| 10/17/2007 5:22:41 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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a_keeper
Campbellsville, KY
age: 45
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I wouldn't go as far to pay no man's bill's. I think that you share things when your in a relationship but not each other!! Sometimes, people will do just about anything for a realtionship. One thing that really gripes me about a man is acting out like a child...Like your going to take something of a personal item of thier's. (when some are leaving in the past) I am like get over it!
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| 10/17/2007 7:16:12 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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I think way to many people live by the saying, Whats mine is mine and whats yours is mine...lol...sure once you pay me half of what Ive worked so hard for you can claim as yours but until then step off $^#@^
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| 10/17/2007 7:39:23 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 36
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Sorry sweet.. just being honest... recently I have found that some women I have met were not completely honest about their intentions with me.... sorry about being off thread..
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| 10/17/2007 7:41:46 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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if there is a TRUE relationship.. why would a man ask her to sleep with his friend?
I will go to the ends of the earth for mine but I ain't sleeping with his friend lol
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| 10/17/2007 7:44:02 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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cant say i blame you there trublu
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| 10/17/2007 7:51:35 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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droger102
Newport, RI
age: 58
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This is a good question, so I'm going to put some effort, and time into it, unlike my other seemingly stupid responses.
1. Good, decent people set boundaries.
In fact, the more boundaries you set, the more you are being good to others and yourself. Establishing boundaries makes you a safe person. People know where they stand with you.
2. Generous people set boundaries.
If you do not have boundaries, you are essentially giving yourself away. With boundaries, you give only what you want, which means you can afford to be generous to more people over longer period of time.
3. To be effective, try to relate to others.
If you want people close to you to consistently respect your boundaries, try to understand why they are crossing them. If you can, make it easy to respect your boundaries by giving them what they need. For example, does your mother call you incessantly because she worries about you? mine sure as hell does, and it drives me nuts. What kind of information can you share with her to make her worry less? Personally I lie and say I'm fine.
4. Boundaries allow people around you to grow.
When you set boundaries, it makes others conscious of their behavior. This fosters their own growth. Your boundaries can actually improve other people's lives.
5. Boundaries help you get more of what you want, and less of what you don't.
Boundaries can be used not only to protect you from unwanted behavior, but also to foster behavior you desire and need. Figure out what you need from others to thrive, and then ask for what you want and accept nothing less.
6. Stick to your guns.
In order for boundaries to be a reality in your life and not just a nice concept, you must be aware and willing to act consistently. You must have a commitment to uphold what is right and true for you.
7. Practice makes perfect.
Learning how to set boundaries and how to have only what you want in your life takes time and practice. It will feel awkward at first. People may not like what you are saying. But keep practicing and communicating. You will get better, more skilled, and more graceful.
8. Enjoy the benefits of boundary-setting
Freedom from fear and pain
Increased self-esteem and self-respect
More respect of and from others
Contribution to the well-being of others' lives
Finally have a life that you love
Go out and practice. Your life and relationships will blossom from it!!!!!!!!!!!
Shit being married few times helps with this, the more you marry the more mess you gain.
[Edited 10/17/2007 7:56:55 PM]
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| 10/17/2007 7:53:15 PM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I have boundaries.. don't let no one in neither lol think that is why I am alone? duh!
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| 10/22/2007 7:48:42 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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qazyguy
Rockville, MD
age: 50
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Now just where can I find a girlfriend who asks me to sleep with her girlfriends too? 
JIM
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| 10/22/2007 8:00:03 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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anything_goes
Mississauga, ON
age: 27
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First off, when your dating someone you shouldnt rush them in your house to live, just because its cheapper on the bills. I wouldnt move in with anyone untill been with them for a minimum of 2 years. Second to that, a loved one shouldn't ask you for help financially, or even make it a guilt trip on you. LOVE is making the person richer with everything, not taking it from them. I know you want to help them, but dont be scammed by the many guys or women gold diggers out there (and I had a few of those in my time) who will try to make u feel bad for them by having to help support them financially. I think if anyone is looking for $$$$ then you know they're not in this with you for love. Hell I feel like shit if I kept taking $$$ from a girlfriend or mooched off her.
not a tough option. But are you the persons lover or the persons shugar momma/daddy?
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| 10/22/2007 9:02:10 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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I made that mistake before anything goes, feel in love with a guy and he told me to sell my house because it would really help him out on his bills, so I did and soon found out, he was 2 mortgage payments behind, his truck was being repod, he said we couldnt take showers because he was out of oil, asked him where all his money was that he worked for, he said he had a pot smoking habit he couldn't kick, well sweetie I wasn't going to let my money go in his pot pipe, so after foolishly catching him up on his bills, I moved along.
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| 10/22/2007 9:04:07 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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i smoke pot and i dont have that problem
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| 10/22/2007 9:44:17 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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I do to but and always know my bills come first, without my bills coming first I would have no house to smoke my pot in 
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| 10/22/2007 9:58:29 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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littlelilly2
Sturgeon Bay, WI
age: 46
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In a true loving relationship your partner would never push or coerce you into anything you were not totally comfortable with as that is not Love it is selfishness...Experimenting together is one thing but when you start questioning where to draw the line... It becomes their desires vs yours...Not a quality relationship in my book...Lacking real love!
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| 10/22/2007 10:07:05 AM |
when it comes to relationships, where do you draw the line? |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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littlelilly very wise 
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