| 12/23/2008 6:37:01 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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sierratoo
Grande Prairie, AB
age: 54
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We chatted online. We were to meet but enroute my plans got changed but he didnt know this. since I had no way of reaching him, I was hoping he would some how materialize.
I gave him the phone # of where I was staying. He called exactly at the time I asked. A nice sounding guy.... We spoke a few times on the phone. And at the day's end I was hoping he would call again. And always glad he did.
We met and I was so nervous I a/had a difficult time making eye contact and b/I chattered incessantly to try to cover up my nervousness.
He seems like a nice guy. Very easy to talk to. I wanted to get to know him better. All he said when we parted was 'you can call me any time...' 
I prefer the guy to pursue me...
Then I forgot to thank him for coffee. So on the way home I was on cloud nine because he is/was a guy I wanted to know better - even if it was only friends, and kicking myself for being so blasted ignorant. I did call him after we parted and thanked him. Somehow I think it was too little too late...
 So people out there, did I blow it? What do I do now? It has been forever since I dated. Maybe the rules have changed but I am still old fashioned. I like to be the one who is pursued...
Sierra (sad Sierra)
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| 12/23/2008 6:40:01 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 52
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If he said you can call him anytime, CALL HIM. But then after that the ball is in his court, don't keep calling back unless he calls you.
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| 12/23/2008 6:43:07 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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lobo_corazon
Kingston, ON
age: 39
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I'm confused about what the problem is?
He said he'd like for you to call him - I assume he gave you his number so you can... So if you are all excited about him, pick up the phone!
Sitting back and waiting for guys to pursue you is fine as long as it is getting you what you want. If it isn't working for you, I'd recommend doing some pursuing yourself!
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| 12/23/2008 6:45:38 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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Dating rules have changed significantly in just the past 10 years. The next week will be a true indicator of both you and his intentions.
Don't read into it too much just because a guy says that you can call him anytime. He's just leaving the door open.
With regards to you calling him late... What do you consider to be late? Whether you blew it would depend on the type of conversation you two had when you called him. Those details were left out.
But good luck.
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| 12/23/2008 6:53:18 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 44
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Hell, no, you didn't blow it.
He wants to put the ball in YOUR COURT. Believe it or not, MEN like to be persued, also. It makes us feel just as good as it makes you feel. So, to me, the best dance is to take turns being the persuer.
The fact that you called him and thanked him is fine...at least it would have been for me. I might even think you PLANNED it that way just to have a reason for the further contact. And I would be flattered.
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| 12/23/2008 7:07:31 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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ledrock
Preston, ID
age: 46
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ah dont fret about it
you didnt screw up
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| 12/23/2008 7:13:06 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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meisterheady
Honolulu, HI
age: 49
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Tell him that he's the hottest pursuee that you've ever pursued.  
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| 12/23/2008 7:14:21 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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Thats easy street girl
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| 12/23/2008 7:19:05 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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smitty4980
Fort White, FL
age: 56 online now!
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I haven't dated anyone in 25 years. I tried to be cool with the first woman I was to meet for dinner but to be honest I felt like a bungling teenager. She even asked me if I was nervous. I said no but .......
She wasn't really what I was looking for but we did have a pleasant night out.
The second woman I met I was over the jitters and was pretty relaxed. As soon as I saw her I knew this wasn't it either, but once I realized I wasn't trying to impress her we did have a very pleasant dinner and chatted long after we were through eating.
The third one I decided it's just another dinner date so don't sweat it, just go have a fun night out. I liked this lady right off the bat. We had a great dinner and a nice walk about town looking at the lights afterward. She was very apprehensive about this on-line dating thing so I made sure she was comfortable. I didn't ask her for her phone number and I still only know that she lives in the next town but I don't know where and I don't need to know until she tells me. We've been out together about 5 times now and each time has been more fun than the last.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is maybe you blew it, maybe you didn't. Call him again and ask him out. I can tell you as a guy I don't want to call all the time and act over anxious so I usually give it a few days then call. When she calls me it can be a relief because it tells me she called me because she wanted to, not because she felt obligated.
If it doesn't work with this guy keep trying. Sooner or later the right one will come along.
Smitty
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| 12/23/2008 7:19:24 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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laframage
Raleigh, NC
age: 24
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I fail to see where you screwed up.. I think you are over thinking this one. 
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| 12/23/2008 7:22:44 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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sierratoo
Grande Prairie, AB
age: 54
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Dating rules have changed significantly in just the past 10 years. The next week will be a true indicator of both you and his intentions.
Don't read into it too much just because a guy says that you can call him anytime. He's just leaving the door open.
With regards to you calling him late... What do you consider to be late? Whether you blew it would depend on the type of conversation you two had when you called him. Those details were left out.
But good luck.
My comment was "too little too late" I didnt do enough soon enough. I thought we parted on a positive note. I am so new to this dating dooda, I only know how to be me.
Sierra
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| 12/23/2008 7:26:10 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 55
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I fail to see where you screwed up.. I think you are over thinking this one.
Me too. At least having his number and being free to call anytime assures he is not married and not living with anyone. That's a bonus.
As for pursuing, like another poster said, call him once, twice, then let him call you. I tend to wait to be pursued, and more assertive women move in successfully taking over while I'm on my tush waiting.
Give me his number, I'll call him - anytime.
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| 12/23/2008 7:59:46 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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sierratoo
Grande Prairie, AB
age: 54
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Me too. At least having his number and being free to call anytime assures he is not married and not living with anyone. That's a bonus.
As for pursuing, like another poster said, call him once, twice, then let him call you. I tend to wait to be pursued, and more assertive women move in successfully taking over while I'm on my tush waiting.
Give me his number, I'll call him - anytime.
LMAO and ROTFLMAO!!
I will send you a post with his number NOT. You're funny.
Sierra
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| 12/23/2008 11:23:58 PM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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tryagaindj68
Evansville, IN
age: 40
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He wants to hear from you any time! That's wonderful. Keeps you from feeling like you have to wait til he calls you.
You didn't blow it with him. I hope you both call each other, and I hope this turns into the love of your life.
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| 12/24/2008 1:20:22 AM |
Met Someone and I think I Screwed it up |
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mike22304
Alexandria, VA
age: 63
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What does this mean? We were to meet but enroute my plans got changed but he didnt know this. since I had no way of reaching him, I was hoping he would some how materialize.
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