| 11/3/2007 10:16:54 AM |
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johncjohn
Las Vegas, NV
age: 47
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I have beautiful twin girls in college but still have to deal with their mother on occasion regarding stupid stuff she dreams up to try and see me. She knows I will respond because of my twin girls. However, we have had nothing going for over 8 years. 
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| 11/3/2007 10:20:48 AM |
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tac252
Seattle, WA
age: 43
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I know just what you mean! i have three kids and when one turned 18 and the check got a little shorter, she was freakin and tried almost anything! NOT GONNA HAPPEN! been there ,done it and thru out the tee-shirt, but she has done a great job raising the kids.
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| 11/3/2007 10:34:21 AM |
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johncjohn
Las Vegas, NV
age: 47
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tac252
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one dealing with this, Thanks. 
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| 11/3/2007 10:39:16 AM |
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tac252
Seattle, WA
age: 43
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Ya! I got three more years and i'm done payin it to her! Then i'll be able to give them money directly(well i do now anyways for extras) I feel your pain brother, it does pay off to be civil
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| 11/3/2007 11:38:05 AM |
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candelicious2u
Norlina, NC
age: 41
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i have 4 sons with my ex husband...although the yrs i spent with him was hell on earth..we r now great friends and have put all the past behind us for the sake of being civil in front of our kids...i have always been the type to encourage him to remain a part of our lives b/c it's not my sons fault that we didn't work out...so why should they have to suffer watching their parents at each other all the time...it's called maturity i think...haahahhahaaha 
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| 11/3/2007 3:28:03 PM |
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bostonx2
Avon Park, FL
age: 37
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I've just reciently seperated from my 2 boys father. He hasn't called tehm and everytime I call him and ask why, his response is well i need to get over you first. then i can talk with the boys.? He never has sent a dime to help with anything for them.
So, to the men that care about their children and provide for them finanically AND emotionally. You have all my respect!!
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| 11/3/2007 3:39:07 PM |
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johncjohn
Las Vegas, NV
age: 47
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I provided every dime in the raising of my Kids. Now that they are in College, and on their own, I still give them what they need. My issue is, I really do not need to see the X for anything, and would prefer not to. This has nothing to do with maturity, or financial responsibility. It's leave me alone and move on will you. That's where I'm coming from. 
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| 11/3/2007 3:53:25 PM |
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njlady920
Bridgeton, NJ
age: 45
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Well then just tell that , and stop responsing everytime she calls .... Your kids are old enough to have an adult relationship with their dad now , so just tell the mother that you will contact them directly from now on ....
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| 11/3/2007 4:27:09 PM |
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johncjohn
Las Vegas, NV
age: 47
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njlady920 
So when that does not work, which it was the first one a long list, then what. Is it time for a restraining order????
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| 11/3/2007 4:34:52 PM |
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lazehorses
Fordyce, NE
age: 34
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John you need a buddy chick. Every time she calls ok it with your new woman. (Well, I'm not sure, let me check with ..... )
I don't think she's done enough to get a restraining order.
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| 11/3/2007 4:50:12 PM |
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ljgiggles
Edgewater, FL
age: 28
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I can't even find my ex husband to hound him about child support. Just keep lovin your kids. My ex doesn't even call his son.
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| 11/3/2007 5:32:31 PM |
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1pinkstar
Omaha, NE
age: 55
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why oh why no Child support? Keep track of the other parent, write down addressessssss and phone numbers and sign up for help...and keep bugging your child support worker, Hound them. OR get an attorney through Legal Aid.
There is no reason a child should not have support both emotionally and financially from both parents.
Unfortunately, we cannot legislate when a parent has to spend time with their child, but we can sure make them pay for their responsibility.
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| 11/3/2007 6:26:52 PM |
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bubbadt
Kennedy, NY
age: 65
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I guess I am in another world. I begged my ex
to stay together so our kids would have both
parents. She had to have her freedom.
The problem was she divorced me because I was
a Detective in Sheriffs dept and I was gone too
much. Unless I was out of town or under cover,
I came by the house every night to kiss my kids
and tell them all I loved them. I never knew if
I would be alive to do this so I did it while I
could.
I grew up in a split situation and hated it.
As stated in another post I had custody of my
kids, My daughter was too young to be away from
her mom, but I raised my son alone. He didnt
even know his mother, she was too busy.
He took his life Christmas Morning 2005, I
often wondered if he would have been so
troubled if he had grown up as a family.
So yes, I would have put up with my, JUST
FOR MY KIDS.
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