| 2/27/2009 4:28:35 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
age: 36 online now!
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I recently found my right arm and leg are losing feeling. Sometimes they have strength sometimes not. I had back issues for years but doctors think it might be MS. I am terrified.
Is there any point in even trying to date or get to know men if this happens. Can a man get past something like that? Or is this something only a husband could bare to stay with you through? Ladies if in this situation would you just pack it up and forget about love?
I have a great sense of humor. I have been a hard worker all my life. When my back gave out and I couldn't walk I didn't give up. I got back surgery fought hard and was walking in few months. I was married through that. When back flared up again and they said I wouldn't be able to work...as single mom...I pushed myself and have kept going 5 yrs working. Not addicted to meds...did pain management techinques. Never gave up. Tolerated large amounts of pain. Suddenly can't hold a pencil or my leg will drop out from under me. Comes and goes. I want it to go away.
If MS and I end up disabled is that a sentence to be alone the rest of my life. Is it too much to expect from someone else to get past?
Please be honest but not harsh ok.
I am very frightened and sensitive right now. Thanks
I am trying to trust God has good reason for this and will turn it to good somehow.
Eimi
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| 2/27/2009 4:40:52 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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doriflubber
Jamestown, NY
age: 39
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I believe that love can overcome any barrier... and I don't know if you've heard of Joni Earickson Tada, but she became a parapalegic as a result of a diving accident in her teen years, and now she is married and has a very successful international ministry and is also an artist and author/speaker.
Don't give up hope... keep your faith in the Lord... He knows who He has in mind for you.
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| 2/27/2009 4:42:54 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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laf68
Folsom, LA
age: 40 online now!
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A dear friend of mine is now dating a women with MS. Another friend of mine has MS and dates likes she is turning the water on and off...lol It is possible for you to date. Don't sweat it. You have enough to deal with in your condition.
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| 2/27/2009 4:43:24 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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baz0987
Maple Shade, NJ
age: 45
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About the only thing I can say is There is someone out there for everyone. The problem is finding them.
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| 2/27/2009 4:48:05 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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saphyrefaery13
Greenbrier, TN
age: 33 online now!
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I certainly don't think men are so cruel that your situation would keep you from finding love. Keep in mind the ones that have a problem with it are not what you need anyway. I would also suggest checking out Montel Williams sites in your free time. He also has books out regarding how he is battling MS. He is a great inspiration and I think either his web pages or his books could help you.
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| 2/27/2009 4:48:05 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
age: 36 online now!
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A dear friend of mine is now dating a women with MS. Another friend of mine has MS and dates likes she is turning the water on and off...lol It is possible for you to date. Don't sweat it. You have enough to deal with in your condition.
Thank you. I waited five years to consider dating. Tell boys are big enough to not need me so much and then suddenly this. I am like is there any purpose in even trying now. But your right I have enough to deal with now. I started to make some great friends here that I actually thought I might date but this might be too much for anyone. Just needed input. Thank you
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| 2/27/2009 4:48:22 PM |
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boushy
Platteville, CO
age: 43
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Don't give up hope yet!! Besides...you still have a left arm and leg that work perfectly!! and apparenly a big heart to go with it!!
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| 2/27/2009 4:49:47 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
age: 36 online now!
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I will look up the book. I know very little about MS. I am fighter I won't give up. Just overwhelmed today. You had some great suggestions.
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| 2/27/2009 4:49:48 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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stlstella
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
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Oh my goodness eimi... I am so sorry.
I have a dear friend, 23, who got married last year and has 3 months to live. He knew that going in, at that time it was 6 months.
I am inspired by their love.
Yes, there is someone for everyone.
Hugs...
