| 10/29/2007 9:55:55 PM |
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anything_goes
Mississauga, ON
age: 28
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I guess I would be a hypocrite if I said online dating is dumb, but I must say that I have lived an online dating experience for the most of my single life, and I have seen many interesting things. Let me take u into my views a little more.
Did you ever feel that no matter what, it's like you can never meet the perfect guy/girl? Well think about it, theres thousands to choose from, of course online dating is simply for the convience of finding a mate in the comfort of your own home/work without being social or having to approach the person in real life. So is it safe to say that if theres so many to choose then why are we still online searching after months, years???? SIMPLE SUGGESTION!!!! and here it goes.....
FIRST, the reason most people are unsuccessful with online dating is that either we have high expectaions from the pictures we see (which are only the very best that the partner has to show from all of his/her picture selection) So usually we get a lil mislead when it comes to matching that perfect photo to that same face in person.
SECOND, We notice that after the date, even if it went well, what happens? either he or she are back online checking his or her messages!!!! MAYBE this is because online dating is so fun and spontaneous with the excitement of seeing who's messaging us, that we always have an open mind for someone better, more attractive, etc who comes our way. This results in never being happy or satisfied, and believe me people, when it comes to life, theres no such thing as soul mates, only 2 people who do their best to work things out with eachother. So back to my second opinion, Do we really want to be with only one person, or maybe we only want to keep this habit forming lifestyle of always checking who else is out there? Think about this carefully!
Now perhaps your the person who does delete their profile as soon as they meet a person from the dating site, and only choose to get to know this person, whos to say that they will delete their account too? I feel that people today are lacking the social skills to go up to someone and ask, "Hey, I would love to take you out for lunch if your not seeing anyone?" But we make excuses that we cant meet people in our day to day lives, that we're always busy with work, school, kids to look after, mother to take care of, whatever it may be. Perhaps when it's time to meet that person in real life from a dating site, it seems that our same boring, uncreative personality joins us along and helps the date fail. But it doesn't matter does it? for we'll be back online to see who else has messaged us. The cycle goes on.
I don't believe that 2 people will truley find eachother from a dating site, regardless of your experiences or friends experiences because it only seems like people I seen on dating sites 10 years ago, are still on the dating sites and are still looking. I have canceled my accoutns and rejoined to see that people always come back, as it was another form of addiction, like drugs, smoking, or alcohol. I'm 28 and I been on dating sites since I was 18, so for the last 10 years, I can confidently say that I must have met over 500 women, ok maybe a lil less then that but whos counting anyways. Regardless, out of all the girls I met online, not one of them even came close to a match as to the ones I met in person at a bar or at work. Let's face it, how many times did u get guys messaging you no matter what they say their intentions are in the begining turn out to be wanting sex and nothing more? I'm sure all you women have experienced this, so what makes online dating any better then meeting a guy at a bar or club? no difference really, if anything, theres more guys who are sex driven on dating sites then at bars, cause it's more discreet and easier to approach without the fear of personal rejection, think about that.
Another important point! I usually believe that online dating is becoming more of a fun past time if it be for killing time, ego boost, descreet relationships, someone having an affair, or perhaps the one who's single with children to look after and cant get out. Let's face it, if you really wanted to be with someone for the rest of your lives, then it would have already happened, so then why are we still single? perhaps dating online is only pulling us farther from that dream.
[Edited 10/29/2007 10:04:45 PM]
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| 10/29/2007 10:40:00 PM |
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falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41 online now!
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Anything. That is some serious food for thought and I have to agree with alot it. I'm guess I'm just one that is using this as another avenue for meeting people. I have no real expectations. Perhaps that someone special is indeed on here, but.. maybe not. I trust that I'll meet somebody when the time is right for it. I'm not holding my breath that it's from a dating site... but who really knows?
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| 10/29/2007 10:42:38 PM |
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sumbeach763
Columbia, SC
age: 44
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Who really knows......Im new to this stuff, and I don't have the time to waste on looking over all the men out in this world....... I do chat with alot of them , but as far as dating any, I will not do this any more.....Live and learned......Good luck, but this is just for fun, now, I dont believe I'll find anyone on here.....So thats how I feel.....Beach
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| 10/29/2007 10:45:33 PM |
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metu
Dahlonega, GA
age: 46 online now!
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I guess it's a crap shoot......& I emphasize the word crap! LOL Or so I have been told!
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| 10/30/2007 7:51:27 AM |
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captainwhat
Penn Yan, NY
age: 57
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I think you can meet your future partner ANYwhere ... Uh - except at funerals where he/she is the "guest of honor." 
IMHO It's NOT the meeting of that person ... It's the getting together to see the real person and get a "chemistry check' that's difficult ... But in the end, I seriously think it can be done. (Where's the mad Scientist with test tubes icon?)
It's just a matter of reaching that point where enough E-mails and phone calls have been exchanged to satisfy each persons "inner senses" of a "face-to-face" meet being called for. Then you take it from there.
But then whadda I know. I have the IQ of a broken pencil 
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| 10/30/2007 8:01:55 AM |
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mag11
New Port Richey, FL
age: 38
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This is just one person's opinion!
