| 10/14/2007 3:35:07 PM |
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tj1free
Storm Lake, IA
age: 36
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a lot people i notice including my self had been told that distance is a problem and pretty much give up for what they do not know if that person is willing to make a move if the feeling is right what is your feedback on this one
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| 10/14/2007 3:38:37 PM |
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sandy1966
Battle Creek, MI
age: 60
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Distance is a no for me because of all the family, but he can come here if he can. Usually moving has alot more to do with family then miles I think.
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| 10/14/2007 3:38:39 PM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 28
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well tj, it's a tough situation, because especially with online dating, there is often one person who is infatuated and the other is just sort of luke-warm. When the more invested person brings up the idea of moving closer, the luke-warm person gets sort of creeped out. Having said that, if both people are on the same wave-length, and not tied down by too much as far as career/kids/etc, I suppose anything's possible. Just be careful to establish that both people are on the same level as far as where the relationship is headed and what you're looking for.
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| 10/14/2007 3:39:02 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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coughbullchitcough... never say never
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| 10/14/2007 3:40:17 PM |
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soultrynights
Perris, CA
age: 38
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something stuck in your throght blue?
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| 10/14/2007 3:40:19 PM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34
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not a problem for me if he is "THE ONE"
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| 10/14/2007 3:40:49 PM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 28
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whocoughwascoughyourcommentcoughaddressedtocoughcoughtru? sorry good thing I quit smoking recently 
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| 10/14/2007 3:42:14 PM |
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dreama777
Myrtle Beach, SC
age: 47
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distance can be a bummer, but if you truly love this person, you both will find some way to be together. it will mean a great deal of sacrafice on both parts, and if it's meant to be, it WILL be. BOTH parteners will have to work at it though.
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| 10/14/2007 3:43:01 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. This can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Also communicate in some way every day, avoid the temptation to be controlling. I would also take some time to talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.
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| 10/14/2007 3:44:00 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 21
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Long distance is never any good..... but if you are willing to relocate after a while then it can be great!
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| 10/14/2007 3:45:57 PM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 28
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yeah i'd agree with mark.. You can't stress enough that communication is the key, especially in the early stages...   hell all stages.
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| 10/14/2007 3:46:49 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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britbrit,
A long distance relationship is no different from a proximal relationship in that they both require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding. But you have to work extra hard to maintain the communication and to stay focused enough to not let your daily life interfere with your desire to be with the other person. Don't forget them or you can forget the relationship and it will all be over.
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| 10/14/2007 3:46:53 PM |
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sweetiepie123
Cary, NC
age: 31
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Very mature answer 62. and I agree completely
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| 10/14/2007 3:47:09 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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Ahemmm much better now lol Addressed to whoever told tj that distance is the end to finding what his heart desires.. cough
I don't think anyone is just seeking a long distance relationship. There are alot of decisions and challenges to meet and the goal would be to be together ( physically) at some point
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| 10/14/2007 3:48:25 PM |
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soultrynights
Perris, CA
age: 38
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you still got that butt hair stuck blue ?
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| 10/14/2007 3:48:52 PM |
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qwerty159
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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Its according where,and does the other person want everything you want?
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| 10/14/2007 3:49:16 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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soul.. yeah ya weasel... you told me you shaved yours!
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| 10/14/2007 3:52:48 PM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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to the end of the world BAY BEE
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| 10/14/2007 3:52:56 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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What you need to understand is that geography plays a big part on the stress of any relationship
The more you see that person the harder it gets to deal with distance
This along with other factor will definitely contribute to the demise of most long Distance relationships
This kind of thing demands super human strenght on both parts and its not all a sea of roses when you don't have the one you love next to you.
If you are thinking about trying such a thing , be prepared for the hardships ahead.
I am not saying its an impossible task , however there is NOTHING easy about LDRs.
Good Luck whatever you decide.
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| 10/14/2007 3:55:10 PM |
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tj1free
Storm Lake, IA
age: 36
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ty blu some people don't realize being in the middle of the us out in no mans land is like and most of the profiles i found are in the extream south or on either coastline
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| 10/14/2007 4:00:13 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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I have done the distance thing. We flew back and forth every weekend and talked on the phone every night. We talked til we were talked out every night. We spent alot of time planning our future. Sure, it was hard. We missed each other all the time. It was emotional highs with emotional lows. It does take alot of human power, effort, trust, faith, love, imagination to keep the fire hot inbetween visits... but it can definitely be accomplished
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| 10/14/2007 4:04:10 PM |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 45
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Maybe after my daughters married and 25 or so, then I'll move within driving distance or short flight...
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| 10/14/2007 4:06:27 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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The kids has ALOT to do with that choice. Mine are grown and have lives of their own.. so moving would not be a problem for me
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| 10/14/2007 4:06:31 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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Troy, I was deployed many times while I was married. And the distance was not hardest part. One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is connecting when one person gets busier than the other. If this happens in a relationship it is important to maintain communication. If you are the busy person, You can warn your partner ahead of time that you will be working many hours and may have limited time. If you are the not-as-busy person, take advantage of the time by picking up a new hobby, getting in shape, reading a new book, etc. Flexibility is very important.
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| 10/14/2007 4:09:48 PM |
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tj1free
Storm Lake, IA
age: 36
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sweetromie what if the guy is willing to move for you?
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