In the dating world, what are the indicators that give you a belief of what another person's characteristics are? Assumptions. However, we should not go by these assumptions alone. We should take time out to find out the truth about an individual.

It was told to me that I should have better knowledge on how to choose women. It is my belief that what they were implying is that, I should utilize the knowledge of making false assumptions about a person's characteristics and treat the assuptions as facts. The problem is that's not being open minded and I could be missing out on someone that could possibly be a great person. Keep in mind, that is only my belief of what they are implying. I am giving those individuals the opportunity to come forth and comment on that.

It was also told that I have to accept the fact that I have made poor choices with some females who turned out to be no good. Just like some women have to accept the fact for choosing bad men. But would I ever imply that they should use close-minded methods for choosing men? No.

Since people don't walk around wearing shirts that say "I'M A CHEATER" "I'M A RAPIST" or "I'M A USER", there is no way a person could know beforehand what a person's characteristics are, until time is spent with that person. What you experience from a person is real evidence. An assumption based off of 2-second glance is not sufficient evidence to confirm the characterisitcs of an individual.

Not having interest in a person because of obviously seen reasons (fat, bald, short, tall, etc.) and not having interest in someone because of an assumed characteristic are 2 different things. One of them is proven and the other is not.

What gets me is how someone can say, don't give up try again, and then when I try again and I get bad results, it's still my fault for coming across another bad woman. So if you try or if you don't try, you're damned either way.

Shallow people make false assumptions about others and treat them as facts. Shallow people don't take time out to find the truth. It sounds like someone was trying to tell me to be a shallow person. If that's not the advice that was implied, then I'd like to hear from you.

Last but not least, before I wrap up this thread, assumptions should be treated as theories, which are subject to being verified. All theories that I piece together about women, I take the time out to verify them. Sometimes, it's my assumption that the next woman may not be of any good to me. But guess what? I take the time out to be sure, rather than treat my assumption as a fact and not try at all.


PS: Just because people "can" doesn't mean it OK to do it. Understand the difference between "can do" and "OK to do". I could hit someone in the head with a sledge hammer, throw someone off a bridge, or burn someone with an iron. Does that mean it's ok?

{I'd thought I'd nip that in the bud, in anticipation of certain types of responses.}