| 8/11/2008 6:17:35 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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Ok I am 47, yeah get over it I am But I was raised that the guy should make most of the initiative when first dating. I am not comfortable being the one who calls all the time, I kinda feel like I am chasing or look desperate! What do you all think? Ladies, do you do most of the contact? Guys, what do you think of a girl that calls you all the time and you rarely call? Do I need to change my mid evil ways???
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| 8/11/2008 6:20:47 PM |
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angiecoleman
San Diego, CA
age: 26
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Ok I am 47, yeah get over it I am But I was raised that the guy should make most of the initiative when first dating. I am not comfortable being the one who calls all the time, I kinda feel like I am chasing or look desperate! What do you all think? Ladies, do you do most of the contact? Guys, what do you think of a girl that calls you all the time and you rarely call? Do I need to change my mid evil ways???
you need to read that book
why men love b*tches.
Your answer is in there !
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| 8/11/2008 6:21:01 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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You need to change the foreground text and background colors on your profile -- it is unreadable.
I looked at it to try to get a sense of where you're coming from, but just can't read it.
Personally, I think contact should be 50/50: if you want to call, call!
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| 8/11/2008 6:21:28 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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I can respect your beliefs.
We live in a world today where a lot of dynamics have changed in the dating game. What used to be done in the 60s-90s are simply not the same today. That's just the way it has become.
It's not really to say it's right or wrong, but a lot of old fashioned trends are not really prevalent today both male and female contributing factors. There are old fashioned things that some females don't do anymore and old fashioned things that some men don't do anymore.
Some men and women today are ok with the contemporary dating styles. To each's own.
[Edited 8/11/2008 6:23:03 PM]
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| 8/11/2008 6:22:31 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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ok i will and i just feel ucky about calling, damn I hate being single again!
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| 8/11/2008 6:25:30 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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I can respect your beliefs.
We live in a world today where a lot of dynamics have changed in the dating game. What used to be done in the 60s-90s are simply not the same today. That's just the way it has become.
It's not really to say it's right or wrong, but a lot of old fashioned trends are not really prevalent today both male and female contributing factors. There are old fashioned things that some females don't do anymore and old fashioned things that some men don't do anymore.
Some men and women today are ok with the contemporary dating styles. To each's own.
but but, what do you think of a woman that calls YOU all the time? Or do you even think about it.
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| 8/11/2008 6:28:36 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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Are you calling him all the time? Do you call him more than you would want him to call you?
If you are pestering... stop pestering. If you're calling multiple times in a day, or calling him at work, etc, that's pestering... almost stalking. Stop doing that.
If you're feeling like your affections are not being reciprocated, well, you can talk to him about it- depending on your relationship- or ease up on your expectations.
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| 8/11/2008 6:30:15 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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I can respect your beliefs.
We live in a world today where a lot of dynamics have changed in the dating game. What used to be done in the 60s-90s are simply not the same today. That's just the way it has become.
It's not really to say it's right or wrong, but a lot of old fashioned trends are not really prevalent today both male and female contributing factors. There are old fashioned things that some females don't do anymore and old fashioned things that some men don't do anymore.
Some men and women today are ok with the contemporary dating styles. To each's own.
but but, what do you think of a woman that calls YOU all the time? Or do you even think about it.
Depends. Maybe she's clingy, or insecure, or wants to be sure that interest remains. Maybe she's been lied to so many times that there is a reason for her insecurity.
I say it's worth finding out the reason for the behavior before dismissing the person.
The problem for her is that she appears desperate, and many men will seek to take advantage of that. So, be yourself, but beware of any weaknesses you make be exposing and watch to see if your counterpart appears to be taking advantage of them.
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| 8/11/2008 6:32:41 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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I can respect your beliefs.
We live in a world today where a lot of dynamics have changed in the dating game. What used to be done in the 60s-90s are simply not the same today. That's just the way it has become.
It's not really to say it's right or wrong, but a lot of old fashioned trends are not really prevalent today both male and female contributing factors. There are old fashioned things that some females don't do anymore and old fashioned things that some men don't do anymore.
Some men and women today are ok with the contemporary dating styles. To each's own.
but but, what do you think of a woman that calls YOU all the time? Or do you even think about it.
I've never had a problem with a woman calling me. Why would that be a problem? It only becomes a problem if she's constantly calling me throughout the day several times and or calling me asking me what am i doing and where am I with a ton of questions (in other words being aggravating).
Calling me expresses interest in me. I view it as a positive. If she wants to call to hang out, hold good conversation, see how I'm doing, there's absolutely positively nothing wrong with that.
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| 8/11/2008 6:37:54 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 51
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there is nothing wrong about being old fashioned.
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| 8/11/2008 6:41:47 PM |
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bb36575
Semmes, AL
age: 47
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I get a call every morning at 4:30 from her, I welcome the calls. I never know what she doing, she is so busy so I dont want to interupt. She talking to me here right now on IM..
Yes I look forward to the call, I would hate to call her everyday because then she would think I was needy.
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| 8/11/2008 6:48:13 PM |
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sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
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Well In the beginning I let the man call me more. After the relationship is etablished I will call him equally so I guess I am out of date also. I will admit it I love getting that surprised bouquet of flowers, the little note or surprise text or odd phonecall that tells me he cares in the beginning. I also will let him know how much they are mean to me also.
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| 8/11/2008 6:53:37 PM |
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hot_water
Warren, MI
age: 28
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Everything depends on how much I LIKE the girl.
If I really like her, then I REALLY want her to CALL me quite often. SHOW her interest in me.
If I DON'T like the girl, and she calls me all the time, it'll ANNOY me. And I'll RARELY call her back.
If I like her and she DOESN'T call, THAT will annoy as me well. And eventually, I will lose interest.
If I DONT like her and she doesn't call, I won't even notice.
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| 8/11/2008 6:55:02 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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Are you calling him all the time? Do you call him more than you would want him to call you?
If you are pestering... stop pestering. If you're calling multiple times in a day, or calling him at work, etc, that's pestering... almost stalking. Stop doing that.
If you're feeling like your affections are not being reciprocated, well, you can talk to him about it- depending on your relationship- or ease up on your expectations.
No I don't call the time, barely at all. But, it seems that every guy I date rarely calls me...or maybe I am expecting that HE should do the calling. I am not a crazy, trust me, far from it or a stalker either, I guess it could just be my own insecurities ya know.
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| 8/11/2008 6:56:17 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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I can respect your beliefs.
We live in a world today where a lot of dynamics have changed in the dating game. What used to be done in the 60s-90s are simply not the same today. That's just the way it has become.
It's not really to say it's right or wrong, but a lot of old fashioned trends are not really prevalent today both male and female contributing factors. There are old fashioned things that some females don't do anymore and old fashioned things that some men don't do anymore.
Some men and women today are ok with the contemporary dating styles. To each's own.
but but, what do you think of a woman that calls YOU all the time? Or do you even think about it.
I've never had a problem with a woman calling me. Why would that be a problem? It only becomes a problem if she's constantly calling me throughout the day several times and or calling me asking me what am i doing and where am I with a ton of questions (in other words being aggravating).
Calling me expresses interest in me. I view it as a positive. If she wants to call to hang out, hold good conversation, see how I'm doing, there's absolutely positively nothing wrong with that.
Thank you, that was really helpful!
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