| 9/11/2007 1:11:54 PM |
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strong48
Missoula, MT
age: 24
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Hey everyone,
Just thought I would get some peoples input. I am 24, a single father with a 3 year old and a 1 year old an I work full time. I don't have family in town or anything else so my life pretty much consists of taking care of kids, working, taking care of kids, and occasionally sleeping ($1,100 a month for daycare doesn't make things terribly easy either).
I never have the chance to meet anyone let alone go out on a date so I was curious to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation and if they might have any tips. I take care of what needs to be done and give my kids the best life I possibly can and know it will be worth it in the long run, but it is difficult being 24 and having no life other than childcare and work.
Any thoughts? Being a single parent isn't a really recent thing, I have been since my daughter was 6 months old (and basically did everything before that anyway).
Thanks
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| 9/11/2007 1:48:10 PM |
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angelkissedu
Martinsburg, WV
age: 48
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I think your wonderful Dad doing what your doing...Keep up the good work I hope you find the answers your looking for
[Edited 9/11/2007 10:11:53 PM]
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| 9/11/2007 4:19:49 PM |
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twiz
Martinsville, VA
age: 56
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good job your doing keep the faith
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| 9/11/2007 4:36:39 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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wow, yea it's really tough, when my kids were that young i started bartending at nite for a couple of reasons, one, good money, two, i was there when they woke up and when they came home from school and three, it was a great way to meet ppl and have a so called social life..good luck and keep smiling 
xoxoPeaches.
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| 9/11/2007 4:37:42 PM |
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53lady
Jacksonville, FL
age: 53
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Geez, what a tight spot. I appreciate your grammar usage. It says alot for a 24 yr. old. Sorry...English fanatic here...my bad...but you speak/write well. I for one appreciate it.
You are doing a job not many a man can match...Kudos to you! Is there a singles place where singles can go to meet and mingle in your area??? Take your kids to a park on the weekends...there may be some single moms there that you could meet...and you already have that in common. Maybe you could befriend a mom and swap out babysitting so that one or the other could enjoy a night out...without having to pay for a sitter! I would have loved that when I was raising my girls, but no one offered!
Here in Jacksonville they have a place where singles can go to meet, plan little side trips..to the zoo, museums, etc...
Hope it helps!
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| 9/11/2007 4:43:08 PM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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what a great dad
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| 9/11/2007 5:37:36 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
age: 53
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you make me proud and just keep your nose to the grindstone and know you are doing what is right for you and your kids. kudos
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| 9/11/2007 6:01:38 PM |
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striker29527
London, KY
age: 45
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I can feel exactly what you're feeling. went through it my selfbetween ex-wife #2 and #3
lasted for 6 years. just remember that the kids are #1 priority for now.
someone suggested going to the park with the kids or the zoo or the museum. all are great places to meet other single parents of both sexes. start talking to some of them and exchange ideas about where to take the kids! that will open the door for possibly more than just chit chat
you will find someone in the last place you'll expect!! just be patient!
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| 9/11/2007 6:05:14 PM |
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mom1st
York, SC
age: 30
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All I can say is I know where you are coming from. I don't know where to really go to meet ppl, I have 3 kids and I am with them or work. But I am happy as I am, so I figure if its meant to happen it will. Maybe I'll meet at the park or grocery store, who knows?
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| 9/11/2007 6:14:59 PM |
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stargirl602
La Grange, KY
age: 24
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wow i really did not think there where guys like you out there. great job on being a stand up dad. being a single parent is hard but it's also great. hang in there your doing great and things will get better. yes it is hard meeting people when you are a single parent. i can tell you how meny times i have had a guy think im looking for a daddy for my kids. but you will find the right girl for you just keep the faith.
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| 9/11/2007 8:13:34 PM |
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lewis69
Temple, TX
age: 38
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I've been a single dad for 5 years now with no family around to help and no help from their mom. I feel your pain man. My oldest 2 are teenagers now. Let me tell ya, the older they get the more expensive they get lol. Other than a few mistakes that I've made along the way, I wouldn't change a thing regardless of the sacrifices and everything I may have given up. It is so worth it. Meeting ladies and being the gentleman is tough but you make time because you'll go crazy if you don't. A great way to meet people is to get involved with your church or your kids school. You might be surprised to find out how many social events you'll be able to go to. Keep fightin the good fight.
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| 9/11/2007 8:16:22 PM |
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gadgetzzzzz
Syracuse, NY
age: 47
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Hi Strong,
I have been through a similar situation and found that god had a helping hand.....I started going to church regularly and boom....I met the nicest people on the planet and dated frequently in a sane environment...hope it helps.
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| 9/11/2007 8:51:47 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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hey, you are doing just fine and it wont last long being 24/7 with kids and work. and yes going out places with the kids is always a good thing. get all of you out of the house. gets your mind off things.just go and have fun with the kids.when time is right you will meet someone.it doesnt always happen when we want it to. i have a teenage daughter which is easy but when i have my 2 little ones on the weekend,i take them all over. there are a lot of women out there that are like minded.so having those little ones can work to your advantage. stay strong.
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| 9/11/2007 9:05:57 PM |
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casper812003
Enid, OK
age: 26
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I know its hard being single with kids well not kids i just have one but he can make me fill like there are 100 of him..lol but first off i want to tell u that u are a greate dad to step up and be there in your kids life and take care of them alone most guys just run when they here the word "i'm pregnet" so good job on that...anyways trying to keep up a house,job,and kids is hard work on top of u want to date and get with someone...i know how u fill...i'm a single mom, work full time, go to class 3 times a week to beter my pay couse i don't get childsuport,take my 4 yr old son to soccor and dill with high cost of daycare but then i'm ready to start a new life with someone else in it...cant very well do that if u don't go anywere to meet people how can u get into a new relashonship? its a greate question and maybe someday both of us can get that answer. Good luck on your serch
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| 9/11/2007 9:12:23 PM |
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meemee86
Frisco, TX
age: 38
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I wish there were more men like you. Hang in there, when you least expect it, you will meet her. Your kids are very lucky.
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