I'm sorry but I don't believe that a person will ever be happy if they only judge a person by their appearance on the outside. We are all Human beings and we all have feelings, insecurites, and most of us have enough problems with other aspects of our lives. I feel like this. I am who I am, I've been me for 29 years. Even though one person might not find me attractive because I carry a few extra pounds, I know that there are always others that will. I have found that most men that are that judgemental over a womans weight normally are very insecure about some part of themselves and instead of facing that, they will take it out on those around them.

I am 5'9 and 183 pounds. I think I look good and I suppose thats all that matters. I live a pretty active lifestyle and I am happy with where I'm at in life. I spent 10 1/2 years married to a very abusive man (both physically and mentally) and there is no chance in hell that I will ever allow myself to go back to that type of situation. So with that said. My opinion is this. If I gross you out that bad or you feel that I'm not thin enough or pretty enough then turn your head and keep a moving. I make it very clear in my profile (along with my pics both facial and body) that I'm not a barbie girl and I'm not going to kill myself to impress a damn soul.

So for all the heavier girls out there. ROCK IT GIRLFRIENDS!!!! Any changes you make with yourself or in your life always remember to do it for you and not for anyone else. There are plenty of wonderful men out there that are willing to accept you and love you for who you are not what you look like.