| 12/16/2008 12:28:48 AM |
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loveme28
Alpharetta, GA
age: 30
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ok here is the issue that my friend is having and i just don't know what i can do to help here. her grandmother is sick and is told that she is going to pass away before the year 2010. now my friend and her grandmother are close because her grandmother raised her.my friend is 29 years old and she told me that her grandmother came to her and said that her dying wish is for her to have a baby ok i know that sounds mess up but wait my friend don't have a husband or boyfriend so what she is doing is looking for some one to get her prego and just leave. what should i tell her i really need help so help me cause i just don't know what else to say or do to help.
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| 12/16/2008 2:36:36 AM |
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keekeetoo
Crowley, LA
age: 53
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  Your friend would be a fool to have a baby just for her grandmothers benefit.Someone to get her pregnant and leave? Who will pay for this babys upbringing?Kids aren't cheap to rear.Do we really need another illigetimate child brought into this world?If she can afford a child and doesn't expect the government to pay for it,knock your socks off.Otherwise don't sink to such a low.People are tired of paying for others bastard children.Might sound cold but you get truth here.
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| 12/16/2008 7:07:20 AM |
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futureunknown
Marshfield, WI
age: 39
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 that's just messed up...your friend shouldn't do that
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| 12/16/2008 7:19:22 AM |
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kojack39
Danbury, CT
age: 38
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Thats wrong on so many levels.
Like some have said who will raise the child and pay for his/her expenses, will the guy who does this ever see the child ?
I love my grandma and thank goodness she called and we talked briefly she called me at work and said I love you . I left work 20 mins later, and stayed till 4 am went home and stopped by before mass on sunday prayed for God to keep her alive till I got back but to take her to end her suffering, and he did just that....
I walk in and said hello she opened her eyes, smiled and gasped and died.
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| 12/16/2008 7:20:21 AM |
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imrich29
Wessington Springs, SD
age: 59
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tell your friend to go addopt one it will be alot easier on her emotions grandma is not only sick but sick in the head
[Edited 12/16/2008 7:22:29 AM]
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| 12/16/2008 7:26:08 AM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 43
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your friend should tell grandma, if the subject comes up again, that when she is ready to have a child she will... that when she is in a loving, stable relationship, she would want nothing more than to be blessed to be a mom...
maybe grandma just wants your friend to be happy... but your friend needs to use common sense.
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| 12/16/2008 7:51:31 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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your friend should tell grandma, if the subject comes up again, that when she is ready to have a child she will... that when she is in a loving, stable relationship, she would want nothing more than to be blessed to be a mom...
maybe grandma just wants your friend to be happy... but your friend needs to use common sense.
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| 12/16/2008 8:31:00 AM |
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bigvic23
Chicago, IL
age: 28
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well that is very hard bcuz you would want her to give her grandmother what she wants but like you said she has to be careful trying to grant that wish bcuz she will have to be the one who has the child and take care of it........but that's not something you do for someone else you really have to be ready for a child so she should talk to grandma and tell her how she feels or if she wants to grant that wish then she should be careful with who she picks to be the father
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| 12/16/2008 3:21:57 PM |
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loveme28
Alpharetta, GA
age: 30
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thanks you all for the advise so far i hope that it helps
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| 12/18/2008 4:19:58 AM |
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droxico
Lithonia, GA
age: 27
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Bringing life into this world is not some thing u do just becuase,or to please anyone esle.Bringing life into this world is big blessing that comes with alot responsabilty and with that also comes big changes not only to the one giving life but to everyone thats around thatperson.
THIS SUBJECT CALLS FOR ALOT OF THOUGHT!!
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| 12/18/2008 4:33:15 AM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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have grandmother volunteer in a children nursery
grandmother is being selfish, and is only thinking of her self
and not the wishes of her grand daughter...
only another adult at the same age of the grandmother
can talk to the grandmother to make her understand the pressure she is puting
her grand child under.
the grand daughter needs emotional support during this time
as well as the grandmother.
good luck
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| 12/18/2008 6:13:57 AM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 38
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Your friend would be a fool to have a baby just for her grandmothers benefit.Someone to get her pregnant and leave? Who will pay for this babys upbringing?Kids aren't cheap to rear.Do we really need another illigetimate child brought into this world?If she can afford a child and doesn't expect the government to pay for it,knock your socks off.Otherwise don't sink to such a low.People are tired of paying for others bastard children.Might sound cold but you get truth here.
i think its a very strange request for a grandmother to make, altho a gmom might like before her dying day to be able to have known she has a great grandchild which is what most mothers' wishes r in the world before they leave. but at the same time even under her unfortunate circumstances, she is being self-centered in the respect of putting her granddaughter (your friend) in that position to make a choice and a position that will stick w/her for the rest of her life. Bearing life is never an easy decision, more less half the time of making the right decision. so i think your friend needs to contemplate seriously what she is being requested and how it's going to affect her in the long run long after her gmom is gone. and your friend can't just go looking for man to get her pregnant w/out strong foundation to fall back on. ppl have a hard enuf time dealing w/pregnancies when the man is in the picture and they split....so good luck...
and as for the above, your statement of being cold and truthful saying "bastard" children really is horrible. u shud take a lesson in how to get your point across w/out sounding so ignorant. thank god u weren't born a bastard child...or your kids if u have any...im sure u came from a loving, faithful christian family...perfect by all means....boy, some ppl.
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| 12/18/2008 6:17:26 AM |
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asl_65
Charles Town, WV
age: 43
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tell her to get a puppy instead
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| 12/18/2008 10:26:21 AM |
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monaj40
Binghamton, NY
age: 40
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You just don't have a child cause someone else wants you to have a child....cause when Grandma is gone who is gonna help her take care of the child finacially and emotionally. If your friend is not ready then she shouln't do it. Thats the problem with us as females we want to rush into shit and wound up paying for it later. Nowadays its a blessing not to have any kids because of the economy being so f**ked up and all. grandma lived her life tell your friend to live hers. Goodluck!
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| 12/18/2008 10:29:14 AM |
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miray1347
Bowling Green, KY
age: 36
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your friend should tell grandma, if the subject comes up again, that when she is ready to have a child she will... that when she is in a loving, stable relationship, she would want nothing more than to be blessed to be a mom...
maybe grandma just wants your friend to be happy... but your friend needs to use common sense.
what she said
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