| 8/13/2008 5:03:34 PM |
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sassycntrygirl
Jonesboro, AR
age: 23
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To STOP trying to deceive me?? LOL, one day they will realize that it does NOT work on me to lie. There was this guy at work who seemed really nice and had been flirting with me for WEEKS now. Well, I finally gave him my number yesterday so we could get to know one another. Now, I hadn't spoken to him a whole lot until today. we spoke this morning before work just long enough for him to walk away and me catch a glimpse at his left ring finger. Well, thats the FIRST thing I look at when I speak to a man...lol and just hadnt gotten the chance to look at his hand til this morning. Apparently he wasn't going to mention that he was married. At lunch, I went to a lady I have known for years since she's his "desk neighbor" and asked if he was married. She confirmed what I already figured, so outside at lunch I lifted up his left hand and said "when were you going to ask your wife if it was alright that we hung out??" He shut up fast...
GAH! LOL, I know not EVERY man is like this, but it sure does p!$$ ya off when they do that crap!
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| 8/13/2008 5:08:13 PM |
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nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 43
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I am sorry..........that really stinks! You are a beautiful woman and you are so young, just go and have some fun!
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| 8/13/2008 5:12:49 PM |
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sassycntrygirl
Jonesboro, AR
age: 23
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Eh, its more irritating than anything. I'm pissed that he TRIED (unsuccessfully) to deceive me, because had he been honest I could have at least been his friend. He even had the balls to wink at me later in the day when I walked by. He'd better be glad I love my job so much or that winking eye would have been black....
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| 8/13/2008 5:55:29 PM |
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waterluvr75
Cherry Hill, NJ
age: 33
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I'm not for sure why people are so afraid of honesty.
I mean seriously, there are some marriages that for whatever reason just don't or can't or are not working. Now before I get crucified, I'm not saying that it would be right to for a married person to seek out another before they took care of business at home.
What my point is, IF you are going to or have decided you are going to bring another person into a mix that already has the chemicals for exploding, please be respectful of the other person and be honest. Tell them the situation.
Some people have decided to call it quits but neither can leave at that moment for whatever reason (the other person has no where to go, there are many circumstances etc)...they know they are leaving and going their seperate ways just at that immediate moment when they meet you they can't.
I am a very patient and forgiving person. I am not like some who catch first wind of something and have a stake, rope, matches, and gasoline ready to sacrifice them alive right there...LOL I am very compassionate person, so I will hear a person out with all they have to tell me. I will respect one a great deal more for their honesty and respecting me enough to say, "Hey, I like you, wanna get to know ya, but here's where I am." That gives me the opportunity to make my own decision with open eyes, open heart. Plus it's all out on the table and no one feels they are 'taken' by surprise on anything.
He should of told you upfront that he was married and let you make the decision, I agree. Some are just really afraid of honesty
However, women are guilty of this as well, not just men.
[Edited 8/13/2008 5:56:40 PM]
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| 8/13/2008 5:59:43 PM |
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becky38socalif
Joshua Tree, CA
age: 38
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I'm not for sure why people are so afraid of honesty.
I mean seriously, there are some marriages that for whatever reason just don't or can't or are not working. Now before I get crucified, I'm not saying that it would be right to for a married person to seek out another before they took care of business at home.
What my point is, IF you are going to or have decided you are going to bring another person into a mix that already has the chemicals for exploding, please be respectful of the other person and be honest. Tell them the situation.
Some people have decided to call it quits but neither can leave at that moment for whatever reason (the other person has no where to go, there are many circumstances etc)...they know they are leaving and going their seperate ways just at that immediate moment when they meet you they can't.
I am a very patient and forgiving person. I am not like some who catch first wind of something and have a stake, rope, matches, and gasoline ready to sacrifice them alive right there...LOL I am very compassionate person, so I will hear a person out with all they have to tell me. I will respect one a great deal more for their honesty and respecting me enough to say, "Hey, I like you, wanna get to know ya, but here's where I am." That gives me the opportunity to make my own decision with open eyes, open heart. Plus it's all out on the table and no one feels they are 'taken' by surprise on anything.
He should of told you upfront that he was married and let you make the decision, I agree. Some are just really afraid of honesty
However, women are guilty of this as well, not just men.
yep ditto on that .....
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| 8/13/2008 6:41:02 PM |
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sassycntrygirl
Jonesboro, AR
age: 23
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However, women are guilty of this as well, not just men.
This I'm fully aware of...lol. I think the women who are like that disgust me even more than the men. They spoil the good ones for the rest of us who would never do such things.
The woman whom I asked about him being married also told me he had 2 little girls and one on the way...makes it an even bigger FUUUUUUCK no in my book.
[Edited 8/13/2008 6:41:52 PM]
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| 8/13/2008 6:45:12 PM |
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pattilee3
Norfolk, VA
age: 49
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However, women are guilty of this as well, not just men.
This I'm fully aware of...lol. I think the women who are like that disgust me even more than the men. They spoil the good ones for the rest of us who would never do such things.
