lacy1
Canandaigua, NY
age: 48
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My question is to find out how long folks think it should be, before meeting someones parents after starting to date?
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74d_instructor
Hudson, NH
age: 42
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Usually, meeting the parents is an indicator that the relationship is going to be long term. Given that, I wouldn't expect to meet the parents, sibs, etc. until at least a month (under best conditions) into a relationship.
JMO
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lacy1
Canandaigua, NY
age: 48
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Thank you 74d, I have a friend who was seeing someone for almost two years and
never got introduced to his kids or parents while he was going through his divorce. should have been a red flag huh?
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newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 42
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Not necessarily.
I am still in the process of my divorce and I will not introduce anyone I were dating (if I were dating) atm to my children. If it were someone that I thought could turn into a serious ltr I would not want my children associating him with the divorce in any way. Besides, as my ex has been avidly introducing his married gf to our children throughout the separation process I don't feel (nor do the children's therapist feel) that it would be in their emotional best interests to then try to assimilate a new partner for me at the same time.
JMO
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sneakypeak
Oak Hill, WV
age: 42
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< agrees with all above.
It just depends on who's involved. Are there children? Possibly other party is not real close to their parents, etc. etc. Ya just gotta go with your gut instinct on that one I think.
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karilynn
Oxford, MI
age: 43
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I'm not worried about my parents as much as I am about the kids. I too am not introducing the children to anyone until I feel that they (the kids) are ready and that this person won't be rushing out of my life any time soon. When the time comes, I will do it with keeping my children's feelings in mind.
As for dating, I try to keep it to the weekends the kids are at dad's except for at this moment, the kids won't go to dad's because of the girlfriend he is living with (who has never had children). Apparently my son and daughter don't care for her or how he acts when he is with her. I just try and be supportive to them and I keep in mind that some of what they are feeling is most likely in spite of the divorce.
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