| 5/17/2009 12:22:21 AM |
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marlene1105
Citrus Heights, CA
age: 50
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I know this is going to sound really naive; however, here it is:
Do you think anything is wrong with having the person over to your home for the first
meeting/date (I hate the word "date")? I feel so much more comfortable having someone in my home instead of meeting them at a coffee shop, restaurant or bar. It is my comfront zone. I realize that it is not the safest place to meet someone, but my neighbors are home and they can hear me screem! Do you think guys get the wrong impression? Also, I feel uncomfortable having the guy pay for everything, even if it is just a c*cktail or a cup of coffee. A lot of guys think they are being scammed for a dinner and/or drink, With that being said, that is the main reason why I would just rather have them come to my home. I welcome you comments.
Thanks!
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| 5/17/2009 12:25:06 AM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48
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I never have anyone over for a first date as I am not at that point sure that I want this person to know where I live. What if you meet him and he is not at all what you think; as far as paying, you can specify before the date that you would prefer to go dutch if that is the case. Everyone has to do what they are comfortable with but I don't think this is a good idea. jmo
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| 5/17/2009 12:26:27 AM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
age: 34
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Well then I know the man for you. I dont feel comfortable with it personally. There are too many weirdos on here. BUt hey its your life.
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| 5/17/2009 12:43:45 AM |
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irresistiblered
Broomfield, CO
age: 44
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Then what are you gonna do if you don't wanna see him again and he is there, knocking on your door 24/7???
Boy...this is disaster written all over it.
And about the paying for dinner thing...why not??? Thre is nothing wrong with him being a gentleman. He has invited you. Hasn't he?
You can be a lady in return and let him choose a place, so he can watch his budget.
A cup of coffee is only $2.99 at the most.
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| 5/17/2009 12:49:29 AM |
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vanir
Victoria
Australia
age: 39
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Live a little. Go about everything in your own original way. Do things in the manner you are most comfortable. Be yourself.
So you may need to take out the occasional restraining order. But hell, you could get that meeting at the local supermarket and finding someone who wants to stalk you there. Screen a little, but meet where you want. Best way to feel open to the potential relationship.
This whole "technique is the key" approach to dating is a load of crap. If anything it pretends you are someone you are not, by using the methods you wouldn't, to meet someone you're not interested in.
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| 5/17/2009 12:50:12 AM |
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caky
Walton, KY
age: 48
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I know this is going to sound really naive; however, here it is: Do you think anything is wrong with having the person over to your home for the first meeting/date (I hate the word "date")?
Please take the time to visit the following website that offers very sound "meeting in person" tips.
http://www.onlinedatingtips.org/dating_tips/first_meeting.html
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| 5/17/2009 12:58:25 AM |
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beu24
Beverly Hills, CA
age: 50
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Yes, it is wrong never let anyone in your home you do not know. You were taught this as a child and you taught your children this. Utilize this as common sence.
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| 5/17/2009 1:41:51 AM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
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No, no, no, and hell no.
This has rape written all over it.
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| 5/17/2009 4:39:27 AM |
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hrlydvdsndrgn
Port Orange, FL
age: 47
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NO NO NO
There are too many weirdos IRL ,not just on the internet.
I have had 2 women stalk me and a few unmentioned significant others show up at my home(that was fun times).
It's a sad state of affairs when you realize that we have to protect ourselves and most definitely our families.
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| 5/17/2009 4:41:51 AM |
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darton
Greensburg, PA
age: 53
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Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 5/17/2009 4:54:23 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 44
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I recommend that you don't have a first meeting in your home. No matter how nice the guy seems online, he could be totally wacko for all you know. Meet in public, like over lunch or something, in an area full of people. Guys are usually horny just by the blessing of Nature; if you invite him right up into your crib, well, heck yeah he'll get the idea that you're all comfy and he might as well take his shot...wouldn't you if you had a penis?!?
As for the neighbors hearing you scream...well, if you hit it off, maybe later... (j/k!!)
[Edited 5/17/2009 4:54:46 AM PST]
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| 5/17/2009 5:04:17 AM |
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meme1959
Houston, TX
age: 49
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NO WAY !! That is just to risky !! Always meet them some place else !!! It is just to dangerous to risk that, and like a few have said what if he keeps showing up, and you really don't want him too.. Lots of 911 calls ahead and might should consider buying a gun too, ya may need it if 911 can't get there quick enough ! No No No !!! That's just how I feel..
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| 5/17/2009 5:14:29 AM |
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suzeq103
Mays Landing, NJ
age: 53
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This is not a good idea. I don't even give me real name until I've corresponded and/or talked to someone for a while. Meet in a public place and let someone know where you are going and when you arrive home after a meet this is not in your neighborhood. I agree with what everyone is saying about bringing a man to your home on the first date. It sets and expectation, whether or not you wish to take it to another level. Please use good sense and keep yourself and your home safe.
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| 5/17/2009 5:46:15 AM |
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happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 43
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You're right. It is naive. I've never had anyone to my house for a first meeting even if they begged. My first meetings have always been at the mall, restaurant, walking trail, where there are people around. And again, go with your gut instinct which is guys do get the wrong impression if you invite them over to your house for a first meeting. That's like inviting a guy to a hotel room after your first dinner together. What do you think his thoughts are going to be?
There's just too many things that could go wrong if you meet at your house. Again, follow your gut instinct cause i know your gut instinct is advising you against it and you're posting this thread to get confirmation from others that its okay against what your gut tells you.
As for paying for dinner, maybe you can suggest that you go dutch. I always think that on the first date, its okay for a guy to pay if he offers or if he does the inviting. And if you continue to have 2nd or 3rd dates, I always offer to pay every other time.
SO my final say on this is DONT DO IT!
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| 5/17/2009 5:48:11 AM |
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honestami
Ravenna, OH
age: 53
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Hell No!!!
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