| 3/18/2009 11:37:19 AM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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What is you're take on having a one-night stand? And why?... be descriptive!!
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| 3/19/2009 5:58:27 AM |
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socalsportsfan
Valley Village, CA
age: 47
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Yeah if all I wanted was an orgasm, I can do that myself.
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| 3/19/2009 8:40:30 AM |
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uani
Los Angeles, CA
age: 52
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It doesn't work for me I like to have a emotional attachment, after all we are human beings not animals.
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| 3/22/2009 4:58:20 PM |
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mynameisjohnk
San Jose, CA
age: 28
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I have no issue with it, as long as everyone is on the same page.
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| 3/23/2009 10:06:55 AM |
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crazygroupie
Murrieta, CA
age: 56
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Yeah if all I wanted was an orgasm, I can do that myself.
Good point  
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| 3/23/2009 1:34:22 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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No self respected lady would partake in such classless behavior.
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| 3/29/2009 10:14:05 PM |
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enclosed_garden
South San Francisco, CA
age: 54
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Sadly, growing up in LA, that is mostly all I encountered. It's called "lack of commitment" and I think it sucks. It left me feeling emptier than before. 
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| 4/3/2009 7:47:54 AM |
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sunnygrl09
Redlands, CA
age: 46
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Yeah if all I wanted was an orgasm, I can do that myself.
amen sister!!!
i HAVE done one night stands, but have found out the hard way (no pun intended) that if the sex is too intense i either run in the other direction or i want it again!!! (in other words, not my thing) 
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| 4/3/2009 9:05:20 PM |
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spanishbeing
Canyon Country, CA
age: 43
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My experience with one-night stands it’s just not worth my time. Sex is so much more fun when you get to know someone and they respect you and not just look at you like a piece of meat. Who wants that? Besides the mind is the sexiest organ we got and when we connect mentally sex is so much exiting and rewarding.
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| 4/3/2009 9:12:36 PM |
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garravesh
Etna, CA
age: 38
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Not my style. When I have sex i become attached ( in a way) makes my life a trifle more difficult.
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| 4/4/2009 12:43:18 AM |
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kevman22
San Diego, CA
age: 24
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There ok if you know for a fact that the other person is clean
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| 4/4/2009 6:28:17 PM |
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cynicalcyn
Lake Arrowhead, CA
age: 52
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No self respected lady would partake in such classless behavior.
I beg to differ...I am classy, and believe there is so much to life to experience and to leave one thing out would rob us of something that could potentially be a great experience!
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| 4/4/2009 11:56:50 PM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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if u knw the person is clean and there is a mutual unerstanding of what it is i personally see nothing wrong wit it... it doesnt make a person any less ....
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| 4/5/2009 12:04:15 AM |
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wittyl
Highland, CA
age: 54
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Hey if it feels right and its mutual, rock and roll!  
Just don't beat yourself up in the mornin 
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| 4/5/2009 1:54:46 AM |
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love2luv53
Long Beach, CA
age: 48
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There are times in Life, When a person does get caught up in the moment and the result is the One Night Stand. Either way if it stays as a one time thing, Guilt or a lack of desire to repeat the act steps in. It is the wrong action to take, Because People are just not honest these days.
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| 4/5/2009 2:04:01 AM |
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wordwes
Oakland, CA
age: 28
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They are not preferred; however, if that is what both people have agreed upon. Just do not be upset the next morning...
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| 4/5/2009 11:07:50 AM |
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ajfkdem
Fresno, CA
age: 55
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Am almost 55 and have only had 2 or 3 ONS's in my life. They were mutual, so, no harm no foul. They are not satisfying for other than the instant gratification possibly derived.
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| 4/5/2009 5:11:57 PM |
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victorwashere
Bloomington, IL
age: 36
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"...It doesn't work for me I like to have a emotional attachment, after all we are human beings not animals..."
This is so true.
If this is all we've come down to expect from our partners, then we are really hollow (no pun intended!).
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| 4/5/2009 6:10:37 PM |
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lucianpoe
Imperial Beach, CA
age: 22
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One night stands are a good way of knowing that you will be drama free and will always have another day for the hunt. lol
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| 4/5/2009 9:56:29 PM |
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donx33
Hayfork, CA
age: 53
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Relives tension, Not good for my ego
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| 4/5/2009 11:30:03 PM |
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theoneinlife
La Canada Flintridge, CA
age: 22
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Well i will have to say i have never done one myself but i know everyone thinks about it once in a while. my homie has and he thinks they are kinda pointless, because sex is just sex but its way more when you can connect and have fun. He says he knows all you are going to say is that a one night stand is fun but he says that he aint talking about that kinda fun.
