| 10/20/2008 6:37:35 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Does anyone else out there prefer an actual message to a wink? When I recieve a wink I check out the profile but sometimes the profile does not give a complete picture of what the person wants. I'm getting a little hesitant when I respond to a wink cuz of the, for lack of a better word, interesting and suggestive replies I get.  
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| 10/20/2008 7:20:58 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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singlefather216
Jordan, MN
age: 23
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I dont mind them. When i get them, ill check their profile out and if its something i see that i like, ill message them other wise ill either ignore the wink or just wink back. But messages are better.
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| 10/20/2008 9:42:46 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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Maybe you want to add a line at the bottom to hop along if you a toad or looking for one thing. Just a suggestion. You can also turn the winks off. I either don't have the looks for the propositions or women have a little more class than the males. Every wink I got came from decent people. I don't very often approch the ladies on this site, but if I do its through a wink. I feel it is less forward and its been my experiance that every message I have sent gets zero replies. So turning them off might get people who have had simular experiance like me to never respond your way. But than again, maybe only the serious guys will take the time to give an e-mail. Good luck in whatever you decide. You do have a fun profile and are attractive, so maybe turning them off wont hurt.
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| 10/21/2008 5:42:46 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
age: 50
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well-let me tell ya-after the last few vulgar emails...im just set to invisible now...i prefer messages-but not those kind...thx you very much....
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| 10/21/2008 8:27:21 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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geogood123
Saint Paul, MN
age: 49
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but a massage is best!
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| 10/21/2008 2:48:01 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Thanks for the suggestions. I thought about turning the winks off but since that is the way most guys feel comfortable reaching out I guess that would be defeating the purpose. I'll just say if your interested and reading my posts...send me a message 
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| 10/21/2008 3:35:36 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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mplsrabbit
Minneapolis, MN
age: 55
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I think that's it's probably the "looks" factor. If you send a wink and the other person
checks out your profile and they wink back or send a reply you know that they are somewhat
accepting of you. If they don't wink back then you know that you've been rejected and there
was no great amount of effort expended. I agree that messages are better, but why spend the
time writing a long synopsis of your attributes just to have someone ignore your message and
not even send you a "no thank you", which appears to be par for the course.
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| 10/21/2008 4:03:13 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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dragongirl94
Minneapolis, MN
age: 43
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I agree winks are nic,e but a message would show that someone is really interested, and wants to at least attempt to get to know you.
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| 10/21/2008 7:42:02 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 43
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Does anyone else out there prefer an actual message to a wink? When I recieve a wink I check out the profile but sometimes the profile does not give a complete picture of what the person wants. I'm getting a little hesitant when I respond to a wink cuz of the, for lack of a better word, interesting and suggestive replies I get.
** Always, always.
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| 10/26/2008 11:16:50 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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rattlehead10
Burnsville, MN
age: 40
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Most WOMEN don't even answer back when I send emails because they only want male attention! They just only would rather put pictures of guy friends on their profile and be fake, and not want a real relationship because their too damn picky and b*tchy!!!! So I gave up on trying on all of these dating sights, so I made my profile a abomination!
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| 10/26/2008 11:25:28 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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I am going to read your profile Rattlehead, just though I would say so up front so you didn't think I was a man looking for a man. Need to see the abomination profile.
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| 10/26/2008 11:31:14 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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nerull
Minneapolis, MN
age: 24
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lol your personality section is pretty funny there rattlehead
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| 10/26/2008 11:35:30 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Most WOMEN don't even answer back when I send emails because they only want male attention! They just only would rather put pictures of guy friends on their profile and be fake, and not want a real relationship because their too damn picky and b*tchy!!!! So I gave up on trying on all of these dating sights, so I made my profile a abomination!
I think someone needs some happy pills 
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| 10/26/2008 11:43:18 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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ill take some happy pills if you got any.
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| 10/26/2008 11:46:31 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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I'm naturally happy, don't need any pills but I think the other guy might he seems a little down and out....
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| 11/5/2008 12:23:27 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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So how are those winks treating ya Lisa?
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| 11/5/2008 4:59:24 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Still getting a mix of both...How about you?
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| 11/8/2008 10:17:20 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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Been real slow lately. Think I need to go back to the real world to find my lady. The get together tonight will be fun I think.
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| 11/8/2008 10:26:28 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
age: 50
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hmmmmm-this is interesting....ive got the young bucks hot on my hiney this week...11 total..18-26....and dont understand the word ....NO.....my kids are that age-just to creepy for me.....
hey restart...you guys have a blast-still gonna try to make it....if i dont-take loads of pics.and i want a full update...please......
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| 11/8/2008 11:46:31 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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eab2784
Burnsville, MN
age: 25
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I rarely ever get winks or emails. Maybe I'm just not what a woman wants. But when I do send messages like rattlehead said..most dont even reply so what's the point in wasting the time?
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| 11/9/2008 6:51:29 AM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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I rarely ever get winks or emails. Maybe I'm just not what a woman wants. But when I do send messages like rattlehead said..most dont even reply so what's the point in wasting the time?
Maybe your not sending them to the right people. Some people are not what they seem online so I believe it takes meeting them in person to see if there is any chemistry. So far I've met some pretty nice guys but that may be just my age range, we're willing to take a chance. (One especially makes me laugh but we'll see.  - you know who you are) Most of us 30 plus have done the bar scene and more but have not met the right person yet so we figure what they hay...You never know who you might meet if you put yourself out there. All I can say is keep up the search...online and in person.
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| 11/10/2008 1:37:25 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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eab2784
Burnsville, MN
age: 25
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Yeah I guess I never really know what to say either? Usually I say hows it going but I'm sure thats not a very good message.
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| 11/10/2008 4:27:17 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Yeah I guess I never really know what to say either? Usually I say hows it going but I'm sure thats not a very good message.
Try something funny. Normally if you can make a gal laugh you'll get her curious to find out more about you. Good luck.
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| 11/10/2008 8:18:03 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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restart38
Moreno Valley, CA
age: 39
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Be careful though. humor can sometimes be a hard thing to get across while writing and some people may think your a fruit cake. If they have a creative profile like Lisa does, you may be fine using humor. If they don't, I would tread lightly with humor. I think you need to read the profile closly and make that decission.
I think Lisa just made me really think about this and you may want to comment about something that you liked about their profile. Don't look at the profile and say I think your hot though. Most women in my experience want to feel you are attracted to them, but also want who they are to be important to you.
I know guys, its hard for us to do at times. You could be having the most intimate conversation over dinner, you truly care about what she is saying, she reaches for her glass of water and you get a little eye shot from the top of her shirt, and your a pig. Why did the lord make us so simple minded at times. Its not like we even try at times or mean to, its the way we are wired.
Anyways, im just bored a going on and on and on.
Try to use her profile to somewhat get a picture of her personality. If its a fun profile, try humor. Just try to read the profile correctly.
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| 11/11/2008 3:17:27 PM |
Winks are nice but a message is better |
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lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 38
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Okay so maybe I should clarify, funny not insulting. It can be a very fine line sometimes and restart is right, if the profile is pretty serious a joke or a funny one liner probably wouldn't be a good idea.  Guess it really depends on your type...
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