| 12/3/2008 3:36:46 AM |
why do nice guys ALWAYS finish last!!!? |
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wes_fisk
Provo, UT
age: 20
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So it is just a question that i have had for a while but i have never understood it so if some of you ladies will let me know what it is that i am doing wrong in that sense that would be great thank you and i hope you would  reply....................
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| 12/3/2008 3:55:03 AM |
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leftyl8
Horseheads, NY
age: 43
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grow a pair...geeez
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| 12/3/2008 4:00:53 AM |
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countrysweet677
Bordelonville, LA
age: 48
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hell your only 20,learn first then at 30 complain if your still last...how many 20 year olds do everything right?
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| 12/3/2008 5:02:05 AM |
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amusesherself
Wilmington, DE
age: 47
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Hi Wes. For me, I'm attracted to men who can cross the bridge between the good guy who has integrity, is kind, considerate, responsible, in touch with his feminine side, has some social graces, ready/ willing/ able to be in real love and monogamous, etc.... AND someone who has a strong sensuality/ sexuality and some real male energy (calls it like it is, dynamic, sexual, clever, respected, etc.) who brings out the wilder--and more feminine--side of me. To me, that's the perfect balance.
Some women may not like what I'm about to add, and I admit, it is generalizing to a big extent, but I also believe that women who like "bad boys," are hooking in to their primal instincts. They're looking for a strong, dominant man. It goes back to survival of the fittest. However, what's missing in some of those men is compassion and integrity... which is what makes them "bad boys." Bad boys are highly sexual and make an impact in society (good or bad), but they're not in touch with their hearts. Many of those men are surprisingly insecure, and the more women they have, the higher it builds their esteem... they can be careless with other peoples' hearts because they aren't in touch with their own hearts.
So, some women who like bad boys despite being mistreated may also be insecure, and having "the fittest" gives her a sense of "position" for having been "chosen." These women may also not be entirely in touch with their own hearts, or else they'd hold themselves more precious.
However, you can't fault any girl for falling or not falling for any guy... we're all here just trying to figure it out.
It's taken me a couple of swings each way to know I want the good guy with the bad boy glint in his eye and the clothes. LOL
I expect this will spur some interesting responses from women (and men alike).
Good question.
[Edited 12/3/2008 5:05:59 AM PST]
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| 12/3/2008 5:06:56 AM |
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lonelysux77
Winter Haven, FL
age: 31
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are you finished have you stopped looking. if not you are not last. im a good guy and im single and i wont finish last someone out there will appreciate me and that is what im looking forward to. dont give up and you wont finish last. although in the bedroom you should always finish last. 
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| 12/4/2008 3:46:37 AM |
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amusesherself
Wilmington, DE
age: 47
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are you finished(?) have you stopped looking(?) if not you are not last.
Wes, that is a great, positive outlook from Lonely.
The reality is unrequited love is an important part of life... it helps us value what we want and don't want. If every man or woman we were interested in engaged in a relationship with us, when would we learn about the subtleties of character (ours and the other person's) that we DON'T want in a partner?
Think about it, do you really want a woman who didn't choose you? There are so many opportunities in front of you. My suggestion is to just say, "OK. I wish you well," and move on. The Universe is designed perfectly. It's not all roses for a reason. We have to have this "contrast" in order to refocus on what's truly valuable and desirable. Remember what you liked about that woman--and what you didn't... and then take that knowledge with you and be aware of it as you interact with other women.
Echoing Lonely's sentiments, it ain't over until you say it is...
(and it never is)
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| 12/4/2008 4:22:51 AM |
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clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 57
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great comments above...ditto that!
sad story is ....alot of good women rarely even get a chance.
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| 12/4/2008 4:31:17 AM |
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justzentime
Waynesboro, VA
age: 34
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does he even really know what finishing last is all about yet? for real. probably only been interested in girls for a few years now.
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| 12/4/2008 4:36:18 AM |
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steven030463
Warren, OH
age: 45
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If everyone stops being picky on who they want everyone would have somebody, and thats all I got to say about tat!!!
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| 12/4/2008 5:29:41 AM |
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suzicutzi
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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Thats just the way it is. In this world, a lot of nice people get taken advantage of. Sad but true.
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| 12/4/2008 6:39:35 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Nice guys finish last so their gals can finish up! 
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| 12/4/2008 7:29:15 AM |
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1bigiron
Stafford, KS
age: 45
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Why do people think it is the nice guys finishing last. Maybe the nice gals finish last & good guys just dont finish at all.
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| 12/4/2008 7:35:16 AM |
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cuteyonduty
Deland, FL
age: 59
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Hi Wes. For me, I'm attracted to men who can cross the bridge between the good guy who has integrity, is kind, considerate, responsible, in touch with his feminine side, has some social graces, ready/ willing/ able to be in real love and monogamous, etc.... AND someone who has a strong sensuality/ sexuality and some real male energy (calls it like it is, dynamic, sexual, clever, respected, etc.) who brings out the wilder--and more feminine--side of me. To me, that's the perfect balance.
Some women may not like what I'm about to add, and I admit, it is generalizing to a big extent, but I also believe that women who like "bad boys," are hooking in to their primal instincts. They're looking for a strong, dominant man. It goes back to survival of the fittest. However, what's missing in some of those men is compassion and integrity... which is what makes them "bad boys." Bad boys are highly sexual and make an impact in society (good or bad), but they're not in touch with their hearts. Many of those men are surprisingly insecure, and the more women they have, the higher it builds their esteem... they can be careless with other peoples' hearts because they aren't in touch with their own hearts.
Perfect!
I like the "bad boys" who know how to be good and for the right woman, would do just about anything to work together with her. I'm no angel but can look like one and behave like one.
I'm a very, very strong woman but I AM a woman and being such need an even STRONGER man to protect, cherish, have a bigger set of balls than me. I say what I think, do what I think is right, protect with my life those I'm in charge of, fight like a lioness, but need a stronger man to cuddle with, to appreciate me to care for me.
If a man is too nice it reeks of "needy" and "clingy" to me.....the last thing I need is another "child" to take care of right now.
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| 12/4/2008 7:37:54 AM |
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xarmynick
Viroqua, WI
age: 27
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Why do people think it is the nice guys finishing last. Maybe the nice gals finish last & good guys just dont finish at all.
good point good guys are lazy. really your just all depresed cuz you ant got a girl. women your age go for the bad boy, and untill later on once that little girl figures out what every mommy tryes to teach them, that nice guys are the way to go, that you will start getting attention. really why dont you stop whinning an learn to play the game. life sucks, women dont think logicly, and nice guys turn into grumpy old men if they refuse to chang.
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| 12/4/2008 8:18:24 AM |
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1bigiron
Stafford, KS
age: 45
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good point good guys are lazy. really your just all depresed cuz you ant got a girl. women your age go for the bad boy, and untill later on once that little girl figures out what every mommy tryes to teach them, that nice guys are the way to go, that you will start getting attention. really why dont you stop whinning an learn to play the game. life sucks, women dont think logicly, and nice guys turn into grumpy old men if they refuse to chang.
You no you are right about one thing i am depresed. But for the reson most women won't take time to no this bad boy is a hell of a nice guy. I lernd long ago i can catch more flys with honey than with vinegar & if women think some hotheaded hard on has got something over me power to them.Im sure thay are not what i am interested in any way. I don't think i was whinning as you called it simpeley making noise. Playing games is for you young bucks my days of that is over.& I thout grumpy old men was a funny dam show. Go getem badboys
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