| 12/28/2008 2:03:33 PM |
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soloact59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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Many men and women on DH want an LTR without marriage, so to those who feel that way would you prefer to live together or would you prefer to live apart from your lover?
Say in the same town but separate residences.
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| 12/28/2008 2:05:41 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 42 online now!
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I think it would depend on the individuals and the relationship. For me, I am open to either, depends what life brings my way.
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| 12/28/2008 2:18:38 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
age: 51
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If I ever get into another relationship I think I would want a living apart arrangement. My aunt did that with her boyfriend some 20 years. They stayed at her place,at his place and then seperate for a night or two. I have been alone so long I am really afraid I wouldn't adjust well to living in the house with anyone. I am too much use to everything my way. And I like my alone time too. The idea of someone being around 24/7...that doesn't sound good at all anymore. When the kids come stay a night or two I am exhausted when they leave and just wanting my quiet time again! I know a t.v. on all the time now would drive me insane.
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| 12/28/2008 2:23:17 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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soloact59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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I know a married couple that have lived apart for over 20 years and it works for them. I think if they moved in together they'd be divorced within a year.
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| 12/28/2008 2:29:03 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 42 online now!
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I have family friends that have been together for over 25 years and have lived apart the whole time. When I was younger I always wondered why they never lived together or got married, but today when I see that they are still together and very happy with one another and their boys are like brothers to each other (both now in their 20s), I think they made the right decision for them...because it's worked!
People have to go with what they are comfortable with and what works for them.
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| 12/28/2008 2:29:50 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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cinthianna
Goshen, IN
age: 29
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I fall into the have a committed relationship to each other but live apart. Sounds odd but here is my reasons for this.
I fall into the single mother club and do not expect every person I meet to be the perfect match for my pre-made family. I have no desire to put my children through break up hell, or even share with them that mommy is dating, because I am their mother and those personal aspects of my life are just that, personal...
Kinda like dating a married chick when I look at it in print...
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| 12/28/2008 2:34:37 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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angella41
Tillsonburg, ON
age: 41
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For me ,absolutely live apart...I know that I never want to live with someone ever again even if I was in a long term relationship.
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| 12/28/2008 2:39:36 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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soloact59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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I agree, I prefer to live apart. This way I'd actually have some closet space 
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| 12/28/2008 2:40:41 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Together
if we lived apart that would never work for me
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| 12/28/2008 2:49:20 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
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My family and friends often doubt that I'll even have a relationship let alone a LTR or marriage. I like to remain hopeful that there is a special man that can change my mind.
With that said I'm pretty independent and want my time with the horses. "If" I met someone who I thought was terrific...who knows,... If after an extended period of time and sleepovers we really were connected, I might want him under the same roof. If not, I might be perfectly content to have an exclusive relationship where he comes over a few nights a week.
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| 12/28/2008 2:49:59 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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at this stage of my life. apart.
i never want to do a legal battle over assets the rest of my life
what is his is his. what is mine is mine. and neither shall meet in court.
so its apart for me.
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| 12/28/2008 2:53:18 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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layla22
Peoria, IL
age: 55
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good question.
i'm definitely not eager to marry again (once was enough).
it would depend on the relationship, whether we eventually shared a household or kept separate residences (which has its advantages)---- within the same town or nearby.
am open to how things develope and seem to work out best...
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| 12/28/2008 3:05:46 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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cowboyintown
Edmonton, AB
age: 41 online now!
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I would have to say together.
you will miss out on all the little thing
that make you want to be with that person
the thing that make you laugh, love and yes cry!!!!  
AAHHhhh hell what do I know I'm just a fool cowboy with old school ideas
thats (JMO) and some people need there space, but not me. she can have all the closet
space she needs Just as long as she leaves room under the bed for my BOOTS and MY BOOTS
only.
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| 12/28/2008 3:21:50 PM |
LTR but no marriage, live together or apart |
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bigcats374
Cedar City, UT
age: 55
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I vote together, living apart even in the same town is not a good thing.
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