| 10/19/2008 8:00:05 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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kaybro
Indianapolis, IN
age: 42
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Not sure how this works but looking to hopefully speak with others who may be older single parents who have small children on their experience in the dating world. I'm not having much luck so any advice would be helpful. 
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| 10/19/2008 8:07:55 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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pennell23101
Vine Grove, KY
age: 32
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its not easy, especially because we protect our young which puts more obstacles in it. if you find the answer please share
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| 10/19/2008 8:14:35 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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kaybro
Indianapolis, IN
age: 42
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I certainly agree I seem to more protective this time around not that I wasn't with my other children but I was much younger, 18 years difference between my youngest daughter and my 17month old son. This alone is difficult and adding the dating thing in the mix has got me stumped.
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| 10/19/2008 8:21:17 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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imenuff
Sun Valley, NV
age: 37
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My oldest is 18 and my youngest is 5. It seems that the older you are and the younger your children are makes it more difficult, men our age are usually on the home stretch and aren't interested in raising any more children. I'm not interested in someone so they can raise my children I've done just fine on my own so I hang in there and you should too.
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| 10/19/2008 8:36:57 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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kaybro
Indianapolis, IN
age: 42
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I agree most older men are on the homestetch as I was until recently. Never thought I would be starting over again especially alone, however I would not change a thing as he is such a miracle and joy. I too keep hanging in there and not looking for someone to raise my son just a friend who may make taking a little break once in awhile reality.
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| 10/19/2008 8:51:15 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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pennell23101
Vine Grove, KY
age: 32
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it goes the same way for us men. the "selection" is alot less in numbers than when we was younger. add in the children and a sense of what you really want and it makes it hard to find the one you want. so do we settle for mediocre (probably misspelled that one big time)...never. i want the one i cant live without, so i will keep going single til that one is found.
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| 10/21/2008 11:47:32 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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imenuff
Sun Valley, NV
age: 37
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I would rather die than settle for less that what I truly want, been there and I'm not going back. My BF once asked me if I thought that What I wanted out of a relationship could be asking to much, by the way he can't really stand his wife and agrees he settled for way less. After thinking about it my answer was definatly "NO",my expectations are not to outragous that most couldn't be met and if the guy is special to me I am perfectly capable of compromise. Sometimes I get down about it but then I look in the mirror and know while I may not be 20 and drop dead gorgeous, and I may have some other things against me but someday it will happen.
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| 10/22/2008 6:09:38 AM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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massrick
Winchendon, MA
age: 58
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I have a 7 year old son. All the ladies that i have me in my age group are not interested because i have a young child. At this point i don't know if i will ever meet anyone again. It seems to me that i need to meet some who has children as well.
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| 10/22/2008 5:45:33 PM |
Single and a fairly new Mom 2nd time around |
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pennell23101
Vine Grove, KY
age: 32
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my view is that i would rather be a single dad than married to the wrong person. best advice i can give is, always be real with the other person. first thing i do is brag about my kids (mainly cause i am that proud of them). if the person has a problem with kids, prime time to find out...i aint invested uch in the other person at that point. they usually run at that point cause mine are 9, 7 and 4. the ones that dont get the chance to go onto friend status. not sure what happens after that yet...no one has made it that far yet...lol
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