (vacated). I can't believe how difficult it is to achieve a legal end to this marriage. I only wish it had been half as difficult to get married in the first place.
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| 7/26/2008 10:55:19 AM |
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heelandtoe2008
Cromwell, CT
age: 44
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As a follow-up, I think some people (men and women) are too insecure to even separate before looking for a new partner. Personally, I would avoid those simply because of the insecurities, but I do understand that they are trying to work their way out of a bad situation as best they can.
Then, of course, there are probably others who are content with their marriage, but want more (or something else) outside of the marriage without telling their partner. Although I won't judge them for wanting more, I do find it extremely offensive that they are dishonest with their partner about it.
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| 7/26/2008 11:07:58 AM |
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holdmetight2
Turlock, CA
age: 57
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well sweetheart ! i have been married longer than you are old . Not all of us are cheatimg anyone. Spouse ? maybe ! But the person i see are usually married in dead in long term marriages. After being married so long ! You young people have no idea what it would do to you finicially to leave . Wish i could see a survey 20 years from now to see how many stay married much longer than 7 years ?
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| 7/26/2008 12:39:29 PM |
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testinggrounds
Queen Creek, AZ
age: 40 online now!
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I admit that I am only separated (choice misspelled in menu). I was actually divorced (well, annulled) for half a day last week until the judge changed his mind (vacated). I can't believe how difficult it is to achieve a legal end to this marriage. I only wish it had been half as difficult to get married in the first place.
Hey I feel for you man,, I was married 12 years,, well spiritually married for 12... 7 years ago she left our daughter and I for skid row, she recently passed away from her addiction..
One week before her death I got the dissmissal order from the court, I could have served her on her death bed but I'd rather pay for her to have a respectable burrial than more attourney fees.. I'm technically widdowed now, but really divorced.. Technically a 19 year marriage... Reality 12.. I was always up front, I'd probably still be with my little girs mom (5 year relationship) If I were freed of my marriage years ago...
The courts in some states suck ... Just be upfront and go through the process.
EM
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| 7/26/2008 1:20:50 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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I notice a few people on here who are actually married. Playing two sides of the fence I see.
Yep, they are deceiving their spouses and playing games - not a good combination.
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| 7/26/2008 1:51:05 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 39 online now!
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If they say they are married and looking, then I see nothing wrong with it because they are being honest. It's the people who look and decieve others that are the bad guys or people who live with someone and out looking for dates. those are the bad ones. If someone is married and they are upfront about it and its not for you all you have to say is :NO I find they are much more respectful of your choice to reject them than many singles are.
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| 7/26/2008 7:59:52 PM |
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cgrl
Norristown, PA
age: 46
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It is not even remotely funny when you meet on these dating
sites - do not know they are married and make all these plans
of a future together and then get the wake up call of your life-
from his wife.
Just remember this - married men DO NOT leave thier wives.
Thier wives either keep them and put up with thier shit
or they kick thier asses out so never ever think you are
special and never ever think he will leave her for you
because they dont.
They will tell you a million things to - I sleep in the guest
room to she f**ks her boss so I do my thing to she only has
a taste for rednecks and Im not one- Dont believe any of it.
They will tell you they are leaving or they have left but they
dont. They will tell you they have filed for divorce -
Most court houses you can access for these types of
documents and believe me - that document is not filed.
There are many reasons why they stay and there are many reasons
why they play.
Believe me you dont want to know- just step away from the married guys
here.
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| 7/26/2008 8:01:38 PM |
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missedmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
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it isnt right...but sometimes people dont have a clue what is right...
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| 7/26/2008 8:09:00 PM |
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losalamosgemini
Los Alamos, NM
age: 41
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I think most people (me included) have made foolish decisions such as leaving someone before thinking it through, and realizing how much its gonna hurt...
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