dataghost
Jacksonville, FL
age: 33
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I was wondering:Would you date a person, if you've noticed that they had a habit of posting about negative dating experiences in this forum?
I've noticed too many posts by people, on this site and others, who post to tell everyone on this site about how their dates were bad.
-she showed up weighing 20 lbs heavier than she looked in her pics.
-he didn't even have a car
-he barely put any effort into pleasing me sexually
-she didn't agree to pay her share of the meal
-his profile said he was looking for one thing. It turned out he was looking for another.
-he didn't call the next day
-she decided to cancel our date-etc
Do you get the impression, that if you were to date one of these people, and the date wasn't 100% to their satisfaction, you'd be the next person who's being bashed, (accussed of being cheap, called ugly, called a liar, etc) in this forum?
I'm not one to take someone else's word for it. One person'a negative could be another's positive.
It's possible the person or people posting negative experience's could just be wishy-washy, maybe they're the type of person that just cannot be pleased, maybe they just like to b*tch and moan.
Don't believe everything you read, and if your that paranoid you sure as hell shouldn't be on an online dating site.
As someone else said, there are two side's to every story.
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sunshine_504
Gretna, LA
age: 27
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I agree that people need a place to vent and as long as the person's name or site that they found them on is not mentioned than the petty horrible date stories are ok, you read them and comment on them or you don't comment, and sometimes we can learn from them so that they do not happen to us.
You can also learn to NOT date the poster if they are ranting because their date work white shoes instead of black (you get the picture)
Very well said. Like a couple others that I'd seen post on this thread. I've only posted one thread of my own that would probably b classified as this, but I never mentioned a name and honestly as long as I'm still DATING AROUND on this site and the guy I'm talking about isn't a bf from this site I'm dating them on........it shouldn't b frowned upon 2 do so. But in mine's I was not only venting, but I was also looking 4 advice and unbiased opinions 2 make sure I wasn't over-reacting and exagerating the issue or whether I should just give up on the guy and move on.
As 4 the 2nd point, I agree w/ that. One guy I knew on here would constantly blow things out of proportion from girls' he would b talking 2 and dating. Making the comments made 2 him from a girl bigger issues than they were. No, I'm not afraid 2 mention that the guy is on this site. We need 2 know of people w/ certain M.O.'s, so we can spot them when it's happening 2 us and deal w/ it accordingly.
Sunshine_504
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