| 11/27/2007 2:58:30 PM |
My daughter is driving me nuts with her selfishness... |
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nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 58
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I posted this in the 50 plus forum, but I am curious how many folks
have had this problem.
Many on this site know that I have met someone special and plan on relocating
to oklahoma...my Daughter was ok with the fact that I met someone, but when
she found out I was leaving the area...she claims that my woman is stealing me
away from her and the grandkids..that I am abandoning them...
What frustrates me, is I would think she would have been happy for me, knowing
how rotten my past marriage was...and that over the years I have always been there
for her, taking her family in during tough, times and always giving when needed.
Personally I think she will just miss my being readily available, babysitting,
and running errands for her. For once in my life I just want to do something
for myself...She claims I am being selfish...and heck for ONCE in my life, I
want to be selfish...to do for me.... it is frustrating 
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| 11/27/2007 3:00:47 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36 online now!
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you are right on your thoughts. i'll add that she will probably MISS you very much.that can be scary too.she has to blame something. dont take it personal cause it hard for her.
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| 11/27/2007 3:12:31 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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nicknoname, your daughter is probably just afraid of changes..I would hope that she is happy for you, and she probably is, but having you leave will affect her life too. Maybe kinda like cutting the cord, so she will be more on her own now. Nothing wrong with that. I don't think it's selfish of you. You are both adults leading your own lives. Be happy, and once the newness settles down, she will hopefully accept your move and be happy for you. good luck!
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| 11/27/2007 3:27:51 PM |
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mr_passion_2009
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
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well just think if she was spoil and the only kids you have and daddy is the only name she knows
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| 11/27/2007 3:35:52 PM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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she needs to understand that it's now "your time" to go and enjoy your life, she will have to get over it and be happy for you. you deserve happiness so i think she will eventually come around. good luck!!
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| 11/27/2007 3:53:13 PM |
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pirate72
Clinton, IN
age: 35
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Actually, you ARE being selfish, Nick. Oh, don't get upset! In this case, it's a GOOD kind of selfish. Stormy's right, you've done your job raising her, and now it's "you" time. She's a big girl...she can take care of herself and her kids.
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| 11/27/2007 4:33:27 PM |
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kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 37
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She probably is just trying to adjust to the change, missing you and all. You have been a big part of her life, taking her in, helping her and all. She's going to miss you. Maybe she'll visit you, like it, and stay in oklahoma. You never know, change can be good. Enjoy your life! We only get one!
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| 11/27/2007 4:47:28 PM |
My daughter is driving me nuts with her selfishness... |
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pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 47
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Nick, you have the right to find happiness so go for it. I have a similar problem with my 11 year old daughter. Only she doesn't like me seeing anyone. Kids can be tough on a relationship sometimes. Good luck.
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| 11/27/2007 7:04:46 PM |
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nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 58
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Just want to say thanks to all...sounds like I am not the only
one with similar situation....appreciate your support
Paul
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| 11/27/2007 8:04:28 PM |
My daughter is driving me nuts with her selfishness... |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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I say go for the happiness and follow your heart. I know how selfish kids can be even the grown ones and I swear to you if I get another chance to have that happiness in life again I am going to go for it so follow your heart. enjoy life and god bless you 
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| 11/27/2007 8:09:52 PM |
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oldcarman
Mount Airy, NC
age: 40
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When my wife and I first split and I started dating a few months later my 15 year old son was cool with it, but when his mom started a relationship with a man he went off his rocker. Teenagers are almost as hard to understand as women.
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| 11/27/2007 8:15:28 PM |
My daughter is driving me nuts with her selfishness... |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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Hey we aren't that hard to understand are we hehe that just makes life interesting
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| 11/27/2007 8:21:18 PM |
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libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 53
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She will miss you and you will miss being with your grandchildren. But you need to do what you want in your life..You deserve to be happy as well. Perhaps you could make plans to meet half way or so in the future so she has a time line when you will be able to see each other again. Sometimes that doesn't make it seem so scary. What else is cool is if you both get a web cam so you can see and talk with one another. Good luck and be happy!
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