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| 10/30/2007 8:13:59 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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yes....you make a lot of pretty good points there.
i'll add that for a lot of people,it is more of the chase (or hunt) or whatever you want to call it..than anything else.
to those people that are soooooooooo hung up on a pic......well.......was it at least close???????? hell......EVER have someone say to you......... ' you look different ...or.. there's something different about you..........and you saw them yesterday or last week.......... YES......we ALL have. pics........we all want to put our best forward so just be something reasonably like the photo you posted. i dont expect you to look like you just came from glamour shots and dont expect that from me either!
i think too that sometimes peple have this 'imaginary' ideal person in mind.let's face it. NOT HAPPENING!!! get it through your head!!! lets say you have 10 basic things you'd like out of your mate.out of tons of things there are as far as job,looks,backround,sense of humor etc.....etc...... you want 10. well.........thats harder than hitting the lottery!!!! DUH!!!!!! pick a few u r set on.....those deal breakers.......and you can work with the rest.
OKOK>>>>>>>>>>>>. im done ranting cause i can go on forever than i'll be called a hypocrite for being here and writing this........but i got my reasons  
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| 10/30/2007 8:16:43 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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oh.......and the phone thing.this kills me.
we all want to be a little cautious so we dont want to give out our number.........right?but (we) give it to the drunk stranger at the bar????????? urgh!!!!!
get a prepaid cell.u can go 3 months for 20 bucks. simple enough.........if you r serious
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| 10/30/2007 8:17:57 AM |
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lasttime4me
Townsend, MT
age: 60
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Yes i will find mine online, I am going to sugardaddy .com  because you don't have to post a picture or a profile, just your bank account
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| 10/30/2007 8:49:35 AM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 58 online now!
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I come to realize that the whole on-line dating scene is just a way to meet people and nothing else. You meet some really great guys but they live so far away that you know you'll never meet. And if you do it's not enough for you to be traveling back and forth or uprooting your whole life to relocate on someone you just met. It's not realistic to do so.
Now I've dated some that's close but I don't delete my profile. I'm honest and say "Yes I still chat with people who I will never meet." We talk mostly about our lives and interests
and both would wish for more but being practical is the key. If I ever met someone who I really connected to and wanted more than a casual relationship with, I would delete it in a heartbeat.
I did meet with someone who was far away and we connected in so many ways, more so for me than him. We still correspond but he didn't want a one-man/one-woman relationship. I had to say that I required it and I'm moving on, just like I know he is doing the same. Most people can't afford to travel great distances to see each other. I called him a "player" but in reality I knew he wasn't; he just wasn't into me as much as I was into him. As least not enough to commit to just me and that's practical with only two meetings with someone.
Answer your question: Doubt it!
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| 10/30/2007 8:53:44 AM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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you have a better chance of finding your future ex wife
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| 10/30/2007 8:57:28 AM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34 online now!
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i have to agree with some points uv made but, some people do meet the love of there life on these sites there may be very few but it does happen... i now that for me... i dont check my emails from anyone other than friends i have met here or people i know are friends of edz who is my very speacial someone THAT I MET HERE... nor do i even care to check whos emailing me, cause when u care about someone the way i care about edz, u just dont care about other men or women anymore, he has all that i was looking for and then some!!!when ur really "in love" NO ONE ELSE MATTERS ANYMORE OR AT LEAST TO ME ANYWAY I AM VERY LOYAL AND FAITHFUL ITS JUST ME! i just think it depends on what ur really truely looking for on this site and how willing u are to wait it out till the one does come along.. the way i look at it, is our lives are mapped out for us and sometimes we want what we want NOW but it dont always work that way.. i do know where ur comming from though... u have some great points about addiction and not being able to stay away but YOU CAN STILL STAY AND CHAT IN THE FORUMS WITHOUT PLAYING WHILE THE CATS AWAY IF U KNOW WHAT I MEAN ... it all comes down to what brought you here and how willing you are to do ur part to make it happen and when it does.... how willing ur to me it stay!!! some people are not here to find true love or commit. mabe ur here for sex, a simple date or chatting in the forums whatever it may be? if it was meant to be "IT WILL BE" just be patient, do ur part and it will come. "lots of luck to everyone" jmo
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| 10/30/2007 9:46:09 AM |
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nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 57
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The internet broadens your reach..you will come into contact with more people.
Which also means, you will find more of what you don't want as well, meaning
players, pervs etc. However that said...in my opinion it is about ATTITUDE,
and expectations...you can find someone...you can find someone who lives
further away...but what are you willing to GIVE?? What effort are you willing
to put forth? Do you have self limiting thoughts..(negative thoughts that
hold you back) like Oh, he/she won't write back I'm to far away...well how will
you know unless you try..or well I'm not pretty/handsome enough..hell beauty is
in the eye of the beholder...you will never know if you don't give it a shot.
Sometimes it means doing something out of your comfort zone..change what you
do and you will change what you get...
Butterfly, just because someone is further away does not mean it can not work.
How do you know..he might just relocate...if that person is truly Special are
you going to hold yourself back...or go for a lifetime of happiness...
I met someone special and it came all by a simple forum conversation...and because
I realized what was starring me right in the face..was every bit the women a guy
could ever want...does it mean changes..heck yes, she is over 1300 miles away..and
one month from today..I will have relocated...remember...keep doing what your doing
and keep getting what your getting...its all up to YOU..go for it...........
Good Luck to all
Paul
[Edited 10/30/2007 9:50:20 AM]
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| 10/30/2007 9:47:21 AM |
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crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 33
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hmmmmm.....
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| 10/30/2007 9:48:51 AM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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makes you wonder dont it ?
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