| 8/4/2008 9:13:58 AM |
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caley8s
Underwood, IA
age: 21
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I just yesterday went and hung out with my ex from two years ago, we had dated a long time and were even engaged but then we broke up because of some issues involving her and another guy up at school, I was mad and though we tried to make it work I'm ashamed to say I was an a**hole towards her then and we couldn't fix it, but for two years I thought of her every day and then this summer out of the blue she called me to wish me a happy birthday, while hanging out yesterday I decided to take the first step and tell her I still loved her and always had, but and I knew this at the time she is now dating someone else and has been for seven months, however she also said she did still love me. I told her that I was sorry that I told her how i felt too late, and that I would do anything to stay in her life even if it meant as friends but really I know I want different. I've forgiven her and she me but What can I do? I can't go another two years hanging on if there is no shot with her at all. I know this sounds needy but really I just want advice.
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| 8/4/2008 9:17:10 AM |
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nuttinbutfun
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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Once out, stay out. You are still young and there will be plenty of ladies pass through you life. Step back, take a deep breath, and man up dude! No need to pine over a lassie this early in your life, live a little.
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| 8/4/2008 9:51:24 AM |
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doughnutguy82
Paradise, CA
age: 26
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I just yesterday went and hung out with my ex from two years ago, we had dated a long time and were even engaged but then we broke up because of some issues involving her and another guy up at school, I was mad and though we tried to make it work I'm ashamed to say I was an a**hole towards her then and we couldn't fix it, but for two years I thought of her every day and then this summer out of the blue she called me to wish me a happy birthday, while hanging out yesterday I decided to take the first step and tell her I still loved her and always had, but and I knew this at the time she is now dating someone else and has been for seven months, however she also said she did still love me. I told her that I was sorry that I told her how i felt too late, and that I would do anything to stay in her life even if it meant as friends but really I know I want different. I've forgiven her and she me but What can I do? I can't go another two years hanging on if there is no shot with her at all. I know this sounds needy but really I just want advice.
Maybe you two should just be friends for a while and see how things play out. If she is dating this other fella you should just let it take its natural course. also you shouldnt put your life on hold just waiting for her, that will never work (personal experience).
just keep in contact wit one another and maybe you two have a chance at being together again. you are young and have a life time to live so dont just wait around, get on with it and things will turn out as they should. good luck with it.
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| 8/4/2008 9:53:12 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 29
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She called you out of the blue because her life sucks right now and she has burnt alot of other bridges and is hoping you take her back, then if you do before too long she will find another guy and do the same thing to you agai.... TRUST ME I KNOW THE TYPE all of my ex's to this to me every year to two years....But I befriend them but I give them no sex or relationship...
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| 8/4/2008 9:56:05 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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You're 21 ~ move on and let her enjoy her new boyfriend. There's a reason they call it "ex." If it was meant to be, you would not have hurt her. Don't do it again because you are too lazy to put work into a new relationship.
JMHO
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| 8/4/2008 10:08:14 AM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 39
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I kind of think if two years ago the problem was another guy and now she has been dating someone for seven months and is calling and hanging out with you she has problems being committed and faithful. No matter how great she is it sounds like she is a vheater and always will be. I would be cautious about opening your heart to her again.
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| 8/4/2008 10:48:55 AM |
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kingkamo
Highland, IL
age: 24
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in my experience you broke up once chances are you won't be able to make it work a second time. if she wants to be friends that's better than nothing so take what you can get.
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| 8/4/2008 11:02:35 AM |
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bry11ca
Wyandotte, MI
age: 43
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I just yesterday went and hung out with my ex from two years ago, we had dated a long time and were even engaged but then we broke up because of some issues involving her and another guy up at school, I was mad and though we tried to make it work I'm ashamed to say I was an a**hole towards her then and we couldn't fix it, but for two years I thought of her every day and then this summer out of the blue she called me to wish me a happy birthday, while hanging out yesterday I decided to take the first step and tell her I still loved her and always had, but and I knew this at the time she is now dating someone else and has been for seven months, however she also said she did still love me. I told her that I was sorry that I told her how i felt too late, and that I would do anything to stay in her life even if it meant as friends but really I know I want different. I've forgiven her and she me but What can I do? I can't go another two years hanging on if there is no shot with her at all. I know this sounds needy but really I just want advice.
