| 7/29/2008 4:16:37 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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Ok here it is folks. There are so many threads out here about why nice guys finish last and all of that shit. Threads about sending nice emails or being an a**hole in them. I have read many and I am one to give compliment where one is deserved. I do have to say that I HAVE seen some women on here that are so beautiful they take your breath away! Now after reading all that (women's responses too!) I can say I shy away from giving compliments to beautiful women because you say it is a "cookie cutter" message and delete the message. Is it so hard to believe that you really are beautiful? Or maybe that this guy emailing you really thinks so? By deleting the message you just very well may be throwing away the chance to meet that nice guy that you have been looking for? Is it possible that all of us men are not out to get laid? I do not like gender bashing and will not take part of it either way, ANYONE who does will be blocked from posting here. I am simply asking...... Why not accept the compliment and maybe even email this guy back?
It really does make guys think when we give a compliment like that and we get it thrown in our faces.
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| 7/29/2008 4:20:46 PM |
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ldt
Houma, LA
age: 42
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 midnight..I always email back and say thank you. but I won't email for winks, my profile states that I only responds to messages.
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| 7/29/2008 4:22:30 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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Hey Lana Nice to see you! Thanks for the input hun!
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| 7/29/2008 4:24:12 PM |
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wildchild1987
Suffern, NY
age: 21
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 When I get an email that only says hey your sexy I would like to get to know you..it pretty much turns me away and gets deleted...and then there are some that i will respond to.. Just the way its said I guess
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| 7/29/2008 4:27:25 PM |
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cgrl
Norristown, PA
age: 46
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Is it so hard to believe that you really are beautiful?
Yes it is. You are looking at a picture. You dont know us to
be gushing about our beauty. When you do that we think or at least I think
you only see what I look like and everything I say to you is ignored and
its all about how I look.
does that make sense? How about reading the profile and commenting
on something like her interests (dont read mine) and maybe say
"by the way you are very beautiful"- like after the third or fourth
email. It sounds more believable because you are having a conversation
with her first- getting to know her, then commenting on how she looks.
When you start off with all the gushy stuff it just sounds
scripted and unbelievable.
[Edited 7/29/2008 4:29:10 PM]
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| 7/29/2008 4:28:07 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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Thank you Missy. I know women get the perverts with rude emails and I am not here to defend those. I am talking about when women get the ones that say " you are beautiful" or something like that and the girl says " He is full of shit!" This makes us guys not want to say those things and say F%$K It!
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| 7/29/2008 4:31:55 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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Is it so hard to believe that you really are beautiful?
Yes it is. You are looking at a picture. You dont know us to
be gushing about our beauty. When you do that we think or at least I think
you only see what I look like and everything I say to you is ignored and
its all about how I look.
does that make sense? How about reading the profile and commenting
on something like her interests (dont read mine) and maybe say
"by the way you are very beautiful"- like after the third or fourth
email. It sounds more believable because you are having a conversaton
with her first- getting to know her, then commenting on how she looks.
When you start off with all the gushy stuff it just sounds
scripted and unbeleivable.
I can understand why you think this way. There are so many out there that do not read (or maybe just can not read) the profiles. But yes I can say that I have seen just a picture and thought she was beautiful in the picture. I also read the profiles, maybe some guys (maybe I am one) that just are not good with introductions? If it is perverted I say delete, if he is being nice, why not give him a chance?
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| 7/29/2008 4:33:21 PM |
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gar67
Dingla
Nepal
age: 89
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Wake me when the nice guy, bad boy thing is over Ok?
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| 7/29/2008 4:34:12 PM |
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wildchild1987
Suffern, NY
age: 21
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Now that I think about it..I did get one nice little email like that..somthing about my pictures and also about my music taste....I responded back to him..and he was very suprised I even read his email and that it wasn't deleted ..
We kinda had a nice conversation...so Im glad I didn't delete it..I could tell he really had somthing to say.....even his compliment about my pictures was very nice...
So I guess it is always nice to respond..to some emails out there....ya never know!!
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| 7/29/2008 4:49:26 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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I personally feel that if you are dating a guy, he should make you feel like you are the most beautiful girl in the world. and to him you should be! jmo
Ps Missy.... you are not like any other, you are totaly sweet... oops there I go again trying to get into her pants!
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| 7/29/2008 4:55:44 PM |
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sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
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Well to be honest the only emails I delete and not respond to are the ones that say basically
Hi your hot wanna chat. I used to email back and say Nope kind of chilly here in Ak right now I don't do IM's email are great for me have anice day.
Any email that is sent to me gets a response may take a while depending on what I am doing but I do respond. The exception to the rules are these.
Blatently sexual
Blatent Stupid form letter
U R hot wanna Chat?
I delete this right off the bat.
A compliment that is genuine is alway nice to hear.
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| 7/29/2008 4:57:58 PM |
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sundayknot
Compton, CA
age: 39
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Now that I think about it..I did get one nice little email like that..somthing about my pictures and also about my music taste....I responded back to him..and he was very suprised I even read his email and that it wasn't deleted ..
We kinda had a nice conversation...so Im glad I didn't delete it..I could tell he really had somthing to say.....even his compliment about my pictures was very nice...
So I guess it is always nice to respond..to some emails out there....ya never know!!
come to Compton, CA and I'll be nice to you for a night.
 
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| 7/29/2008 4:58:06 PM |
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bls_sdmf
Palmyra, VA
age: 47
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..hmmm,i never 'judge a book by it's cover'..sound familiar?
one needs to 'read' a few pages to really discover the 'hidden' chapters..
too bad that's the norm for the dating game in this day and age...everybody's looking for the ultimate trophy.
Great post though,thought provoking to say the least.Seems to be the most common aspect of trying to break the ice without being too 'stalker,sex-fiendish' and/or a complete 'a**hole'.
Hey,guess we all still need to find that thin,fine line,eh?
...oh,by the way folks,Brad and Angelina are already taken 
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| 7/29/2008 5:00:32 PM |
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wildchild1987
Suffern, NY
age: 21
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| 7/29/2008 5:02:06 PM |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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YOU GO MISSY!! 
BLS I have to agree, I guess that is what I have been trying to say. where is that happy medium girls?
[Edited 7/29/2008 5:03:06 PM]
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