10/16/2008 12:28:46 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 38
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hello. my other threads have slowed down a bit so i have this burning question and maybe some of u readers could put an opinion down on it...
does age seem to slow down the dating process,i.e. younger vs. older and at what age? or do priorities change in what people are looking for? does being divorced and have kids make a difference?
I know that's a mouthful but just wondered what people thought in today's dating world....and esp. on-line when everyone is reading about everyone.... 
this could be a very easy question to answer but then again people have different views on how they feel about it.
any feedback??
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10/16/2008 12:32:24 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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kaseylt
Henderson, NV
age: 38
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Good post!!! i think my prioritys have changed a bit. i feel totally out of the "loop" now. I am 38, single, never been married, and have no kids...
90% of women my age are divorced with a ton of kids. It is VERY hard for me to find someone even close to my age that wants to start a family. i can find a gang of f**k-buddies, and thats all fun, but as far as a serious person in SIN CITY...HELP!!!!!
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10/16/2008 12:41:01 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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clarkie1964
Tallahassee, FL
age: 43
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What a great question. I think they both do...I know mine is. Time to act my age I guess. I've been married, had children, divorced, tended to children, became a widow, went nuts - had a boyfriend, found out he was such the liar... and now changing gears again. Kinda feel like my time has passed and someone forgot to tell me. Definitely changing the standards and so far - not happy with any offers. The older I get, the less men I find my age, and priorities are definitely changing.
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10/16/2008 12:48:10 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 38
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thanks, gals for yur opinions. yeah, it sounds so depressing, doesn't it? but don't give up hope. you never know who's around the corner. i personally think it's all in what one's priorities are and what we focus on. unfortunately we can't control age and our looks to a degree and the crap that's happened to us in the past but we certainly can try to control what's in our future.....as goes the "serenity prayer"
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10/16/2008 1:42:09 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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_ranger
Corpus Christi, TX
age: 58
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Hi maryg2,
Dating vs. getting to know someone first.
I do enjoy going out on dates, I don't need to do a background check on my date before I go out with her.
I just want to have dinner, go dancing, or just to a movie, and have fun.
Age and priorities do change as time goes by. The problem with online dating, is most women want a relationship and not just go on a date. That Sucks!!
Myself, I can't wait 1-3 months of emailing and phone calls, for them to decide if they are satified with my personal background information. I just want to go on a date, not married them! 
A relationship is formed after the dating process, that's when you should ask questions.
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10/16/2008 1:47:49 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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damtman
Dinwiddie, VA
age: 53 online now!
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I'd say both.... when you get my age you tend 2 be a little gun shy....
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10/16/2008 1:52:49 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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clarkie1964
Tallahassee, FL
age: 43
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Ya know, ranger has a good point... but the guys I've met, just as bad as some of the women... that's what pushed me to this site. Within 3 weeks I've had 2 people 'assume' were we a couple and talk about forevers... I want a happy medium, first. If we can't spend time together and learn if we even like each other - you can't talk about tomorrow cause I doubt I'll answer your call. One of my priority is to stay away from needy individuals... and I'm gonna ask you some questions. If I find out later that you're an ax murderer - I'd be highly disappointed in myself for letting you get close to me.
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10/16/2008 1:55:10 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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wazer
South Bend, IN
age: 22
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ah yeah you get more comfortable being alone rather than needing someone but that gets old too
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10/16/2008 3:16:19 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 38
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Hi maryg2,
Dating vs. getting to know someone first.
I do enjoy going out on dates, I don't need to do a background check on my date before I go out with her.
I just want to have dinner, go dancing, or just to a movie, and have fun.
Age and priorities do change as time goes by. The problem with online dating, is most women want a relationship and not just go on a date. That Sucks!!
Myself, I can't wait 1-3 months of emailing and phone calls, for them to decide if they are satified with my personal background information. I just want to go on a date, not married them!
A relationship is formed after the dating process, that's when you should ask questions.
Nice to meet u back, Ranger.
yeah, i hear what you're saying which in all fairness that could be a fault to women sometimes. BUT i like to go on a date too (and it's nerve-racking as it is if u haven't done it in a while) and seems like guys are quote, all over u, unquote and they haven't even gotten past the first date. so what happened to just gettin to know one another, basic instincts, and obviously you're not even close to talking marriage. just want to have fun and chat like u said. i don't know, maybe it's me. but thanks for the input.
and oh, by the way i read you're from Philly in my other thread (even tho i know its been some time for u) but GO PHILLIES!!
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10/16/2008 3:20:50 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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bryneyes174
Loves Park, IL
age: 34
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I think that its both. Now when I date someone, it isn't just "wow he's cute and fun". I think, "Hmm, would I allow him around my children?" It puts a different perspective in dating.
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10/16/2008 3:31:53 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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lilmissala
Hartselle, AL
age: 51
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I don't think my age has slowed me down and I really don't think its priority based either. I think experience has slowed me down. Wanting a relationship is a priority in my life but I don't want an instant relationship. I want to take time to know the person and them know me. I get too many men in a hurry to push me into a relationship. They want to start saying they love me and all that junk before they even know me! I don't care how long it takes I am not going to jump into anything again. I want the old fashioned made to last kind of love and that takes time.
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10/16/2008 3:36:30 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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ladybugkdt
High Point, NC
age: 51
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I think as we grow older our priorities change with our age. I seem to be a bit more picky now days. I have had my heart broken to many times. But still seaching for that one person who can make me happy. Are you out there?
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10/16/2008 3:36:48 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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cscottd2003
Leeds, MA
age: 37
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Both! This online shit sucks. I remember the old days when you would cruise the strip and show off your hot rod. They cant see that shit on here. If they do, its not theirs or paid for...lol
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10/16/2008 3:39:22 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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ladybugkdt
High Point, NC
age: 51
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Well if could produce kids I would go out with you. But my child is grown and gone. I have a nephew who feels like you do. Everyone he meets has children. But he seems to be fine with that for now. You will meet the right one when you aren't looking. 
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10/16/2008 3:55:52 PM |
does dating slow down with age or do priorities change or both? |
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monaj40
Binghamton, NY
age: 40
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I think both,because back in the old days it was priorities, it was a priority to get married young at 15&16yrsold and have children,thats how they kept the generation going...and it was illegal to get an abortion or a divorce,unless it was adultry.
Now with age, its' like I been there and done that... shit plays out ...you grew up, I"m tired of making the same mistakes over and over again. So there you go ...JMO 
[Edited 10/16/2008 3:56:41 PM]
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