Sir Caley8s (the dead man's hand),
Allow me to introduce myself, my name is Bry  ,
My humble advice is . . .
Always take the high road.
It is uphill and hard, it is work, but YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK . . .
to do so would be to slide downhill.
Cherish and appreciate the  's from your past . . . and the  's, too . . . but always take one step forward and up.
You sound like a good man . . . you will find  .
When you do, be a gentleman.
You WILL be rewarded for it.
Ask me how I know?
Bry
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5 + 11 = 16!!! 
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| 8/4/2008 11:09:26 AM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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you are in love with some one you knew years ago???
sorry to break it to you, she is not the same person, just as you are not the same person in many aspects as you were back then.
there is a saying... an x is a x for a reason...
and another is you never forget your first love.... you will always remember her name, and how great it was... just will, even when you are old... does not matter how it ended, you will remember the youth of it... you will see what i mean when you get alot older and wiser about life.
okay. what should you do???
college, travel, date alot of diffrent women, till you can take a deep breath and say yea i can move on with my life...
you are young, and yea you want to pull your hair out when you hear that... but this is the only time in your life, that you will have the energy to truly go go go, and do all the things that life has to offer...
so get out there and bite more into those many diffrent cakes in many diffrent foreign lands.
peace.
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| 8/4/2008 11:10:23 AM |
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jdsinva
Winchester, VA
age: 38
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I think Tater has some wisdom on this topic and Klassy Klown does too.
I suggest you find another girl....but what do I know?
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| 8/4/2008 11:24:21 AM |
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lobo_corazon
Kingston, ON
age: 39
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You desperately need to date other people. Spend a few years learning what different kinds of women bring to the relationship, and what works best with you.
19 was way to young to fixate on one person for a lifetime committment, and now it sounds like you're in a rut. Have you been dating for the past two years? If not, there's your problem - fix it!
PS: And "Yeah, I love you too" is a long way from "Breaking up was a terrible mistake - I'll call my bf right now and tell him I'm leaving him and getting back with you!"
She's not currently available. Pursue interesting women who are.
Good luck!
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| 8/4/2008 3:31:04 PM |
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caley8s
Underwood, IA
age: 21
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thanks for the advice but I've dated after
and we were both hurt but I felt time had healed, I just wish that I hadn't been so damned stubborn. Yes were both different people, I've grown up and so has she, but the fact of the matter is I know it would be a mistake and I'd regret it forever if I didn't try. I'll pray on the matter for awhile.
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| 8/4/2008 3:36:06 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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well caley theres your answer..she is dating someone that someone is not you...I dont mean to sound harsh but i think its time for you to move on. You cant really go back in life only forward..Dont keep hurting yourself go out enjoy your youth and yes there will be others and one day yes the one for you..........
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| 8/4/2008 3:45:16 PM |
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pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 46
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Ever watch something beautiful fall to the fall and shatter into a thousand pieces? Does who dropped it, or how it fell, make it less impossible to put it back together?
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| 8/4/2008 3:58:11 PM |
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becky38socalif
Joshua Tree, CA
age: 38
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I just yesterday went and hung out with my ex from two years ago, we had dated a long time and were even engaged but then we broke up because of some issues involving her and another guy up at school, I was mad and though we tried to make it work I'm ashamed to say I was an a**hole towards her then and we couldn't fix it, but for two years I thought of her every day and then this summer out of the blue she called me to wish me a happy birthday, while hanging out yesterday I decided to take the first step and tell her I still loved her and always had, but and I knew this at the time she is now dating someone else and has been for seven months, however she also said she did still love me. I told her that I was sorry that I told her how i felt too late, and that I would do anything to stay in her life even if it meant as friends but really I know I want different. I've forgiven her and she me but What can I do? I can't go another two years hanging on if there is no shot with her at all. I know this sounds needy but really I just want advice.
i know sometimes it can be very hard to let someone go that you still have feelings for ....if you can handle being "just friends" then why not try to be friends ...but dont put your life on hold because you are "Waiting" for another chance with her .......
she has moved on and has another bf .....your best bet is to move on too ....jmo
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