Alot of bad experiences of the past.

10/11/2007 4:02:58 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	There seems to be alot of anxiety, fear, resentment and anger about past relationships and it makes me wonder just how many of us are truly READY for a new relationship. It can't be a wise move to take a step forward ( looking for a relationship) when you appear to be shackled to a past relationship. Not to say that past relationships ( bad ones) should be forgotten.. as we must take what we have learned from past mistakes and hopefully not repeat them in future ones. But.. don't ya think it would be a good idea to deal with the past before moving on to the future?
10/11/2007 4:04:10 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
somzat Huntsville, AL age: 30	i do indeed tru and too many people look to another to fix there black past
10/11/2007 4:06:36 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
tex4806 Anderson, IN age: 59	You have the secreat. Get rid of the baggage, kick the old to the curb. Lighten the load so you have room for a fresh start.
10/11/2007 4:07:18 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
rain_or_shine Columbia, SC age: 44	Not me, i'm ok with what has happen to me in my past.....Just has open my eyes to not what to do, and to look out for ...you know those red flags....... But right now, I'm not looking for a relationship......Im good just being me....And damn Im good......Well Sis saids Im bad......But I'm putting her in the closet....LOL
10/11/2007 4:08:37 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
rain_or_shine Columbia, SC age: 44	TEX, Thats it..........And Ive did that......Feels very good like I can float.....LOL [Edited 10/11/2007 4:21:41 PM]
10/11/2007 4:11:35 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
tj1free Storm Lake, IA age: 36	sure do forgive and move on if still in process of moving on take your time and things will work out for the better tmo i am moving forward can't change the past just live for the now and pray for the future thats my motto
10/11/2007 4:18:18 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
stormygrl Longmont, CO age: 41	the past should be considered learning experiences whether good or bad, it should help you with the futute not hinder you.
10/11/2007 4:20:44 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
somzat Huntsville, AL age: 30	indeed.... you should walk the shoals created by the past but never look in the rearview
10/11/2007 6:31:15 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
chopperbabe Selah, WA age: 46	Heal thyself before involving others
10/11/2007 6:35:32 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	But that doesn't seem to describe many people here. I see alot of negativity from them about their past relationships that is kinda scary.
10/11/2007 6:40:09 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
sweetiepie123 Cary, NC age: 31	I think it is ok to use these sites to get advice and support...I personally wouldn't want to discourage anyone from venting if it helping them gain clarity on where to go next...
10/11/2007 6:46:23 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	it's deeper than venting sweetiepie. There are some very deep hurt and anger and resentment our fellow friends here. It's like they have not taken the time to get that knife out of their back that someone placed there and it just fuels that anger they have. I would think it would be so difficult to move on to a new relationship until that is resolved in their own mind and heart.
10/11/2007 6:46:55 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
tj1free Storm Lake, IA age: 36	you know the saying what don't kill you will make you stronger in the end well past relationship are somewhat the same except it makes some of us wiser and the others they keep on going back into those type of relations that they were in before because that is all they know the key to moving on and not falling into those kind of traps is taking a look at the past sometimes as far back as your childhood and finding the source that makes you who you are and the decisions you make and realizing that part of you, you can change with work and time.
10/11/2007 6:49:32 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
sweetiepie123 Cary, NC age: 31	Yeah, maybe. I don't know about other folks intentions or motivations. I can only speak for my own. And I just know that it's a journey for all of us and whether we are on our first or second step on the road to "ok" or on the 2000th step, I think it's ok to talk about how we are feeling. As long as noone hurts anyone else. That's when it isn't ok with me anymore.
10/11/2007 7:05:05 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	I'm not suggesting that people do not talk about these issues. What I am trying to get at... and very poorly I think.. is that for those who are here to seek a mate.. long-term relationship or something along those lines and have the resentment, pain, mistrust, etc that I have mentioned.. I just believe they will have a tough time finding it at this point. This is in no way saying that they shouldn't be here! It saddens me that there is so much hurt and sadness here.. my heart goes out to them.. and I hope that they can work out those past issues to be able to get off on the right foot with a new relationship
10/11/2007 7:09:14 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
sweetiepie123 Cary, NC age: 31	I think I do hear what you are saying Tru - and I know you mean well! But, and this is just my opinion so don't take it wrong, but I think it is not doing anyone favors when you are "concerned" about them...
10/11/2007 7:10:57 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
angelleyes Plymouth, MA age: 34	i would like to clear something up here, the people i was talking about in my post while venting were two females that were suppose to be my friends "NOT males". and i am almost always very possitive and try to find the good in everything and anything bad, even the loss of my daughter and try to veiw the glass as half full most of the time but i have had a hard two days and truly "NEEDED TO VENT" and just for the record.... i havent been in a relationship in well over a year and iv purposely waited and gave myself time to heal before moving back into the dating world because i know all too well that if i werent ready to date, where it would end up!!!!!!
10/11/2007 7:18:02 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	lol I'm not explaining this well at all! I was simply wondering.. if others, after reading a post of someone who is ranting about what their ex has done to them and how they can't trust anyone.. that all men are dogs, all women are b*tches, etc.. if that doesn't raise a red flag. I mean...would you want to be with someone who has such unresolved feelings? Would it put stress on what the two of you are trying to build? Angel.. I haven't read that thread and am so sorry about your loss. But do you now see where I'm trying to go with this? [Edited 10/11/2007 7:19:54 PM]
10/11/2007 7:24:34 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
tj1free Storm Lake, IA age: 36	that just means that it is to early for people to be in here because they haven't solved there own issues yet and are bringing them in here hoping to find that person that will bring them out of there misery wich in fact all it is being on the rebound wich will fail in the end
10/11/2007 7:34:35 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	Well ya might be right tj. I think most of us must trip on our own to find out certain things. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with them searching at this point of their life. There are no hard-fast rules. It was just an observation more than anything
10/11/2007 7:36:02 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
angelleyes Plymouth, MA age: 34	yes i do see ur point very clear, i just had to put that out there because i did post a neg thread today just so people could vent.
10/11/2007 7:36:18 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
gawd Appleton, WI age: 53	And some people are not happy unless everyone is miserable just like they are.
10/11/2007 7:39:40 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
angelleyes Plymouth, MA age: 34	i agree 100% with u gawd, i know alot of people like that and its sad..
10/11/2007 7:40:34 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
guardian65 Hudson, NH age: 42	From my experiences, I submit the following litmus test for determining if you're ready to go on, or if you still have issues to work on: If you say to him/her "You're just like my ex-...." or "My ex used to do that..." then you should probably take some time before considering a relationship. I did that one time too many with my second ex-wife (comparing her to ex-wife #1), and that's one of the reasons she's ex-wife #2. This is a true story, unfortunately. Lesson learned.
10/11/2007 7:41:46 PM	Alot of bad experiences of the past.
trublu5ft2 Columbia, TN age: 50	Venting is vital sometimes. It's good therapy if done in a postive way. Well, good people.. I need to get to bed. You all have a great night. And Angel.. keep the faith girl. We all have our bad days and we are lucky enough to be able to come to friends here to vent with. Trish

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