| 8/17/2008 9:14:54 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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hotcowgirl4u
Martins Ferry, OH
age: 47
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I see a lot of mention about finding the other half of oneself or a soulmate, or 'the one'
So..
Just wondering if anyone on here thinks about finding something as simple as a friend, getting to know, have fun with. Sharing time together. Adult or otherwise. And just seeing where time and friendship takes it. See if time leads to a real relationship?
I do not believe in soulmates from online or real life either. I believe in kindred souls but not soul mates.
To me, seeing someone as a soulmate is like putting them on a pedestal. Setting them up for failure from the beginning. Because if they don't live up to the others expectations then they tumble.
Being kindred souls that find one another is like having your best friend along for the ride. Like being the opposite sides of the same coin. Different but the same so to speak.
I do not want to be joined at the hip with someone. I want to share my life not have it disolve into anothers or vise versa.
Is this a crazy way of thinking?
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| 8/17/2008 9:22:21 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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No its not crazy I dont want to be joined at the hip either however I beg to differ on the subject of a soul mate...I believe in this life we have more than one soulmate...To be a soulmate does not mean being a leech it means instant recognition and something about the other person drawing you to them and them to you...Its about a special bond between kindred spirits its something that somehow keeps you close no matter how far away and is almost phychic or telepathic in that just at that very moment you are thinking of them so are they and contacting you and saying similar things often and just knowing somehow...
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| 8/17/2008 9:32:23 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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brotherbe1985
Okayama
Japan
age: 23
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There isn`t just the one person for you in this life time but true love does exist and it`s more than just a great friendship. It`s when you can`t stop thinking about them, can`t stand to be away from them and complete happiness when you`re with them.
It was studied in a science experiment about what love is and if it is possible to last forvever and basically it`s a small part of your brain that releases a chemical which brings a huge amount of happiness which apparently is similair to the effect of cocaine.
And well if I could find someone to be around that could do that to me all the time, I`m pretty sure I`d be damn happy hahaha.
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| 8/17/2008 9:37:28 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 29
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I see a lot of mention about finding the other half of oneself or a soulmate, or 'the one'
So..
Just wondering if anyone on here thinks about finding something as simple as a friend, getting to know, have fun with. Sharing time together. Adult or otherwise. And just seeing where time and friendship takes it. See if time leads to a real relationship?
You have to do all that to see, if they are your soulmate, it doesn't mean love at first sight...........................
I do not believe in soulmates from online or real life either. I believe in kindred souls but not soul mates.
To me, seeing someone as a soulmate is like putting them on a pedestal. Setting them up for failure from the beginning. Because if they don't live up to the others expectations then they tumble.
You don't just pick someone to be your soulmate, you get with someone then after years have gone by you realize that you have found your soul mate,
A soulmate to me is a loving marriage between a man and woman and GOD almighty, it is the union between the three. all sewn together as one....
Is this a crazy way of thinking?
you not crazy, you just have a different veiw, on life then I have..
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| 8/17/2008 9:42:46 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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hotcowgirl4u
Martins Ferry, OH
age: 47
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There isn`t just the one person for you in this life time but true love does exist and it`s more than just a great friendship. It`s when you can`t stop thinking about them, can`t stand to be away from them and complete happiness when you`re with them.
It was studied in a science experiment about what love is and if it is possible to last forvever and basically it`s a small part of your brain that releases a chemical which brings a huge amount of happiness which apparently is similair to the effect of cocaine.
And well if I could find someone to be around that could do that to me all the time, I`m pretty sure I`d be damn happy hahaha.
lol I am starting to learn there isn't one person for a lifetime. I thought so as most of us did at one time. I really would like to feel that kind of love that one has when very young. The feeling that it will last forever.
As I have grown I have found that feeling where ya just can't wait to see the other and can't stand to be away from that person is not really love, but more the lust stage. No matter how long it lasts. After being with my ex for over 10 years we still had those feelings but when they were gone they were gone almost instantly. So I think that although we had years of those feelings they nevr got past the lust stage.
But lol it was some good lusting going on. lol
So with these kinda feelings I'm just enjoying being single. Having a good time learning about myself.
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| 8/17/2008 9:46:43 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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hotcowgirl4u
Martins Ferry, OH
age: 47
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I've had those relationships where its been immediate and seems as if there is that bond to the point it seems as if you've already had experienced each other in another life or something. BUT if a true soulmate how can it possibly end.
Thats why I have gone with the kndred souls sharing lifes path.
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| 8/17/2008 9:48:39 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
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There seems to be a variety of definitions as to what a soul mate is. Even the spelling is open to interpretation... soulmate (one continuous word) implying one, a unit; soul mate (two words and my preference) implying two individuals feeling a connection and at ease with one another.
