| 10/21/2007 3:01:30 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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There is a significant difference between being lonely and being alone. Loneliness is caused by a deficiency of the spirit – a spirit that needs people or activity with regularity in order to feel a sense of worthiness, belonging or acceptance. Being alone can be seen as a positive opportunity to get to know and like yourself better while growing in wisdom, understanding and maturity.
We all have been there.. which describes you best at these times?
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| 10/21/2007 3:07:53 PM |
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uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
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Alone
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| 10/21/2007 3:09:15 PM |
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wv_dad
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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my son lives with me ,but there is a void that needs to be filled by a woman to fill the lonliness.
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| 10/21/2007 3:12:18 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Hmmm...Good question...I'm both at times...I come here to kill time and have company but, I'm neither most of the time. lol
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/21/2007 3:13:08 PM |
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ylekiot
Carson City, NV
age: 51
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There's a difference between being alone and being by yourself (master of stating the obvious here).
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| 10/21/2007 3:14:48 PM |
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mugan
Gresham, OR
age: 25
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I started out with loneliness, as time healed my hurt I became alone. I realized I dont need someone to be happy. 
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| 10/21/2007 3:15:39 PM |
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johnnybravo76
Mechanicsville, VA
age: 31
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im calling the healtyh department right now folks,hang in there...well get ya unlonely just as soon as another opening breaks free...get me a wrench .,.stat!
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| 10/21/2007 3:16:08 PM |
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sailor_nc
Norfolk, VA
age: 39
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I don't mind being alone. It really is a good thing. Everyone should have some private time. Time to themselves. Time with their thoughts. When I do have my two little girls, I do enjoy some quiet alone time. And even now with them gone, I have enjoyed some of my alone time. It is a very good thing.
However, being lonely.... well that just down right sucks ass! I hate feeling lonely. It makes me depressed or maybe I feel depressed sometimes because I'm lonely? (Interesting).
Like I have said, my girls aren't with me. They have been gone for the summer. While they have been gone, I have been in a room full of people that love and care about me, but yet there was this huge lonely feeling. My babies weren't there. I'm very lucky though because I know I'm blessed.... just a few weeks and they will be back.
Then there is the single thing. First of all my marriage was nothing more than a legal bond between two people.... at least for most of it. There was some feelings and yeah I have love for her even now... We had history and memories, and I have known her about 16 yrs now. We have two kids together that we share many memories with. But, I was always very, very lonely in my marriage. There was little emotional connection most of which was my fault. Happy couples have that emotional connection.
So I don't like being lonely. And, now that I am single and dating, yeah I am looking to fill that lonely void. I don't want to be lonely. I don't think many people do.... some? Yeah maybe.... so what are most single people looking for, you got it right and its no big mystery.... They want someone to be with so they aren't lonely.
The sad thing in my eyes is this. You can be lonely and be with someone. Some people just confuse being alone a lot with being lonely. I guess they think, if they are with someone else (not alone) then that equals not being lonely. Well I hate to burst that bubble, but it is very possible to being with someone and be lonely. I know that from first hand experience, as I mentioned.
[Edited 10/21/2007 5:03:36 PM]
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| 10/21/2007 3:16:44 PM |
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kenj45159
New Vienna, OH
age: 48
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Sometimes I am alone and it's good; like when I get home from work and I've had a bad day and I just need "some space". Other times I am lonely; those times when it would be nice to have that special someone...................
[Edited 10/21/2007 3:17:28 PM]
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| 10/21/2007 3:17:30 PM |
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bossman777
Galivants Ferry, SC
age: 50
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lonely. It has been 5 hours since I have seen dreama. In 2 weeks we will be together. bossman
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| 10/21/2007 3:19:17 PM |
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johnnybravo76
Mechanicsville, VA
age: 31
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sailor.youve been on that ship tooo long,come to shore ,wars over son,plenty of poontang in country...god bless america!
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| 10/21/2007 3:22:08 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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Sailor did say it very nicely 
xoxoPeaches.
Johnny, ..........
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| 10/21/2007 3:23:06 PM |
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johnnybravo76
Mechanicsville, VA
age: 31
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peaches is so sweet,i just wanna lick her until my tongue pulls a cramp
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| 10/21/2007 3:25:30 PM |
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fancyface326
Calvert City, KY
age: 33
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I am just alone. Very rarely if never am I lonely. I enjoy my time being by myself. But then I work in a casino so I guess I really need my time alone because for 40 straight hours i am being over frienly, flirty, full of energy and that can get tiresome.
Most of my real good friends really always have to have people around them 24-7 or they are very lonely. I never can understand why I attract people that can't stand to be alone. When I don't mind it at all.
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| 10/21/2007 3:43:57 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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I too was in a marriage that I was lonely. I was not on one of his top priorites and when I brought it up to him I was made to feel as though it was my problem.
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