The woman whom I asked about him being married also told me he had 2 little girls and one on the way...makes it an even bigger FUUUUUUCK no in my book.
That is WAY f**ked up. 
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| 8/13/2008 6:59:30 PM |
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lonely57
Glasgow, KY
age: 27
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To STOP trying to deceive me?? LOL, one day they will realize that it does NOT work on me to lie. There was this guy at work who seemed really nice and had been flirting with me for WEEKS now. Well, I finally gave him my number yesterday so we could get to know one another. Now, I hadn't spoken to him a whole lot until today. we spoke this morning before work just long enough for him to walk away and me catch a glimpse at his left ring finger. Well, thats the FIRST thing I look at when I speak to a man...lol and just hadnt gotten the chance to look at his hand til this morning. Apparently he wasn't going to mention that he was married. At lunch, I went to a lady I have known for years since she's his "desk neighbor" and asked if he was married. She confirmed what I already figured, so outside at lunch I lifted up his left hand and said "when were you going to ask your wife if it was alright that we hung out??" He shut up fast...
GAH! LOL, I know not EVERY man is like this, but it sure does p!$$ ya off when they do that crap!
Now there a lot of guys that can not wear rings at work.An a lot may be married an don`t wear them at home.I talked to women also that was married but didn`t wear weding bands.
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| 8/13/2008 7:03:10 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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He was flirting with you for weeks... but was his hand in his pocket the whole time that you didn't notice the ring before today? I mean, if he is wearing his ring, he's not deceiving you.... he's obviously married. Next time ask the desk neighbor before you pursue a relationship.... it will save you a lot of heartache. JMO
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| 8/13/2008 7:10:00 PM |
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mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 27 online now!
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Some people are just pathological liars.
Smarter people realize, that eventually lies catch up with them and cause much more trouble than the truth.
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| 8/13/2008 7:16:54 PM |
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kastor
Grand Rapids, MI
age: 28
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He was being honest. He had that ring on. He's probably wondering why you flirted with him and then used the ring as an excuse to blow up. Hasn't he been wearing it all along? Not that he's right, but I don't know how deceptive not stating the obvious is.
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| 8/13/2008 7:20:56 PM |
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chellenc2008
Clayton, NC
age: 40
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this happens way too much...men don't even try to hide their rings around here
it's become an impulse reaction for me to check their hands now before i even get a good look at their face LOL
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| 8/13/2008 7:25:55 PM |
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sassycntrygirl
Jonesboro, AR
age: 23
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He was flirting with you for weeks... but was his hand in his pocket the whole time that you didn't notice the ring before today? I mean, if he is wearing his ring, he's not deceiving you.... he's obviously married. Next time ask the desk neighbor before you pursue a relationship.... it will save you a lot of heartache. JMO
I don't work in the same part of the building for ONE, and for TWO: I am NOT the married one, and I did NOT make vows to HIS WIFE. HE DID. This is in NO way my fault. I don't go around looking at hands all day to decipher who's single, I don't normally like anyone enough to find out. I wasn't even sure how much I liked HIM yet, and had JUST gotten up the "what the hell" to give him my number. I'd only spoken to him a few times in passing up til he called me last night (can NOT see his hand over the phone) and when I talked to him this morning. I acted IMMEDIATELY, and did NOTHING WRONG. Why is it the person who's deceived is always blamed? That makes NO sense. I have NO responsibility to HIS FAMILY. HE DOES.
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| 8/13/2008 7:28:03 PM |
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sassycntrygirl
Jonesboro, AR
age: 23
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He was being honest. He had that ring on. He's probably wondering why you flirted with him and then used the ring as an excuse to blow up. Hasn't he been wearing it all along? Not that he's right, but I don't know how deceptive not stating the obvious is.
HE flirted with ME first, and continuously for weeks. I only started flirting back a few days ago because I'd decided he was nice enough to take a chance on. I will NOT take responsibility for THIS one. When I do something wrong, I take full blame. I did NOTHING!!
He could have said he was married when he called me yesterday, or even when I gave him my number. His ring is almost the same shade of gold as his hand, had it not been for the lights in the office reflecting off his ring I STILL may not have noticed. Thin gold band, very large hand. Kinda hard to see unless you're lookin for it. I don't go into things assuming someone is a liar. I do find out QUICKLY. Omission is LYING when you have 3 kids and a wife. HE never made an effort to let me know he was married. Since when is being single and not totally fugly something that makes you automatically the one who "started it"?
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| 8/13/2008 7:30:32 PM |
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chellenc2008
Clayton, NC
age: 40
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He was being honest. He had that ring on. He's probably wondering why you flirted with him and then used the ring as an excuse to blow up. Hasn't he been wearing it all along? Not that he's right, but I don't know how deceptive not stating the obvious is.
HE flirted with ME first, and continuously for weeks. I only started flirting back a few days ago because I'd decided he was nice enough to take a chance on. I will NOT take responsibility for THIS one. When I do something wrong, I take full blame. I did NOTHING!!
it's not your fault
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