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| 4/6/2009 10:22:21 AM |
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starz_82
Fontana, CA
age: 28
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one night stand are great.... if u wanna get STD's... sex it great, but u have to be smart about it... at least get a friend "with benefits" so that way u get great sex more then just once... 
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| 4/6/2009 12:39:39 PM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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one night stand are great.... if u wanna get STD's ... sex it great, but u have to be smart about it... at least get a friend "with benefits" so that way u get great sex more then just once...
you can get STD's from a fwb just as easily...
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| 4/9/2009 1:41:29 PM |
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loonygoon
Palo Alto, CA
age: 20
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i think its ok when u have one its just one night
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| 4/9/2009 1:42:56 PM |
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loonygoon
Palo Alto, CA
age: 20
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thats why u have condom they mad it just for that
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| 4/9/2009 5:52:56 PM |
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bigassadmirer
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 35
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Youre right, it makes no difference how long youve known someone. One night stands are fantastic
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| 4/9/2009 11:27:24 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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I do not believe in one night stands. I think people that chose to do this has no self respect for themselves and are the ones in life that will settle for anything. I refuse to settle.
Then its the situtaions of unwanted pregenices that accures from one night stands then you see these people on talk shows saying they do not know who the father of their child (how low) then they want tax payers such as my self to take care of the unwanted kids. Not to mention it is not morally right.
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| 4/10/2009 2:11:18 AM |
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lunedeneige
South Lake Tahoe, CA
age: 48
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I dont care, if that's what both people agree on. But dont play like it's anything else. Be upfront. So that both people get the chance to decide for themselves. Don't lie or pretend just to get laid. Find a ho-baby and have at it. But dont play a good person who may want to get to know you better. Just not cool.
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| 4/10/2009 2:14:38 AM |
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lunedeneige
South Lake Tahoe, CA
age: 48
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{My experience with one-night stands it’s just not worth my time. Sex is so much more fun when you get to know someone and they respect you and not just look at you like a piece of meat. Who wants that? Besides the mind is the sexiest organ we got and when we connect mentally sex is so much exiting and rewarding}
Amen!! Work me from my head down, and I'll rock your world! My mind is what makes me the sexual beast I am. LOL. I want respect and a connection to give you my best, and my best is worth the time.
[Edited 4/10/2009 2:18:13 AM PST]
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| 4/10/2009 6:40:24 PM |
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halo66
Upland, CA
age: 43
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I do not believe in one night stands. I think people that chose to do this has no self respect for themselves and are the ones in life that will settle for anything. I refuse to settle.
Then its the situtaions of unwanted pregenices that accures from one night stands then you see these people on talk shows saying they do not know who the father of their child (how low) then they want tax payers such as my self to take care of the unwanted kids. Not to mention it is not morally right.
Wow. You're incredibly judgmental. You obviously value your self respect. Got that. But that's something each person decides for themselves. Think about that for a second.
I had no idea there were talk shows dedicated to unwanted pregnancies resulting from ONS's (accures?). But I guess one of us watches much more trash TV than the other.
I know lots of people, male and female, that have had at least 1 ONS. I don't classify them as lacking in any way. In fact, they are incredible people, and likely have discovered more about themselves as a result.
BTW, a One Night Stand is defined as follows:
"a single, unrepeated sexual encounter, as one lasting for just one night."
This can be the case between life long friends, acquaintances, neighbors, roommates etc. Not necessarily between strangers, and not necessarily a sordid event. Follow?
Oh, Oasis is playing...."Get off your high horse, lady..." Great song.
OP, I'm not into ONS's, as I only have sex that lasts longer than one night!
Happy Easter!
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| 4/12/2009 12:00:05 AM |
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melbee
Rancho Cordova, CA
age: 29
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It's been a while. I was married and when my husband and I divorced he was always coming back around and so I made use of him. I was getting what he never gave me in the marraige and I had to take it. But it did feel good to get it and not have to be conected to him after. He would come over, I would give him a good licking if you get me drift, and then he would bend me over and I got exactly what I wanted then. He really was a prick though cuz while we were maried he was unable to please. 
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| 4/12/2009 8:30:02 AM |
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socalsportsfan
Valley Village, CA
age: 47
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that's not a ONS....that's a FWB
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| 4/12/2009 7:05:30 PM |
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lr1
West Sacramento, CA
age: 56
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It's okay to have a one night stand as long as you can stand the one night
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| 4/12/2009 11:30:21 PM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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i am a classy lady and i love one night stands. no ties and no commitments. you can let yourself go and be wild for just one night and not feel like (oh my god now i have to face him about my actions) but to each his own. just don't forget to protect yourself.
