9/1/2007 9:32:38 AM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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I know there was a similar post in another forum about this but seriously.... my experience has been, if you put out on the first date (no matter how long you have "known" each other) the guy doesn't respect you and doesn't see you again (or become obsessed and won't leave you alone). On the other hand, if you don't put out, they don't want to have to work for it and don't call or see you again. Now, I am content with my life for the most part, but seriously... doesn't this seem like a catch 22?? Why is it that it seems most of the men I meet want what they want faster than McDs drive thru can provide it... and will toss it just as quickly as that burger wrapper when they are done.
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9/1/2007 9:50:16 AM |
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lovinglife437
Meadville, PA
age: 44
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I completely agree with you. I know, lots of people will say "oh no that's not how it is", but it is. And it isn't that you mean to "make them work for it", you just want to develop a friendship and/or foundation first. I've seen a number of remarks on here about woman being stingy... but this is why we're stingy. The very same ones who claim they really respect you and like you and find you interesting.... suddenly don't remember any of that when you don't put out right away. Don't mean to generalize, just posting my perspective. I'm sure men get some of this too; maybe in a different way (women who want money, etc?).
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9/1/2007 9:55:48 AM |
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brzlnfan
Salina, OK
age: 33
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U could turn the tables . men get pissed when u do the same thing to them. i keep phone #s on my phone so i know when not to answer dont want a repeat "mis-performance" LOL
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9/1/2007 9:58:06 AM |
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krazz
Whittier, CA
age: 54
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TG horses don't have THESE problems.....
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9/1/2007 10:03:36 AM |
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littlelilly2
Sturgeon Bay, WI
age: 46
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This is also my experience...damned if you do damned if you dont so Ive come up with following my own desires without any expectations or self induced guilt...works great for a first time but Ive not mastered it past that point LOL
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9/1/2007 10:19:47 AM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Never allow yourself to feel pressured like that and if a someone can't accept that I just won't be that "easy"..that's thier problem and their loss for not calling me back
xoxoPeaches.
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9/1/2007 12:30:28 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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Ohhh... the "putting out on the first date" was a LONG time ago. There is NO WAY it is happening now. And I do live my life MY way now. I am so sorry if he doesn't like that (NOT). I DO have a shower I am willing to allow him to borrow before he goes home if it is REALLY necessary. But, my goodness, isn't there any enjoyment for MEN in just getting together with and getting to know and being around someone of the opposite sex?
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9/1/2007 1:00:35 PM |
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mrcareful2001
Chittenango, NY
age: 46
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catch 22 no trout about it..I did a couple weeks ago and still don't know why I did it.
She hasn't called..no txt..I feel..so dirty....
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9/1/2007 2:19:36 PM |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52 online now!
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Littlelily and I must have the same problem we just go with the feeling we have at that time. Why is men say they will call or see you again and don't? and they want to be friends but they think they can call all the shots in a friendship? I just gave up on the concept that you can be friends first. I do what makes me happy. And if that means getting a piece then I will get me a piece.
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9/1/2007 2:29:31 PM |
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mrcareful2001
Chittenango, NY
age: 46
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exactly PK...the whole friends 1st is fallacy...friendship develops over a LONG term..not 1 hour. 1 nite, 1 week or 1 month..friendships takes months
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9/1/2007 2:31:51 PM |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52 online now!
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Glad someone see's my point.
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9/1/2007 2:33:18 PM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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ah come on ladies cut it out !!!!!!!!!!!!you know you want it too, but you just dont wanna feel dirty
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9/1/2007 2:36:00 PM |
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shygirl4now
Pensacola, FL
age: 31
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Come on guys....you do have to get to know the person before you jump in the sack..Don't ya'? I think getting to know someone first is really important.
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9/1/2007 2:38:04 PM |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52 online now!
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he can take me out to dinner and drinks then I will jump his bones
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9/1/2007 2:38:09 PM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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hi my name is eric whats yours? ISNT THAT ENOUGH 4 U!!!!!!!!
I GUESS THEY DONT CALL YOU SHY GIRL 4 NOTHING
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