cottagebithec
Utica, NY
age: 60
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Just went through a new "hardest thing". My daughter gave birth to her third child on October 29th... after two miscarriages and a difficult pregnancy during which I was worried about her and the baby.
At 2:30p as I drove to the hospital, I was anxious, afraid and joyfully expectant, all at the same time. During that drive... how I longed not to be alone!
I've always thought of myself as independent and self sufficient. But I realized during that drive to the hospital that I need someone to share the sorrows and joys of my life with. I wanted "him" to be there during that frantic drive and in the waiting room when I came out to tell him all was well.
During my first marriage, I lived like a "single parent" taking on all the responsibility. Although, an unhappy marriage, it gave me the ability to be independent and self sufficient when I left after nearly 30 years.
My second marriage gave me love and support in all the ways it was missing in the first. So I've "looked at love from both sides now" and truly feel that gap inside, because it was filled for a too brief wonderful time and I know what I am missing, therefore know what I need and want now.
What about you?
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61sunshine
North Augusta, SC
age: 61
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Cottage,
I guess I have been blessed that both marriages were very good. I have had two men in my life that gave me everything I needed to be happy. I find it hard being alone. My last husband was only 55 and when we met I thought we were getting another chance at life as he had also lost his wife. I hope one day to be able to understand it all. The experiences in life are so much more enjoyable when shared.
I hope you are able to find that special someone to share with again. I'm not sure I ever will. Someone told me recently I need to lower my standards but that will never happen. I will not trade morality just to have someone to be with. The men I meet seem to all want much more than companionship . Can't believe the # of guys my age that think you are ready to fall into bed with them . Oh well........What's meant to be will be...
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