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| 4/13/2009 6:08:19 PM |
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cook8163
Azusa, CA
age: 23
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Hey if your both looking for only that then I say go with it... However, guys lie alot about meeting women, so its better if women arent easy on the 1st few dates, dont let the guy sweet talk you... Im not saying all guys are like this, just be careful... life would be easier if we were all just honest... lol... but then again, thats why life isnt easy, LOL
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| 4/13/2009 6:26:15 PM |
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explorer6063
Temple City, CA
age: 45
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1-nite stands are sooo 80`s ! Been there done that.... more times than I`d like to admit.
After being in a couple long term realtionships, I am now looking for quality.
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| 4/13/2009 10:57:32 PM |
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mainromain
San Pedro, CA
age: 56
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"1-nite stands are sooo 80`s ! "
lol,lol try 40's 50's 60's 70's
now I don't know about the 90's or the 00's I was married during that time, but what I have observed from afar, seems like not much has changed with human behavior, especially when mixed with alcohol
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| 4/15/2009 5:37:52 PM |
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imjstmee
Rancho Cucamonga, CA
age: 19
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i dont like one nite stands bkuz it jst ends up leaving u feeling used and lonely in tha end.
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| 4/15/2009 7:02:46 PM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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i dont like one nite stands bkuz it jst ends up leaving u feeling used and lonely in tha end.
If you end up feeling that way, its because you are not mature enough to handle what comes with making that decision, a ONS is simply that, two people using one another...
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| 4/17/2009 1:38:15 AM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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i agree. you must already understand the rules of ONS's before you do it.ladies never have a ONS if you hope it will go further than just that one night. you will regret it in the morning.
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| 4/17/2009 2:10:09 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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i am a classy lady and i love one night stands. no ties and no commitments. you can let yourself go and be wild for just one night and not feel like (oh my god now i have to face him about my actions) but to each his own. just don't forget to protect yourself.
I have to disagree with you having a one night stand is far from being classy or behaving such as a lady should my motto is ~Always a Lady~
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| 4/17/2009 3:27:09 PM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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I have to disagree with you having a one night stand is far from being classy or behaving such as a lady should my motto is ~Always a Lady~
how does a ONS take away from a lady's class? if she made the mutual decision to be with someone that feels the way she does... i dont see you're logic
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| 4/17/2009 4:35:58 PM |
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wordwes
Oakland, CA
age: 28
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I agree w/ Baylatina...As long as the feelings are mutual.
[Edited 4/17/2009 4:36:23 PM PST]
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| 4/17/2009 6:00:31 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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A lady with class and dignity carrys themseleves with the upmost respect. Having an ONS shows poor choice of decisions. A woman with class and diginty and self respect would not partake in such behavior because she would know that having sex or being intimate, having children prior to marriage would be consided as having very low morals and self respect and classless. I know your parents raised you that you do not have sex before marriage plain and simple. And when you do partake in theses behaviors there are consequences and they usually do not turn out well but those consequences are more likely to happen when you do not live your life the way God intended.JMO
~Beautiful~
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| 4/17/2009 9:27:01 PM |
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socalsportsfan
Valley Village, CA
age: 47
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So to have a ONS is now a religious thing? I don't quite understand that. I personally don't like one night stands, but I don't see how God (or even Goddess) has anything to do with it.
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| 4/18/2009 1:02:42 AM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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So to have a ONS is now a religious thing? I don't quite understand that. I personally don't like one night stands, but I don't see how God (or even Goddess) has anything to do with it.
You are not paying attention. Being imamate with anyone beside your spouse is a sin. This would include one night stands, friends with benefits, and casual sex need I say more?
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| 4/18/2009 1:08:15 AM |
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hcb1234
Redding, CA
age: 44
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Having a one night stand is very dangerous....
You dont know this person...
They may have an std
Or they may be violent
They could be phsycotic ( hope I spelled that right )
I have never had a one night stand
Have had a fwb.......Although my friends say he was really my boyfriend..
It just isnt safe or smart to sleep with someone you just met
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| 4/18/2009 6:26:50 AM |
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socalsportsfan
Valley Village, CA
age: 47
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You are not paying attention. Being imamate with anyone beside your spouse is a sin. This would include one night stands, friends with benefits, and casual sex need I say more?
It's only a sin if you're Christian......that's what I was trying to get accross.....
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| 4/18/2009 9:58:24 AM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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It's only a sin if you're Christian......that's what I was trying to get accross.....
No problem sweetie. I am a Christian and I am human. I sin like everyone else but I do try to live my life the way God intended. Have an unbelievable weekend.
