11/12/2007 8:26:26 AM |
I'd like to discuss the "art of listening" to others |
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mystical012
Jupiter, FL
age: 55
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Hello everyone! I'm Mystical and new to online dating. This is the first time that I've gotten enough nerve to participate in a forum. My husband passed away last year on June 1, 2006 after battling colon cancer for 4 years. I am ready to start seeing people and a friend of mine suggested I try online dating. I realize that sometimes people are a little nervous when first meeting others but I'm having a hard time finding someone who understands and knows the importance of listening. I come from a very successful marriage and my husband and I always listened to and respected each other's opinion. When carrying on a conversation, I try to be courteous and listen with interest to the other person. I enjoy talking myself but try not to constantly interrupt. I wait until I can talk without interrupting another person's train of thought. However, I am running into men who will talk, talk, talk and who are inconsiderate when I try to speak. I like gregarious fun-loving people but I also like people who are courteous. I wonder if this online thing is causing people to forget how to communicate with others when they are face-to-face or when they are on the telephone. Can I get someone to comment on this? Am I the only one who is experiencing this phenomenon?
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11/12/2007 9:18:13 AM |
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colings400
Spokane, WA
age: 53
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Hi Mystical Well i am not an epert by any means but i too like yourself came here via the widow route . I have found its more that i am so used to being intune with my partner and now meeting new people i do struggle a bit with communication.I cant really put it into words but there is a difference to dating these days .Is it from internet who knows . It might just be as simple as a lack of manners ..Hope you fing your someone Colin
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11/12/2007 9:35:01 AM |
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datein
Avon Park, FL
age: 61
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I hope you enjoy this DH some of the people are very nice. If you have a problem most of the people will listen to you and give you advice if you need any. Welcome to you hope you have a good time and meet alot of people. Rita
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11/12/2007 10:04:57 AM |
I'd like to discuss the "art of listening" to others |
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mystical012
Jupiter, FL
age: 55
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I'd like to thank both Colin and Rita for their warm welcome to me to this site. I very much appreciate it. I started reading the forum a few days ago when I joined and thought that I might meet some really good people here and you've proven me right. Thank you so much for your greeting and welcome.
Hey Rita! I grew up in Avon Park. Graduated from Avon Park High School in 1969. Haven't been there for many years. How are you girl friend!
[Edited 11/12/2007 10:07:18 AM]
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11/12/2007 10:07:15 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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very sorry for your loss.
i think you hit it.some people just don't listen.they are already past whatever u are talkin about and gettin on to the next.whatever happened to patience and courtesy. i'm slow so it works for me.if you actually listen,you can pickup on a lot that you wont otherwise. good luck
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11/12/2007 10:14:08 AM |
I'd like to discuss the "art of listening" to others |
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mystical012
Jupiter, FL
age: 55
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Thanks Wiley, you're right. There is so much that you can learn from listening. As you can probably tell from my post, I really do enjoy interacting with others but I'm old school and being courteous is part of who I am. I know how to enjoy myself as well. I'm not at all stuck up. However, I do know how to be a friend and a friend knows how to listen. If you don't take the time to listen to them, how do you expect to get to know someone? It's a 2-way street. No one should expect a captive audience.
[Edited 11/12/2007 10:31:09 AM]
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11/14/2007 7:26:43 AM |
I'd like to discuss the "art of listening" to others |
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realhipp
Milledgeville, GA
age: 54
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Hello.my name is Henry Green I would love to talk with you just to have a conversation.
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