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| 2/27/2009 5:47:26 PM |
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stroker4u
Leesburg, FL
age: 47
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Eimilee,
When you were a little girl your dad took care of you and supplied your every need because he loved you,, you were his little girl.Well my dear you have another father, one that loves you also, now your natural dad was limited to what he could do for you but still he supplied your every need so GOD is your Father too with all his glory and power,one who can speak and it is done, one who knows whats in your future and supply your every need so what more can GOD do to where your natural father was limited GOD has no limits and he already knows your hearts desire, put not your faith in man but rather in GOD, trust in him, tell him if you want a mate and he will bless your heart (only problem I see with GOD blessing you with a mate is finding one good enough for you sweetheart)desires,GOD does not mean for us to be lonely (he had Eve for Adam), So just ask GOD for want you want and believe in your mind AND in your heart that he will bless you and I am wittness he is a loving GOD and you are his daughter, so therefore you are royalty.. And when the devil tells you that GOD is not going to bless you well that is when you can shout cause GOD is getting ready to bless you.. Please remember this when you love GOD you are never be alone...
Sorry for being so long I always get carried away when I talk about our Father
Stroker
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| 2/27/2009 7:02:54 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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sharolas
Elk Grove Village, IL
age: 39
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About the only thing I can say is There is someone out there for everyone. The problem is finding them.
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| 2/27/2009 7:12:13 PM |
Is there any hope of Love if you become Disabled? |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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There is someone for everybody.
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| 2/28/2009 9:10:49 AM |
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gyni
Norfolk, VA
age: 28
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I say this in all seriousness; I know people with mental and physical disablilites that have better luck with love than I have had...just be yourself and someone will love you.
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| 2/28/2009 9:29:59 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50 online now!
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eimi...I have been right where you are in what you are thinking.
I to figured who would want me etc... I felt unworthy..not to my full potential
then add 2 young kids to it all
I allowed myself time first to deal with my medical issue's and for a different life style to take place ..a more calm, relaxing, less stressful for me and my boys
Sure I am not the same person I was before..before I could do everything and anything which I did. There are many fun activies that I can no longer do like water ski, amusement parks,roller blading etc..
I cant take on the whole world anymore either.. and I cant fight issue's alone like I have always done. Perhaps now its time I have some help in those area's of my life where I had to tend to everything alone and be in control ..not as in controlling..(life style my hubby was always away at work gone for days)It's ok to get that help when I need it and after all now I have no choice. I had to accept that as how it is for me now..That all was a rather hard pill to swallow for me.
So I slowly did swallow and have come to the understanding that if I am not accepted for who I am now..it just doesnt matter(as far as being in a relationship)
I look at all I have had in my life all that I was capable of doing...So now its just different.. I cant be perfect. I cant be the one that has to take it all on alone anymore..and if I have to I'll keep things as they are...simple w/o complications
As we get older its good to be able to count on another to help each other out as we go..There is nothing wrong in this.
I may need help in some area's and he may need help..Together we help one another.
As it should be
Good luck and may you find peace in your soul and understandings
May you always feel worthy for the you that you are even when in pain or in struggles
*hugs*
Foxy
There will be many days of being over whelmed..remember to take time away from all of that and breathe...try to take yourself to a place where you can be calm through music,meditation,books..how ever or by what ever means you can do this..
You will need to escape in order to maintain..escaping doesnt mean running away from the problems..just a means of gaining some peace of mind and through that building the strength you need each day. Dont be afraid to say..I need time..time to think,heal and focus on what really matters in your life the most
Also try to laugh along the way..its a great healer
I learned to just let go of alot of things in order to have peace of mind
Surround yourself by who you love and what brings you comfort
[Edited 2/28/2009 9:46:58 AM PST]
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| 2/28/2009 10:05:33 AM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 39
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to the OP we all have challenges in our lives, some worse than others or just in a different arena, that we have to deal w/ and try to overcome to the best of our ability. and im very sorry to hear this is happening to u. but w/that said, it doesnt mean we arent capable of love or deserving of love. so this will be tough but it will also make u strong. and like in another thread i have posted the phrase goes "what doesnt kill u makes u stronger" and its the truth. i hope that things work out for u and u r absolutely deserving of love just as much as anyone else and dont let your spirit die. u will have a shot at love just as much as anyone else!
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