| 1/24/2009 6:41:05 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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tokobo
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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I do! It's a natural human instinct!
The law of attraction starts with a physical attraction - right or wrong - yet so few and I'm only guessing on percentage, but less than a percent of the profiles you read state what physical attributes you are looking for... of course character counts... but to get to second base you have to pass first base. Only curious at this point.. but why is this! Does it present itself as being a superficial beginning or expectation? Feed back PLZ! I won't be home to respond till later tonight.. but lets stir the pot anyway.
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| 1/24/2009 6:54:07 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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iamhere1970
Trenton, NJ
age: 39
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No....I think a person personality can overtake their looks
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| 1/24/2009 7:14:30 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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pirana01
Navarre, FL
age: 50
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Initially yes, the cover is what catches the eye. But then again the cover can be well illustrated and the book can be a real let down.
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| 1/24/2009 7:20:47 AM |
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countrysweet677
Bordelonville, LA
age: 48
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Initially yes, the cover is what catches the eye. But then again the cover can be well illustrated and the book can be a real let down.
or the opposite can apply the illustration may not be that pleasing on the eye but once opened and read could be a great book.
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| 1/24/2009 7:26:49 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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abnormalities3
Fort Worth, TX
age: 25
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yes looks give you a 1st impression that takes time to adjust once you get to know the person a lot better thats why you always hear comments like "hmm that guy aint such a dork as he looks" or "shes really nice! at 1st glance she seemed like a total b%#@&" 
[Edited 1/24/2009 7:27:22 AM PST]
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| 1/24/2009 7:45:07 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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barbie1108
Fort Worth, TX
age: 40
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no i do not judge a book by its cover, if i want to date someone i look at the way they treat poeple and i do not look at their looks.
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| 1/24/2009 7:52:27 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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abnormalities3
Fort Worth, TX
age: 25
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hmm then would you date me barbie??? what do i look like? 
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| 1/24/2009 8:58:02 AM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 54
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I enjoy reading in bed so after I take the book to bed . . . .
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| 1/24/2009 12:14:40 PM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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gr8ful2b
Henderson, NV
age: 44 online now!
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<--- HIS ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN HIS WORDS
Profiling is natural as is being pre-judgmental… when a gazelle sees something that appears to be a lion coming toward the watering hole it runs on instinct because things that look like lions have been known to eat its friends... that's profiling in it's most natural state - survival.
I can figure people out pretty quickly by look, mannerisms, affect and attitude pretty well based on my street smarts and by virtue of possessing a degree in psychology. But I’m not always correct and sometimes prim and proper turns out to be a front for scandalous and shady, and vice versa.
With humans it’s more often than not an incorrect assumption due to styles and culture. Not every white man with a bald head is a racist nor is every black man driving a high-end car a rapper, pro-athlete or dope dealer. In fact most men that look like me are momma’s boys and very emotional… a lot of times the exterior is a suit of armor to protect the soft insides.
I constantly fall prey to this notion of judging a book by its cover. Don’t get me wrong, there was a time in my life when I was exactly what I appear to be. But here I sit college educated, just shy of 14 years clean and sober, I vote, pay taxes – and yes I ride a Harley and am covered in tattoos, but I don’t snatch purses, go to Klan rallies, sell drugs to kids, or go out on Friday night just looking for someone to beat up because I'm bored.
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| 1/24/2009 12:22:42 PM |
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doreen1111
Brenham, TX
age: 45
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You're right and wrong! I would never put what I'm physically looking for because those are just preferences... do I have to be attracted to them no ... does he have to have salt and pepper hair (my 1st choice) no .... 
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| 1/24/2009 12:33:14 PM |
Be honest, how many of us judge a book by it's cover? |
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pisceslooking
Palmer, AK
age: 28
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of course we all do in some way, there has to be physical attraction to keep someone coming back to find out what else there is
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| 1/24/2009 4:36:29 PM |
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tokobo
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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Hey, I'm back...
So it seems my question may have been to generalized or even one sided in the sense that those of you whom state... that overall it is a persons character that you hone in on. That is nice to hear but is realistic considering you are chatting (not talking in person) over a computer. The stigma - you can be anyone you want to be on a computer is all to often the reality here in my city thus you really never know what a persons motivation is for being on-site. So let me re-direct... Is it fair to say that replying to or initiating first contact via the computer with those whom post a picture... is "ALL" based off physical attraction "first" profile second. Those without pictures you are forced to take a gamble.. now comes time for a picture exchange and physically you are not attracted... do you continue talking or find a way to end the conversations... That in its self will be a whole different question I'll save for later! Thanks for your earlier responses by the way.
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| 1/24/2009 4:49:23 PM |
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rhondadazed
Portland, OH
age: 46
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I think we all look at and admire some one thats good looking, but if you really want to find a soul mate you got dig a little deeper. my mother use to tell me when i was young,dont go to bed with a man right away. the reason is if the sex is good then you loose perspective,and think your in love,then as you get to know that person ,you might find out it was just all sexual and not even like the person. be a best friend first,the rest will follow.
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| 1/24/2009 5:17:58 PM |
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scottiscool
Mayville, WI
age: 50
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Do you Really think this site would Exist without Photos.? Sure personality goes A long way. Don't even try and say that is all that matters......
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| 1/24/2009 5:33:07 PM |
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lioness_nikki
San Diego, CA
age: 29
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Well living where I do and it's close proximity to LA (one of the shallowest places on Earth as far as looks go) I should be very picky about what I'm looking for in a man. There are countless hard-bodies to choose from in San Diego, but I learned long ago that if you bore me or have no substance, there's really no reason to bother having sex. It won't work.
Call me one of those people who can find someone totally unattractive on first glance, but after getting to know them, I may change my mind. Wit and smarts go a long way for me, as well as confidence. A person can have all the looks in the world but be a pushover or a total a**hole and it all goes out the window.
BTW: Gr8ful...psychoanalyze me. I want to see what you say. 
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