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| 4/18/2009 3:43:02 PM |
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baylatina
Pittsburg, CA
age: 24
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A lady with class and dignity carrys themseleves with the upmost respect. Having an ONS shows poor choice of decisions. A woman with class and diginty and self respect would not partake in such behavior because she would know that having sex or being intimate, having children prior to marriage would be consided as having very low morals and self respect and classless. I know your parents raised you that you do not have sex before marriage plain and simple. And when you do partake in theses behaviors there are consequences and they usually do not turn out well but those consequences are more likely to happen when you do not live your life the way God intended.JMO
~Beautiful~
For one you're giving an opinion based on religion. Putting religious beliefs to side I don't see how my morals or class are any less because I decide to have protected sex with someone. My morals are high and as a non active christian I do have the belief and understanding that my choices idealy aren't those of which God would approve, but that doesn't mean I'm any less of a lady and you're judging off of a decision someone made and not the person as a whole.
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| 4/19/2009 10:03:37 AM |
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jerry1986
Vista, CA
age: 24
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I have never really had a one night stand so I can't truthfully claim to be an authority on it, but if I were to ever engage in one I would hope it would be with somebody I know like a close friend or something because although I have desires like any other man does the logical part of me just isn't comfortable with inviting someone I don't know into my bed.
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| 4/20/2009 2:34:07 AM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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if your always a lady in bed than your missing out on a lot my sister
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| 4/20/2009 2:41:07 AM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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thank you. many of us woman know are will learn that men want a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed.what you do behind closed doors does not reflect on how you carry yourself around others and in public. i am very much a respectable woman but i know how to get my freak on.
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| 4/20/2009 2:55:02 AM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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if you put God in this topic than we must all understand that sin is sin. no one sin is greater than another and we all fall short. you see we all sin, even you. you may think that by not having sex and calling yourself a lady means that are closer to God or your better than someone who does have sex. well, sorry, i have to disagree.
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| 4/22/2009 12:04:41 PM |
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bob92637
Laguna Woods, CA
age: 62
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Like Opera or Baseball or Formula One Racing, one-night stands are all a matter of preference, taste, timing, and tolerance. Any of the above are OK in moderation, just don't let your life revolve around them. There are other forms of art, sports, racing, and intimacy to be sampled and enjoyed before you settle down to a favorite (such as a committed relationship and/or marriage). 
Over a long and mostly fantastic life, I have loved and been loved many times in varying degrees of intensity.  All were wonderful for a while, most ended well enough. Many have been immortalized in verse. Some lasted many years, others only hours. If I were to prejudge a potential relationship based upon some long-term selection criteria, I would have lost out on many opportunities to know, experience, and love some wonderful women.
In my youth, one-night stands were a natural way of life. I've had dozens of them (more, actually). Only one or two ended poorly. Long-term relationships tend to end much worse than ONS's. The best ONS is where neither has an agenda or long-range goal, but is open to the future. If the morning is still great, it's nice to know that what started as a ONS may develop into something deeper. If on the other hand, you end up with a coyote date, well no harm--no foul.
On the other hand, some ONS's are established from the git-go as once and only once, and I see merit in those as well. They are usually not as satisfying as open-ended first-nights, but just because a local production may not be up to a Broadway run, there is much that may be gained from even momentary intimacy--even with someone who, in the end, may only be a pleasant alternative to masturbating. The key is honesty and establishing up front that both are on the same page as to future expectations.
That said, for the most part, I've outgrown ONS's and much prefer to find someone to grow, travel, and share life's wonders with. My larger head has now taken precedence over his smaller and friendlier companion, yet both need exercise--and ONS's are far healthier that jumping into a relationship that is not right for one or both of you--just to exercise Junior. 
So, if some hot lady were to say to me, "I want you for tonight and only tonight" I would have no problem responding, "My place or yours?"--assuming I wasn't already involved with someone else at the time.
The bottom line is, if they work for you, then enjoy!
If they don't, abstain. 
Neither has the right to judge the other. 
bob
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| 4/23/2009 5:21:08 PM |
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10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 44
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Prefer not to , as it only messes with her mind.
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| 4/24/2009 8:41:59 AM |
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blue40rider
Montclair, CA
age: 41
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Bob you said a mouth full and i couldn't agree more. with that, enough said!!!
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| 4/24/2009 11:01:43 AM |
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alan272
East Helena, MT
age: 52
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Yeah if all I wanted was an orgasm, I can do that myself.
Could you be more specific?
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| 4/24/2009 1:03:03 PM |
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10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 44
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Thats funny Alan....
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| 4/24/2009 5:52:44 PM |
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socalsportsfan
Valley Village, CA
age: 47
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Could you be more specific?
I could.....but I'm not going to I'm not giving details on this open forum 
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