I do not believe a soul mate is the ideal or one and only person in someone's life. My definition of "soul mates" (or kindred souls, just a matter of semantics) is people who together want to work on making their marriage or relationship a great one, striving each second, minute, hour, day, week, month and year to make it feel like a natural fit. It seems like a lot of work, I know, but I do not believe that accepting and loving every part of the other's personality is a ready-made recipe that will ensure life will be easy and natural. The danger in believing so, is taking your marriage or relationship for granted. Things can still fall apart if the essential elements of love, respect, honesty and communication (to name a few) are missing.
I believe that friendship with someone I find compatible would provide a good and sound foundation should a more meaningful relationship develop and would allow me the opportunity to get to know her better provided, of course, I have taken some time first getting to know myself. I can't know my soul mate, kindred soul, or friend without knowing myself... I am wary of looking for a mate who ideally feels and thinks exactly the way I do. That is unfair and no one can live up to that kind of standard. I am not looking for perfection in any potential mate or friend... if something in our relationship is not clicking and there are problems and challenges we as individuals must be willing to help one another in solving those problems and facing those challenges, soul mates or not, because if I were to think that marrying my soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, I am not facing reality and without cooperation and love and respect I am setting myself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment.
Romance is a gamble. Marriage and relationships (friendships included) require attentiveness. Marrying a soul mate isn't necessary in order to have a successful and happy marriage. I choose to believe that a deep commitment and an even deeper love for the person I have chosen to be my companion have to be ever present.
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| 8/17/2008 9:50:05 PM |
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missa2966
Mandeville, LA
age: 42
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In astrology it is your "3/11" on the wheel of life
your are cosmically/karmically destined to find each other,every turn on the wheel one pays back/gives to the other or learns what they didn't from the past,maybe this time ?....it does not mean your one and only.
Lillibet, you're supposed to grocery shopping & I "m supposed to be going to sleep
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| 8/17/2008 9:52:32 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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lol missa i am eating cockys joy on my bread and yum.yep i better pull my finger out and time for the blanket show for you girl night.... 
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| 8/17/2008 9:55:45 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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P.S yep i like what you said there...Also to me soulmates isnt about sex its about belonging and just somehow knowing and feeling you belong together... Good work missa.Theres some invisible thread a karmic thread if you like that joins you
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| 8/17/2008 10:04:59 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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strongnkindguy
Sacramento, CA
age: 37
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I'm with you on this It's like finding your favorite kindred spirit I wish ALL OF YOU luck
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| 8/17/2008 10:07:31 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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missa2966
Mandeville, LA
age: 42
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P.S yep i like what you said there...Also to me soulmates isnt about sex its about belonging and just somehow knowing and feeling you belong together... Good work missa.Theres some invisible thread a karmic thread if you like that joins you
Ok girl ...going to sleep-promise ...& pick me up a 1/2 pound of roasted turkey & dozen large eggs, and I'll dream for all of us tonight !
You're sooo right -it's not about male/female,bi/homo/straight- like she said...kindred spirits ...lifting each other up !!!She probably had no idea what she did-she just did!
How we lift each other up to our greatest potential differs with every human combo.
The true gift we are given is ....That we do !....
  
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| 8/17/2008 10:09:53 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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bnrd
Chesapeake, VA
age: 37
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I think that we all decide who our soulmates will be. There isn't a mystic bond of souls until we decide if a person is at least worthy of our time. Has anyone ever met someone for the 1st time and you felt an undeniable urge to be with or love this person onsite. If so enlighten me.
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| 8/17/2008 10:15:36 PM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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sanddallor
Houston, TX
age: 48
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Actually, I think people use those words universally and their respective meanings are just as all over the place. Nevertheless, I like what you said.
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| 8/18/2008 4:59:39 AM |
Just wondering if anyone...soulmate/ 'the one' |
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sags2008
Chicago, IL
age: 48
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Personally I am not too comfortable associating myself with the “buzz” word soul mate. Guess because it has been misused so much in the past. Also sociopaths have been know to use this word to hook their next (victim) partner. Telling someone that you are my soul mate makes one feel committed simply based on a myth. Also all studies and research that I have done on this soul mate ideology have brought me no real conclusion on exactly what a soul mate is or isn’t. In short because a soul mate is and can be a animal or people then why it used so much on dating sites and relationships? It really doesn’t make much sense to me. If a soul mate is so special and exceptional why do we see this “buzz” word used everywhere. Really pretty soon a car sell person is gonna tell a customer they have to buy this car because it was or is your soul mate. Also I really can’t tell you how many psychotherapist hear from past victims of sociopaths that took all there money. Then went on to break their hearts and mess with their heads by the (sociopathic) lovers who used manipulation to lie and cheat on them and then the victim tells the psychotherapist “I don’t understand? He/She told me I was their “soul mate”! “Why would they do this to me?” "We are soul mates". In short I believe we should give this “buzz” word "SoulMate" a rest, I think it has been abused enough, don't you?...
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