| 11/30/2008 6:20:21 PM |
a stupid thing |
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chicky54
Chester, VA
age: 55
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My girlfriend that I hadnt spoken to for awhile she calls about every 4 months and her husband is friends with my ex, well when she calls she always asked have I talked to my ex and I say no, she was at my house last summer when I moved in and the ex helped me move and I said that I hadnt seen him since then, even though I knew back then he wanted to move back in and I wanted only to be friends with him we have been divorced 1.5 yrs and he was my husband for 5 yrs, but my buddy for 10 prior to marriage ,she knows why I divorced him ,the guy hated responsibility and sex and didnt do either, anyway she proceeds to tell me how bad he looks and she feels sorry for him, dumb me sent him a e-mail wishing him well for the holidays and hoped he was doing well ,of course he did not reply back, I hate myself for that, my friend is totally different than me ,she is forgiving and dumb, her husband had a affair in her face for 12 yrs. and I would never put up with that shit like her ,I guess thats why we arnt that close any more got any advice if this comes up again, ps she asked was I dating and I deliberately didnt answer her
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| 11/30/2008 6:25:33 PM |
a stupid thing |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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What was the question???? Really....what was it????
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| 11/30/2008 6:27:46 PM |
a stupid thing |
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chicky54
Chester, VA
age: 55
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how to handle this differently
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| 11/30/2008 6:32:18 PM |
a stupid thing |
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dogsday121
Roanoke Rapids, NC
age: 41
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dear chicky54, i have been divorced now for two years and my wife left me while i was in the hospitol, with my kids, and now gets 1000.00 a month for child support! hows that for better or worse. but that being said...sometimes friendships that are longlasting such as yours and hers...someone has to be the bigger person and look beyond small things. if there is something she does that really bothers you, then try talking to her and letting her know in a kind way that it is OVER between you and your ex. and that you can talk with her about anything else but that subject. as far as you ex is concerned...it is better to cut all ties(as long as no children involved). remember...it is always far better to forgive and move on than to stew in angry waters!
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| 11/30/2008 6:33:01 PM |
a stupid thing |
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snazzy73
York, PA
age: 39
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Quit berating yourself because you tried to be 'nice' & he didn't respond. You know why you divorced (& hopefully he does too). There's a saying... something like letting sleeping dogs lie... As for your girlfriend... let her be 'stupid' if she wants to be. I think you would be best to keep your personal info away from her though.
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| 11/30/2008 6:33:55 PM |
a stupid thing |
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midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 38
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The only thing I can see is that you are saying she is forgiving and dumb. She is still married to the guy she loves and you are on some dating sight talking about your ex.
You should rethink what you are saying.
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| 12/1/2008 8:09:56 AM |
a stupid thing |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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You and your friend handle life's problems differently. This doesn't make either one of you wrong - just different. I think you can start out by saying that, then by letting her know you have no intention of returning to a marriage that already failed on so many levels that the only peace you got was through divorce. Tell her how happy you are without mentioning your dating status. She has already shown her "ace" in the poker game by playing the guilt card. Too bad if he isn't looking well. He didn't value your worth then and he probably won't value it now if you take the sorry man in to your home once again.
You can say all these things kindly, but be firm. She is being influenced by your ex and will defend him against you - which, by the way, is not being YOUR friend. I hope this helps.
[Edited 12/1/2008 8:11:11 AM]
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| 12/1/2008 10:27:22 AM |
a stupid thing |
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deniselaina
Chandler, AZ
age: 51
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WHY do you guys have stars by your names ????
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| 12/1/2008 10:33:03 AM |
a stupid thing |
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techicianbrian
Parker, CO
age: 25
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cos all they do is post on other people threads. you get a star for every thousnd post that they make
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| 12/1/2008 10:36:56 AM |
a stupid thing |
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
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The only thing I can see is that you are saying she is forgiving and dumb. She is still married to the guy she loves and you are on some dating sight talking about your ex.
You should rethink what you are saying.
I wonder also...
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| 12/1/2008 2:25:23 PM |
a stupid thing |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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sounds to me she was never your friend for you never respected her life choices even if they went against yours.
just move on..
next time you see her.
just tell her, the truth
you just do not care for her or her opinions
and move on...
simple really
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