momof2_1984
Wallingford, CT
age: 24
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Ok, so I met this really nice guy on here a while ago. He was great. Nice, Sweet, Not all about sex, in fact, he respected the fact that I wouldn’t sleep with him so soon because it just seemed like this one was different and I wanted it to mean something. He even met my kids and welcomed them which I have never done, ever. We had a lot in common and had a lot to talk about. Well, from the very beginning I knew he had some pretty big issues with going through a divorce and everything, so we took it very slow. We lived an hour from each other and only saw each other on the weekends, so that’s pretty slow. Well, for me its been like 4 years since I had anything remotely close to a “boyfriend” but my wound wasn’t fresh and I was over my pain, .When my heart was shattered over 4 years ago, I vowed to not let that happen again so I put a mental brick around my heart, poured concrete over it and sealed it in with barbed wire all around it just in case someone tried to break through. Its been a very lonely 4 + years, filled with the love from my 2 beautiful kids who if it wasn’t for them I would still be under my rock from what their father did. So when this guy came along, I decided to open my heart back up from being locked away inside a box for so long and everything seemed awesome. I was on cloud 9. Nothing could bring me down. We didn’t talk about “our future” or anything, I was just happy living in the moment, taking it day by day. Now however, yet again its crushed. I should have guarded my heart a little better, but I wanted it so bad. That is my failing. Its who I am. Its all or nothing from me and that’s not something I can change. I know because I have tried. I hold nothing against this great guy, he’s going through a lot and I do not blame him for wanting space, but I wish that when we spoke about the possibility of him needing to be alone, he would have just let me know instead of reeling me in, getting me hooked and them letting me go. He’s still a great guy and I was hoping I could be something good for him, but he needs to do this alone and that’s fine. I was hoping this my time. I’ve been more than patient with life, and I’m a good person with a lot to offer ,but Alas, it wasn’t.
Thanks all for taking the time to read this.
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liatris
Fairfield, CT
age: 43 online now!
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Some times it just sucks!
Sorry, you had to go through the emotions that lead to you sharing this, most of us have also been there.
I went through something, oh, so similar early this past spring .
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momof2_1984
Wallingford, CT
age: 24
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So Im getting responses, not just on this post but via email and its somewhat comforting to know that Im not alone. But it also disturbs me that Im not alone. Why are the guys pulling this crap huh? Ill be fine, I always am, just trying to figure this out, so in the mean time I think I'll rant.
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get_me_off_here
Windsor Locks, CT
age: 54
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Just need to say that women pull the same crap (AS YOU CALLED IT). People at first seam to alway try to start things off on there best foot. They pretend to be something there not. Then for what ever reason they change there thinking. Guess phoney is the word. Not only do they fool other people they fool themselfs guess it's a game. For what ever reason I don't know. Guess it takes all kinds to make the world go around.
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momof2_1984
Wallingford, CT
age: 24
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People at first seam to alway try to start things off on there best foot. They pretend to be something there not. Then for what ever reason they change there thinking.
Couldnt have said it better myself. Maybe at the time they really do believe the things they say, they have good intentions, but as you said people change their minds too quickly. People should start thinking about what they are saying before they say it. It may sound good when your saying it, but stop and think about what your really saying. This is what I like to call..."Foot in my mouth syndrome" and I myself have this little defect, but Im learning to heed my own advice. I almost never say things I dont mean, or that I do not intend to follow through with. But, if all the world did this, what kind of workd would we live in? 
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